'I can't believe you didn't visit me in the hospital': A Man Refuses to Visit His Girlfriend in the Hospital After Five Years of Dating, Revealing the Truth About Their Relationship

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    r/stories il y a 8 m. i_am_01 I think my boyfriend is lying about his divorce. Venting I (42F) and my boyfriend (48M) have been together for five years. We met online, something I had never thought I would try, but at the time, I had been single for many years and my sister had recommended it to me. I was reluctant at first. She kept telling me how she had found many dates through this website and that it would be perfect for me as I'm always busy working so I could just use it in my free time o
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    When we met for coffee that day, Carl told me that he had just gotten a divorce from his wife (46F) of many years who he has one daughter (25F) with. I was fine with this, I'm not really the jealous type of person and he had assured me that he was ready to move on and that their relationship had been dying for ages. The first date went well and after a few more successful dates, he asked me to be his girlfriend. I was over the moon as I really liked Carl. I have always been very passionate about
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    Carl told me that he was always free on a Tuesday which happened to align perfectly with my work schedule as I didn't work on Monday or Tuesday nights. He started coming over to my house every single Tuesday, pretty much every single week since and that was five years ago.
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    Here's where it starts to get a little bit weird though. Since we agreed to see each other on Tuesdays, Carl has come to my house every single Tuesday 11am-3pm but refuses to see me any other day and out of that time frame. He has always arrived perfectly on time at 11am and always left promptly at 3pm - no exceptions. As well as this, every single time he comes over, he brings this tiny, dirty chihuahua along with him. Well last week, I found out that this dog he has been bringing ng belongs to
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    Anyways, a couple years ago I got the dreaded call that my dad died. I was absolutely distraught as he was my biggest supporter and was always there for me. I asked Carl if he would come to the funeral with me but he refused as the funeral was being held on a Sunday and not during his allotted time to to see me, Tuesdays 11am-3pm. Of course I was upset by this but eventually, I convinced myself that he was probably just busy. Fast forward another year, I had become very sick and I had ended up i
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    The final reason that made me think my boyfriend may be cheating on me with his ex wife was last month at his daughters wedding. The wedding was to be held in Italy and the plan was for Carl and his ex-wife to fly out there together four days before the wedding and for me to fly out by myself a day before the wedding. Carl's daughter had rented out a huge, luxurious villa for close family and friends to stay in before and after the wedding. I thought this was perfect - I have never spent the nig
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    On top of this, I have never been to Carl's house, in fact, I don't even know where he lives and he has me blocked on all of his social media. I can only contact him on what's app. I think Carl may have been lying to me when we first met about his divorce to his wife. I'm starting to get the impression that he is actually having an AFFAIR with me and cheating on his wife. He's so secretive with me and appears to still have a lot of contact with her. Or maybe they decided to rekindle their relati
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    EDIT Thank you everyone for your helpful insight and comments, I have been trying to read through them all. For all those saying this story isn't real, I can assure you that it 100% is, obviously now I am having severe doubts about him and what he has told me I'm realising how stupid I looked in this relationship. Some of you don't seem to realise that when you're truly in love you really don't want to lose that person. For those offering helpful advice thank you. I have a plan in place for when
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    messy_thoughts47 . -8 m. Oh, sweetheart. Even if he's not having an affair/already married, he wasn't there for you when you needed him most: when your father died and when you were hospitalized. He didn't want to share a room with you - his supposed significant other - in Italy. These three things by themselves are more than enough to call it quits. Add in that he's blocked you from his socials? You're not crazy. As to what you should do - my advice is to block him. And refuse to answer the doo
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    DTforPorsche • -8 m. I used to do this in my 20s with my girlfriends. Had them on set schedules and never deviated. Truth be told, they all found out about each other and set me up to meet them all so they could confront me. In the end it came out but 2 of 3 (went on a bunch of crazy dates with them) stuck it out with me. It only took them a couple of months to figure it all out though. 86 Répondre ↑ Partager ... Minemine_mine • -8 m. So that's pretty awful 33 ☐ Répondre ↑ Partager xResilientEve
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    Nostra SkolMus . -8 m. Oh honey... 86 Répondre ↑ Partager ... Tasty Yellow 1330 • -8 m. There was never a divorce.
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    GlobalBox4116 . -8 m. 5 years and he never invited you to his home?
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    muskito02 . -8 m. Jesus Christ... how could you be so innocent?
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    k_b_4-8 m. You spend 4 hours together a week. That alone for 5 years?! That would be enough for me ☆ 17 ♡ Répondre ↑ Partager Banana BoatRope • -8 m. Yeah, I want to be with my partner as much as possible. Miss me with 4hrs a week
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    BowserBoss64 . -8 m. Keep it going. Get yourself a real boyfriend and keep this guy as a side piece lol. The arrangement is already set in stone! Make lemonade ya know! 11 Répondre ↑ Partager ***
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    LalalaLastarrrrrr -8 m. He's married, you are his side piece. You are crazy for even entertaining this situation for so long. You should block him and move on with your life.
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    LowKeyLoki86 -8 m. Girl what?! You are justified in being concerned. Stop ignoring your gut. It feels off bc it is. He's clearly still married and not as slick as he thinks he is. That's awful! The wedding, the hospital stay, the strict tiny schedule, all of it! You deserve so much more. What does he say when you ask to come over or about his place? Why hasn't he spent Monday night over? What would you think if a friend told you this? Please try to reread your post like someone else wrote it.
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    Lumpy_Magazine_4559 . -8 m. How can a well educated woman believe that this is even what a relationship looks like or that it's ok to be treated this way
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    SupermarketSpiritual -8 m. INFO: Were you actually invited to his daughter's wedding or were you to just hang out in Italy until he had free time to sight see, etc? That is the only detail here that doesn't make rock solid sense that he's with his wife still. He was going to bring you around his family at such an important milestone for them. Was this your introduction to everyone? Obviously you should move on without him. I am so sorry for your pain.
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    MrBOrk -8 m. Listen, you should end this relationship, there are other people out there for you who will treat you with respect. Once you know it's over in your head, but before you break up with him, reach out to his wife to confirm. I wouldn't get vindictive at all, but just so you have that piece of mind. that guy for playing you for 5 years and not even having the decency to be straight up with you. I hope his wife gets piased but it's possible she knows about you already seeing as though he

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