Husband Confronts Gold Digging Wife After She Demands Father-In-Law Finance Her Extravagant Lifestyle

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    When I was 20 I got a girl pregnant. It was an accident. My dad was again very supportive. After my daughter was born my dad allowed me to move out and live at one of his other houses. He hired a nanny and maids to help me care for my daughter. He also paid for every expense related to my daughter. He never actually gave me money for this but whenever my daughter needs anything I call my dad and he will provide it. This has continued until today that my daughter is 16. My dad spoils her with eve
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    AITA for not backing up my wife?
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    I have a disability which makes me unable to work or study. I could hardly graduate high school and college wasn't even an option and I just couldn't have a job. Lucky for me I was born in a very wealthy family and I have a supprotive dad. He gave me a simple job at one of his businesses and he pays me 40K which I believe is very generous because I basically do nothing.
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    When I was 20 I got a girl pregnant. It was an accident. My dad was again very supportive. After my daughter was born my dad allowed me to move out and live at one of his other houses. He hired a nanny and maids to help me care for my daughter. He also paid for every expense related to my daughter. He never actually gave me money for this but whenever my daughter needs anything I call my dad and he will provide it. This has continued until today that my daughter is 16. My dad spoils her
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    with everything she wants and needs. I have never spent a penny on her because my dad takes care of everything. Anyway, a few years ago I met the love of my life, she has 2 kids (16, 13) from a previous relationship. We got married a few months ago and they moved in with us. The problem is that my kid and hers have very different lifestyles because my dad pays for my daughter's luxury lifestyle while I can't afford the same for my stepkids.
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    A few weeks ago my wife decided to confront my dad about the favoritism and how differently he treats the kids and asked him to start treating them all equally. My dad got really angry and started yelling at her saying things like "how dare you say that when you are living rent free at my house and driving my car and I support one of your kids and now you expect me to pay for your other kids?"
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    I apologized to my dad and told him that I appreciate everything he has done for me and my daughter and I don't expect anything else from him. When we left my wife started crying saying I should have backed her up because this is so unfair to her kids. She called me an a ole
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    • forgeris 21 hr. ago Insults and other c p aside your dad has no obligation to help your wife or your step- children especially when you just married recently, so any demands from your wife are just entitled and unreasonable - in-laws should want to help, they are not obligated. Are you sure she married you and not your dads money because of how she acts out.
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    In general you should back your wife but she also can't just talk to your dad about finances without asking your opinion first, so did she ask about it before confronting your dad? If she just decided that it's time to squeeze more money from your dad for her children that have no real relation to your dad and you had no knowledge about this then NTA, she got what she wanted - the truth.
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    And if she wants so badly to give more to her kids then she can work harder and earn more and not expect that your dad will just hand money to them for nothing, she lives for free and all money that she earns could potentially be given to her kids, but I doubt she wants it, it is much more convenient to ask your dad.
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    Own_Block1106 OP · 21 hr. ago Yes and it's not like her kids are neglected or anything they have everything they need they just don't get to go to private school or fancy trips with my daughter or things like that
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    Immediate Mud_2858 17 hr. ago • Your wife's children aren't your children, and they're not your father's grandchildren. He's under no obligation to support them. Their support comes from their mother and father.
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    Tracydeanne · 20 hr. ago This woman seems to have thought she was marrying into a wealthy life. Did she know the situation when you got married, that you and your daughter are fully supported by your dad? If she did know, NTA. If she thought you were independently wealthy and owned your own property and would be supporting her and her kids, YTA.
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    Own Block1106 OP 20 hr. ago Well she knew my income I never lied
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    Tracydeanne 20 hr. ago So she didn't know you were fully supported by your dad?
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    Own_Block1106 OP 20 hr. ago She knew I live at his home and drive his car I just never really told her that he supports my daughter
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    Dear OldDave84 · 21 hr. ago NTA. She married you knowing this arrangement, she lives with you in his property, etc, and then she just ambushes your dad, in front of you, without talking to you? If I have that right, she very much is the le.
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    I can sympathize that her kids don't get the same stuff, truly. She's seeing her kids get less and that's not going to feel good. BUT that should have been discussed WAAAAAAAAAAY before marriage. This is where I'm wondering what you were doing though. Because it's also your job to communicate this to her. But then, why did
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    she never ask? So that would require more details to judge anyone on, but clearly it contributes to the current situation, yeah? Anyway, TLDR: I sympathize with what your wife must feel, but she's the a le for ambushing your dad like that instead of
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    talking to you. Especially considering your dad is paying the roof over to us family's head and their cars and such. But communication between you two failed miserably somewhere it sounds like.
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    Own_Block1106 OP · 21 hr. ago · edited 20 hr. ago • She told me before that she feels like my dad is favoring my daughter and how her children are very jealous and how upset it makes her but I made it very clear that she should NOT discuss this with my dad as I knew how he would react
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    . DragonCelica · 20 hr. ago ΝΤΑ Your wife shouldn't have confronted your dad like that. Your dad has been providing for your daughter since day one. Two new stepchildren aren't going to show up one day and automatically get the same treatment.
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    Does your wife not work? If she moved in with you, she's not paying rent or a mortgage. Can't she use her recently freed up money towards her kids?
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    Own_Block1106 OP 20 hr. ago She has a job but she doesn't earn much and her kids have everything they need they just don't have a luxury lifestyle
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    Successful-Show-7397 17 hr. ago I hate to break it to you, but I think you have been taken for a fool. Sounds like your wife saw dollar signs flashing in front of her eyes that has been mistaken for love. It's crazy entitled to be married a few months then rip into your new
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    FIL that he should be funding HER children. She's now getting free rent and that should drastically help her fund her children. I hope you had a good prenup because this woman has dollar signs in her eyes.
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