'Why can't you drop it?': Husband Demands Pregnant Wife Share Her Food With His Friends, Wife Strongly Refuses, Leading To a Public Dispute

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
May 13, 2024 12:00 PM EDT

Disputes over food might be one of the most common flights between two people in a relationship. It can be a flight over something as small as one not washing the dishes from last night's dinner, but also as big as one not respecting the other's eating restriction and literally forcing them to remain hungry.

Yes, I am talking about the husband in this Reddit story, and please, let me explain. A woman turned to Reddit after she and her husband had some friends over, and they decided to order pizza. The wife, being pregnant and gluten-free, decided to order herself a gluten-free pizza while assuming the others would order a few regular pizzas together. Her husband, on the other hand, insisted that OP (original poster) share her pizza with their friends, despite her not being able to eat anything else. Safe to say, the hungry and pregnant wife did not appreciate this demand from her husband.

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  • 01
    AITA for not wanting to share a personal sized pizza with three other people?
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  • 02
    This is my first time posting anything and I'm on mobile so unsure if I'm doing it right. I (F35) am gluten free (celiac) and have been for over half my life. My husband (M35) is not.
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  • 03
    We had two friends stopping by for dinner who are also not gluten free. My husband suggested we get pizza and mentioned to me that one of the friends only eats chicken as far as meat goes, so I
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  • 04
    should factor that into my order. I said, “well that doesn't really affect me since I wasn't planning on sharing, but noted, I'll see what options they have for her." Husband freaks out at me, because apparently I'm
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  • 05
    being ungrateful? He asked why I didn't want to share and I said, "the gluten free pizzas are basically personal pizzas, and I regularly eat the whole thing when we order it. I'm supposed to offer half of mine to other
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  • 06
    people when I can't eat what they are eating?" He wouldn't hear me at all and said if I didn't want to share I could pay for my own pizza myself. I don't really care about paying for it myself but the idea that I'm supposed
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  • 07
    to give away some of my dinner when I can't eat what other people are eating is stupid to me. It's not like we are ordering every pizza gluten free. It just doesn't make sense! They eat my food, I can't eat their food. I
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  • 08
    can understand the principle of offering but... one gf pizza from this place is only enough for one person. If we were getting multiple gf ones I'd absolutely share, but they got two larges for the three of them. He
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  • 09
    continued to go on about how ungrateful I was being and said some other stupid stuff before I told him to upstairs. off and went
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    I ended up just going upstairs and not eating or seeing them at all. I came downstairs later and he had ordered me a gluten free pizza and said from across the room, "are you ready for your Grateful Free pizza?
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  • 11
    You need to have a better attitude about things that aren't yours in the future.” I didn't reply or eat the pizza (I was already heating something else up and hadn't noticed the pizza, but I will eat it later because I'm pregnant and starving all the time.)
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    Just for the record, this has happened before several years ago where we ordered pizza and only one gf for me, and it arrived and everyone thought mine looked super good (I don't order regular
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  • 13
    pepperoni/tomato sauce) so the four other people (husband included) took over half my pizza before I even got a bite. It I me off because I then didn't have enough food and they still had plenty PLUS pieces
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  • 14
    of mine. So perhaps this is a sore subject for me. Again, I'm also pregnant, though this would still bother me if I weren't. AITA and being ungrateful?
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  • 15
    Few_Ad_5752 - 9 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [26] NTA. Your husband is a big one though. Also thoughtless. Literally. Are you ever heard?
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    Quirky-Trainer4484 OP. 9 hr. ago Am I ever heard? I dunno tbh. I am generally super go with the flow and he is very much The One Who Cares About Stuff so he 99% of the time gets what he wants. I started
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  • 17
    about a year ago voicing my opinions more and he told me I was being combative lol. I told him he's just used to getting his way and that it was my fault for not setting proper boundaries for so long. We do have a good relationship most of the time though, I promise.
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    paul_rudds_drag_race 9 hr. ago Enthusiast [5] He sounds exhausting and selfish. Good on you for working on boundaries.
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  • 19
    nuchip5.5 hr. ago NTA If he's treating you this way when you're pregnant, that's not a good indicator. What if your kid needs to be GF as well? Or what happens if the youngster experiences a phase of difficulty sharing? Will you put up with your husband acting in such a cruel manner?
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  • 20
    DiffDougMet⚫ 3 hr. ago NTA And why does he think that you have to be thankful for the chance to go without food as well as obliged to endure hunger? Put the question to him.
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    LettheWorldBurn1776 · 8 hr. ago <sigh> OP, if you had a 'good' relationship, you wouldn't be here commenting. And he wouldn't have said what he said.
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  • 22
    NTA. But it IS time to sit him down and have a VERY SERIOUS talk about the future. You are about to have a baby with this ....person. That changes everything.
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    • Quirky-Trainer4484 OP 8 hr. ago I mean, people can have more good things going on in their relationship than the fight they post on Reddit. But you aren't wrong about this needing to be discussed further.
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  • 24
    It was more that this is the second time this situation has happened and everyone involved thought I was being a brat the first time this happened too. So I wanted to know if that's the case since I feel very justified in my frustration.
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    GardenSafe8519. 7 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [46] You need to sit him down and thoroughly talk about Celiac and what it does to your body when you eat gluten. MAKE him understand the consequences. Make him SEE how unfair it is that when
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  • 26
    ordering GF for you while everyone else can eat anything under the sun but then also want what you have and eat it, it leaves less for you...that's just disrespectful and
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  • 27
    Quirky-Trainer4484 OP. 7 hr. ago He's quite aware and super on top of it for me when we go places. It definitely has nothing to do with him not being aware of it. I don't think he expected me to eat the regular pizza. He just got hung up on me not wanting to share mine. Which is dumb.
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