25 Women Confess Their Biggest Mistakes So Others Don't Make the Same: 'I’ve learned that you will never say the wrong thing to the right person'

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Isabella Penn
May 15, 2024 6:00 PM EDT

We all mess up sometimes. It's just part of life. Nobody's perfect, and making mistakes is how we learn and grow throughout all the seasons of life. Learning from our missteps is what helps us become better versions of ourselves. The cool thing about messing up is that once you realize you've done something wrong, you can learn a life lesson from it and help others avoid the same mistakes. Recently, 25 women shared their biggest mess ups, offering advice on relationships, siblings, and self-love. Making mistakes is totally normal and nothing to be embarrassed about. What really counts is how you handle it and the connections you make along the way. The women who shared their experiences below are not only embracing their own imperfections but also creating a supportive community where we all can learn from each other. We love to see women supporting women!

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  • 01
    r/AskWomen ⚫2 days ago 18 18 drama_maniac Girls, what is the biggest mistake you think you have made, so others don't make the same?
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    J8964677 • 2d ago Trying too hard when I am interested in someone. I've learned that you will never say the wrong thing to the right person.
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    Other-Pumpkin40 • 2d ago Settling young, when you're not confident and don't really know yourself.
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    south dakotagirl • 2d ago Allowing my ex back in my life. It's like reheating leftovers in a microwave. It's not as good as the 1st time.
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    searedscallops • 2d ago Started smoking. Don't smoke, kids.
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    Far-Contribution2690 • 2d ago Don't be a mistress.
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    lumpydukeofspacenuts 2d ago Ignoring. Red. Flags. Putting up with dealbreakers because love. Ugh.
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    Grand_Gate_8836 • 2d ago • ☑ Having casual with other people after a break up. Go for therapy. Take help. Casual only ruins our mental health. even more.
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    godamn123 • 2d ago Don't compare. Truly! Another women's beauty does not diminish your own. It's okay to marvel at the beauty of others and realize the beauty in yourself same. we aren't made the
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    butternutboo • 2d ago Writing myself off as unlovable and consigning myself to the single life forever. Too late for me now but girls, fight for yourself because no one else will.
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    Living-Mistake8773 • 2d ago Don't procrastinate your enjoyment. I went through my 20s thinking stuff like "i'm too stressed/busy to focus on enjoying the autumn forest/first spring bloom/summernights/some holiday/etc this year, but next year, once i've finished xyz i'll make time for it".
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    And then i didn't, because next year, something else was on my schedule, and then my youth was over. Just make time for it now, whatever it is, even if it's just a little.
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    babygirlxmegz • 2d ago being mean to my sisters, it's pretty much my only big regret in life. i can tell them how much i love them all i want but they will always remember me being a mean older sister.
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    AHOY eleni_kat 2d ago Don't make your significant other the center of your universe. Prioritise yourself while maintaining a healthy relationship. Take accountability for your actions. Speak up. Never take anything for granted. Allow yourself to love and be loved. No one will give you a metal for getting through it the hard way.
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    redhead_bedhead_25 2d ago • Being worn down enough to accept men. behaviour from Eroding my independent nature and self worth, taking advantage of my good nature with nothing in return. Be clear on your boundaries, you will lose people, but they're people who don't matter.
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    g1asshalffull ⚫ 2d ago Spending years with someone hoping they will grow into their potential. That is not your responsibility and people have to want it for themselves. This is different from supporting your partner on their pursuits. Someone with "potential" makes no strides to pursue anything.
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    Frequent-Presence302 • 2d ago Decenter men from your life. Build self-esteem, skills and education. Focus on goals and hobbies. Forget men, they will only drain you and impregnate you, Even abuse you. Dont ever Get validation from men, ever! Be as selfish as possible. Focus on community and female friendships instead. And dont have kids if you dont want too!
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    NoHippo3481 • 2d ago Marrying for "love". Love wears off. Marry someone who you can get along with and who respects you and your opinions without feeling the need to fight.
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    Flat_A... • 2d ago Edited 2d ago If you're going swimming or wearing short shorts while on your period, tuck your tampon string between your lips. Idk why or how they travel all over the place but I've looked down and seen it hanging out and been embarrassed soo many times until I figure out how to trap it.
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    deargodimstressedout 2d ago I purchased a home with a five foot square patch of bamboo. The time, physical effort and money I now have to sink into the removal is ridiculous
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    NoNoNopeNah • 2d ago Staying in a relationship for longer than I wanted to - really not listening to my gut or communicating how I felt out of fear. Say what you feel, trust yourself. It's better to be alone and true to yourself than try to make something work that isn't making you happy.
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    BlueOrange45 • 2d ago Being a people pleaser and not being able to say "no". I have gotten myself into too many situations where I did not want to be involved in, just because I could not say no, I don't want to.
    via u/BlueOrange45
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    tetherwego • 2d ago Marrying someone based on what they say their values are instead of those values in action. When what someone says aligns with their actions then that is a green flag. If you are confused because of a misalignment...red flag... move on. There are no excuses. Listen when they show you who they are.
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    StaticPalmz3 • 2d ago Burying childhood trauma because "some people had it worse" or "it wasn't even that bad". Trauma is trauma, the brain doesn't know the difference between what is "worse". You are allowed to feel all of the feelings that come with acknowledging your traumas, don't let anyone else make you feel as if you have to bottle it up, especially yourself. Through intensive self reflection and the correct guidance, you truly can relinquish the mental burden of trauma, and rewire your b
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    Mercuryinretrogra... • • 2d ago Edited 2d ago 1 Don't assume that less attractive men will be more faithful, appreciative or treat you better. 2 If you haven't dated much for whatever reason don't get married without dating enough that you learn to recognize red flags, your own relationship flaws and weaknesses, and know your type. 3 Know yourself before committing to anyone else 4 Get a professional degree 5 Never forgive cheating or a man whose actions or words tell you he doesn't value you or
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