Sister demands $100k as a wedding gift, says $20k is not enough: 'She's demanding I cover the full $100k cost [of the wedding]'

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    AITA for refusing to fund her $100k dream wedding just because I'm wealthy?
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    AITA for refusing to pay for my sister's expensive wedding even though I'm wealthy? I (35M) have a younger sister (29F) who is getting married in a few months. Our parents passed away years ago so it's just been the two of us. I'm fortunate to have a very high paying job and have done well for myself financially. My sister and her fiancé are planning a large, extravagant destination wedding and the costs are adding up to over $100k. They asked if I would be willing to
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    pay for everything since 'I can easily afford it'. I told them no, that's an unreasonable request, and I'm not comfortable spending that much. I offered to give them $20k as a wedding gift instead. Well, my sister flipped out, called me selfish, and said I'm ruining her dream wedding. She said since our parents are gone, it's my duty as her only family to give her the perfect wedding. She's now refusing to talk to me until I agree to pay.
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    I feel like I'm being fair by offering a generous $20k gift, which is more than enough to cover a nice wedding. AITA for refusing to fund her $100k dream wedding just because I'm wealthy? I love my sister but I feel like she's being a bridezilla and her request is totally unreasonable. Looking for some outside perspectives.
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    OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the as a:☐ e: (1) The action I took was refusing to pay for my sister's entire $100k wedding, even though she asked me to since I'm well off financially and our parents have passed away. I offered to give a $20k wedding gift instead, which I felt was very generous, but she's demanding I cover the full $100k cost.
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    • starbiebarbie99 3 hr. ago NTA - Your sister is not entitled to your money nor is she entitled to a 100k wedding. 20k is a very nice gift!!
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    ReviewOk929. 3 hr. ago I'm ruining her dream wedding NTA Her dreams don't match - to her financial reality. She needs a reality check not one for $100k
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    DRHdez 3 hr. ago Oh look, she just saved you $20K. If she continues her entitlement don't give her anything. She should have the wedding they can afford, your money is yours. NTA.
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    Euphoric-Zucchini-18 · 3 hr. ago NTA. Your offer was more than generous, and spending 100k on a wedding unless you have the money to spare is foolish and selfish. She needs to plan within her means. You are married just the same regardless of what you spend on your wedding.
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    • Natural_Garbage7674 3 hr. ago NTA. And as your only family, what is her proposed 100k gift to you? 20k is an amazing gift. They need to plan a wedding they can afford. It doesn't matter what you can afford, she cannot spend your money, or demand you spend it tor her.
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    • Illustrious_Pride_44 3 hr. ago NTA.. she has Champagne taste on a beer budget. So yes what you're offering is very generous, she sounds like she has a little entitlement and kinda exhausting..also it's your money you worked hard for it so it's yours to spend how you like whether she like it or not.
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    crumpledspoon · 3 hr. ago NTA unless you don't rescind the offer of $20k if she doesn't apologize. She's 29 in 2024, not 19 in 1954, she can either plan a wedding she can afford on her own or she can be grateful for whatever assistance she gets.
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    • Right-Eye-Left-Eye · 3 hr. ago NTA. Your sister is being very entitled. Your gift is extremely generous. I just hope she doesn't squander her relationship with family because she wants your money
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    • extinct_diplodocus 3 hr. ago NTA. It boils down to "You have money. Buy me stuff." You even offered a very generous gift of $20K. Since she's trying to force you by not talking to you, your best move is to play her silly game even better. Withdraw the gift entirely and avoid attending the wedding.

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