Ex-boyfriend upset that he didn't get seat upgrade after breaking up with girlfriend on a trip that she paid for: ''All my [vacation] time was spent looking after [my ex's child]'

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Brad Dickson • Managing Editor
May 21, 2024 10:00 AM EDT

Imagine this scenario… You want to do something nice for your partner, so you plan some time away with them. Even as a bonus, you organize and pay for their son to come too after plans fall through to have someone watch him. This is no short trip either; we're not talking about a three-day holiday over Memorial Day weekend or anything like that; we're talking about a full ten days.

So, you book the tickets and pay for the accommodation—when you get there, your partner ditches you with their kid to babysit while they have the "time of their life" on holiday. If that wasn't grounds for ending the relationship already, it comes to light at the end of the trip that they've actually still been "seeing" their ex (the son's other parent) as well—and they've been doing more than just looking at each other. 

So, you get on the flight home. The flight attendant comes up and offers your (now) ex-boyfriend a free seat upgrade to business class! But you booked the tickets, feeling less generous now after everything that has happened you argue that you should get the upgrade. The flight attendant argues that you should "stay with your son,"—cap-stoning the nightmare that has been this experience.

Lucky for this woman, she took the upgrade anyway and left her loser ex back in his original seat to look after his own child for once. They say no good deed goes unpunished, and that's certainly the case in this story, which was shared to this online community by this woman who was appealing to readers to see whether or not she was in the wrong for taking the upgrade after being condemned by some of her peers. 

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    AITA for leaving my ex to sit and take care of his child and taking a business class upgrade to myself? I (30f) have been dating "Matt" (33m) for about a year. Matt has a kid "Alex" from his first relationship, the kid is under 2yo. Every now and then I used to look after Alex when Matt was at work (we don't live together but they stay at mine every now and then)
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    We decided to go on holiday for 10 days at the start of May and due to some family drama Alex had to go with us. The flights were over 8 hours long and I have booked the tickets for all of us. During the flight and the holiday I have spent nearly all my time was spent looking after Alex while Matt had the time of his life. Some things came to my attention (he was still seeing his ex) which resulted in us breaking up at the end of our stay.
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    On the flight back we were all sitting together and a flight attendant approached us and asked my ex if he wanted an upgrade to the business class. Before he could say anything I have mentioned it was me who bought the tickets and used my own account to pay for them, so an upgrade should go to me, the flight attendant was trying to argue at first as she assumed Alex was my child, but I told her that's not the case and ended up having an upgrade so I can relax after spending all this time looking
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    After the flight Matt, a few other passengers who assumed I am the mum as well as some family members and friends called me an for not giving the upgrade to Matt, even after I have mentioned the flight attendant didn't say anything about Alex being allowed to join Matt.
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    OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a ☐e: I might be an a∞ le for insisting on taking a seat upgrade that was offered to my ex since I have paid for the tickets and used my miles account, so I can have a rest after spending the entire time looking after alex.
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    DamnDamnDamnDamnDa 9 hr. ago NTA. Damn OP that paying for a fligth, in a breakup, taking care of a child on YOUR vacation. You by no means are the ale, the audacity of the ex is unbelivable. It just ¡me off so much that i cant even begin to imagine your frustraion. Honestly, i would say move on but you seem to already be doing that so i got nothin else to say. Oh and btw the real a☐ole is the ex.
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    MRandomRedditAccount 8 hr. ago • Wait why would it be ok for the father to ditch their child to be upgraded to business and not ok for mother to do the same? (Even if this isn't the case but the other passengers seem to think so). This is some sexist NTA. Dump him. He doesn't seem to appreciate you at all.
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    KaliTheBlaze · 9 hr. ago NTA. I bet it was probably nice to put some space between you and your brand new ex with such a long flight, too. What was he going to do, take the upgrade and leave his young kid with the woman who he just broke up with? There's no world in which that makes any kind of sense.
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    alwaysright12 · 7 hr. ago Nta And even if you were the mum, so what? Why would that mean the dad should get the upgrade?! that
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    captainhowdy82 - 9 hr. ago NTA - Who gives a what strangers on the plane think of you? He doesn't deserve your upgrade
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    FYourAppLeave MeAlone NTA he's lucky you didn't cancel his tickets. You deserve an actual vacation instead of an unpaid nanny gig. Being stuck with most of the childcare would have been grounds for a breakup even if you were the bio mom.
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    Petite_Tsunami · 7 hr. ago I would have announced to the cabin that we broke up on the trip I paid for because he was caught cheating on me with the ex. If he was trying to get angry sympathy
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    Outrageous-Ad-9635 8 hr. ago NTA I love the symbolism of you going on to better things and leaving him behind to deal with his own life. Haters gonna hate. You go girl.
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