‘You are not my son anymore’: Father cuts his 18-year-old son out of his will after discovering his wife lied about who his real dad is, resulting in a family dispute

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    AITA for removing my wife's child out of my will because I discovered he is not mine?
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    I've been married for 15 years with my wife and our son is 18yo. I think I was a good father to him, always present, always supporting him, I was the first he talked to when he had a bullying problem, a math.
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    problem, when he needed romantic advice. He is straight but likes crossdressing and doing makeup, and I was the first one to support him on that too, while his mom was trying to make him more "masculine”.
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    However, recently I discovered that he is not actually my child. My MIL said he had to tell me something important, so I went to meet her and told me that my child is actually my wife's high school boyfriend baby. She
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    gave birth at 20 but apparently she was cheating on me with her old boyfriend. My MIL said my wife told her the truth after he was born because she had suspected that the baby didn't exactly look like me and MIL
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    confronted her about it, but the baby was already born and nothing could be done. I was mad and asked her why is she telling me this right not? She told me it's because she
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    saw my son hanging out with his biodad at a park and believes that he is back in their lives. I decided not to set the messenger and went out to
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    confront my wife and son about this, after a long argument they told the truth. The biodad was back and wanted to meet his real son.
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    A lot of happened and I'm divorcing, and also cutting my wife's son out of my will, because, I never had a real son and all this time I was putting all my energy and effort raising another man's child. I'm also
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    consulting if is possible to sue the biodad for all the money I've spent raising his bio son thought out the years. My wife is obviously mad at me, but my (step?) son is just
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    devastated, I can see him dsed, not talking to me, and constantly apologizing. My plan was to divorce and cut contact with them right after that, but now I'm wondering if I'm going too far by punishing him too.
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    Edit: Everybody is asking this: The kid knew about his biodad for about 4 months before I discovered it. And yes, we did a DNA test, he insisted a lot of it and after it came back negative is when I think his desion
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    really hit. Y'all right, maybe it is useless to sue the biodad, but I'll ask a lawyer anyway. Edit 2: Many people are comparing my situation to being a step dad or an
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    adoption. There is a difference, I thought for over 18 years that he was my real son. I 100% believe that adoptive parents are real parents and their adopted children are their real children, but they willingly went
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    into the adoption process, they know their family is not blood family. I was tricked into my situation. If I had known my wife after the baby was born I wouldn't have cared because I knew it was somebody else's
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    son, but I thought this was my real son and just now I find out that he isn't. Anyway, I need to talk to him when he feels like it.
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    Give-Me-Wine55 · 20 hr. ago Pretty convenient for bio dad to come into the picture when his financial duties would be over...
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    External-Reindeer918 OP. 20 hr. ago Yes. Im sure it was no accident.
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    Brownie-0109 - 20 hr. ago Just in time to pay for college
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    Background-Reach7865 · 20 hr. ago Wow, what a horrible mother. Wow, just wow. What a disgrace.
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    tercer78 · 20 hr. ago Are you talking to him? You worded that weirdly that he's not talking to you, yet you made the decision to cut him out of your will. Did you cut him out of your will, yet trying to speak to him normally as if things aren't unchanged?
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    adhesivepants · 17 hr. ago He says he "isn't talking" to him but also that he keeps trying to apologize.
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    Cowpuncher84. 19 hr. ago That poor kid. He is not at fault for this situation but he is sure being punished for it. How do you think he feels finding out the man he has known as his dad his entire life isn't and now is tossing him aside.
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    thatactorjoe · 20 hr. ago NTA to divorce her, she is, but treating your son like he hasn't been your son for the last 18 years? What the ? He didn't choose you anymore than you chose him; he clearly loves you and sees you as his father. Imagine yourself in his shoes.
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    • Critical_Buy6621 · 18 hr. ago The son did nothing wrong. You were the one there for him. You supported him. You raised him. Being a dad isn't about paternity, it's about who was there to raise them. To cut your son out of your life is a bit harsh. For all you know, he kept it from you because he was scared of you doing this exact thing.

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