‘You were supposed to meet my family’: Woman Invites Girlfriend Over for Family Cookout, She Never Shows Up

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Eleonora Bader
May 29, 2024 5:00 PM EDT

Meeting your partner's family is usually a big deal, one that many people believe is important when dating someone.

Admittedly, I once was the type of person to say or do anything to get out of meeting my partner's family. Maybe it's because my ex's mom hated me and I just automatically assumed that the past would repeat itself. But it really damaged a lot of relationships back in the day. Luckily, I got over it. A special shout-out to my therapist.

One woman took to r/mildlyinfuriating to express her frustration with her girlfriend who had promised to come to a family cookout to meet her family. Unfortunately, she never had any intention of showing up, let alone communicating, leading to a dispute between the two. The comment section was in an absolute frenzy, telling her they should stop dating immediately because she 'must not be in love'. Scroll down an have a look for yourself, and then check out these cool designs that are splendid to the human eye.

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    "She never showed up.' "
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    Invited my gf to a cook out to meet my family... This happens pretty much every time we make plans
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    ?! time to be here today I thought that was next week memorial day is tomorrow so today is the day before memorial day
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    I know when Memorial Day is, I thought it was the week after that this was going on well you are wrong ig? i did say the sunday before memorial days
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    ...so are you able to come? hello??
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    She's known about this for over a month now. The last two messages are half an hour apart. She's supposed to be over at noon and its currently 10.
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    EnRohbi 19 hr. ago This post is 2 hours old, so it's noon now. Did she show? 3.8k Reply Share gabbyrose1010 OP. 19 hr. ago nope, she has obligations 4.3k Reply Share ... Ok-Photo-1972 - 18 hr. ago So she remembered to show up to those obligations though. Interesting 4.6k Reply Share
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    just4reactions 17 hr. ago Yeah, how does that work you might think... OP, are you going to have a talk with her about these situations? An (unasked for) advice: be in the future always specific regarding appointments, for example "Dinner at 18:30 next week Friday 31-05-2024 at [restaurant name] at [restaurant address]. Are you then availabe, can I/we count on you joining us then and there?" That's pretty much crystal clear, no mixup possible. It works in your advantage to work with (also) a shar
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    Barokespinoza23 - 21 hr. ago You and she are not in the same place. 31.4k Reply Share spaceguitar 18 hr. ago Took the words right out of my mouth. OP, she's ducking your family knowing full well what it means. Just move on, my dude. She ain't it. 2.9k Reply Share
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    HairReddit777. 20 hr. ago My ex girlfriend ALWAYS did this too. I got tired of her pulling this s' 't and broke up with her 4 weeks ago. Best decision ever! 7.0k Reply Share Marquar234 19 hr. ago Three weeks ago, according to her. 3.8k Reply Share MajorAlpacaPoncho ⚫ 19 hr. ago I thought they were breaking up next week 1.7k Reply Share
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    Gratitude89 20 hr. ago You're in a relationship, she's in a situationship. 15.0k Reply Share Davenportmanteau · 20 hr. ago Came here to say exactly this! 1.7k Reply Share Idontevenownaboat 16 hr. ago edited 15 hr. ago If you gave me no context, I would assume this was a text exchange between two family members who didn't even like one another. 318 Reply Share
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    Isgortio 20 hr. ago I had an ex like this, I only mattered when he needed someone to take to family events to be like "here's my girlfriend!" but anything I wanted him there for he'd conveniently have a migraine for 3 days or go on a road trip with his dad without saying anything. I'm silly and put up with it for 2.5 years until he ghosted me for a month. His heart wasn't in it and I don't think your gf's is either. 1.4k Reply Share SnooMuffins7736 · 19 hr. ago How were you with someone for 2 an
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    Hugh_jaynus13 · 20 hr. ago Pretty sure you are the only one that thinks she is girlfriend 6.9k Reply Share your gabbyrose1010 OP. 19 hr. ago It's kinda funny how many comments like this I'm getting. I'll admit that I can see where you're coming from, but this girl has been talking about marriage, kids, etc with me despite us only being together for a year. That's a separate issue though. 3.6k Reply Share
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    Ok-Photo-1972. 19 hr. ago Good luck with her showing up to the wedding on the correct day. 7.8k Reply Share Tyberius_Kirk 19 hr. ago If only people had something like a mobile calendar where they can mark down dates and times of appointments and add reminders where it tells you about said appointments... I just can't think if something like this exists, though ☹ 1.0k Reply Share
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    nigliazzo5626. 20 hr. ago You need to move on dude. She's just not that interested and you're blind to it. I'm sorry. 1.6k 68 more replies Reply Share _Echoes_19 hr. ago Sorry bud, you're one message away from getting "we need to talk" 236 Reply Share
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    Zendo88 20 hr. ago She can't come she at her boyfriends house meet ing his family that day 730 Reply Share gabbyrose1010 OP. 19 hr. ago haha she does not like boys but i will be on the lookout for her secret gf 434 Reply Share
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    HansNiesenBumsedesi 20 hr. ago If only there were some specific way to refer absolutely and unambiguously to particular days, rather than relating them to other, vaguely defined periods of time. 234 Reply Share Etiennera 19 hr. ago The day immediately after waxing gibbous of the next cycle. 89 Reply Share ...
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    Future-Ad-4317 . 20 hr. ago Why can't either of you communicate properly? 331 Reply Share saltthewater. 17 hr. ago Because they are children. 29 Reply Share
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    . TwistRevolutionary11 · 18 hr. ago edited 17 hr. ago I don't see enough people talking about it so ill throw my .02. But if you are responding to your partner in that sort of passive aggressive way, that's definitely a sign of a bigger breakdown in communication. Not to say that she's not wrong for missing this event but to be honest it seems childish to me to snap back like that. If you see a future with her I'd focus on your ability to cope when things don't go your way, otherwise charge it t
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    wcoastbo 19 hr. ago Seems like she's not ready to meet your family. Don't force it. Also, there's a good chance there are underlying issues in the relationship. I'm not putting blame one way or the other, but it's up to you and her to find the source. 14 Reply Share
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    kp729 19 hr. ago In future, you can give her an actual date ( //xxxx) instead of day before this or day after that. It will make things clearer and this excuse from her won't work. If there is one thing I've learned in my work, over communication is always good. 36 Reply Share ..
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