‘Hold yourself accountable’: Reddit Gives Wholesome Advice on How to Show Up and Show Love in Relationships

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jun 5, 2024 2:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. Love and relationships are complicated, multifaceted matters. There's no formula for love, there's no formula for finding 'the one,' and we're all just struggling and hoping to catch some luck in this realm. Navigating the ups and downs of intimacy can be just as taxing and complicated as learning calculus or writing a paper on Crime and Punishment. 

When we're in a partnership, we give and receive love in a myriad of ways, but it's not always obvious to ourselves how we want to be loved. If it's not something we know about, how can we expect someone else to know about it? From the swaying of feelings, to trying to make a dying relationship work for years, love and knowing what we want in relationships continues to overwhelm and disorient us. Sometimes it's helpful to turn to others for advice about a situation, a partnership, or a problem at hand. Experience can be a great insight, so take the advice from these wise Redditors about relationships and showing love.

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    Posted by u/manicspanic 22 hours ago How to show up in better ways for your partner and show your love?
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    My partner does everything for me. He takes me everywhere for all our plans, takes most financial burden (nothing big but basics like taking care of meals, fuel, other random expenses), is
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    great at is an amazing emotional support. However i feel like i don't do enough on my end. He is very supportive and patient but is getting disturbed by the entire dynamic of this relationship. In afraid he'll
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    realize he is not getting anything out of this and break up with me. What can i do to show him i love him and take actual steps that show him i love him just as much as he does me. please help
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    shira9652. 30 min. ago Compliment him, ask him how his day was, get small gifts even a snack that you know he likes, do small chores if you're at
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    his place (I make my boyfriends bed or take care of his dishes before I leave), pay more attention to him when you're together, offer to do something he
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    likes to do (a movie, video games, walk outside, etc.), rub his back.. just make him feel loved
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    bigsez7373. 2 hr. ago I read something somewhere and it goes like this. Make a list of all the things you want, and become that list. Show up for
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    him, support him in his endeavors, let him be in his masculine and you in your feminine. Ask him what qualities he wants in a partner and see if you can meet
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    them. Ask him what he needs from you and how you can be a better partner( not saying you aren't one already).
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    Do you hold yourself accountable? Accountability is a very quality in a woman. Hold yourself to the same standards you hold him to.
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    Let your actions speak so loud to him that he can't even hear a word you say.
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    Be loyal, loving and appreciate him. Invest in him as he invests in you. We men bring a lot to the table. time, effort, energy and resources. What are you bringing to
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    the table? Communicate, make agreements, hear him out, listen to respond and not to react.
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    This is coming from a man who'd love to have a woman like this by his side.
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    Ok-Challenge-4142 · 2 hr. ago I would ask him how to love him better, and see what he says.
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    Learn his love languages and what he likes to receive and do more of them. I personally do not like giving words of affirmation but
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    since I knew my partners number 1 thing was words, I had to get out of my comfort zone and tell him more loving words/compliment S.
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    Mine was acts of service and physical touch so he started doing things like cleaning around the house more, and giving me more hugs throughout the
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    day. That definitely improved our relationship. Maybe do more for him? Take care of plans sometimes... pay for a meal or two. Thank him and
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    be more vocal of your appreciation.
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