Woman Expects Wealthy Sister to Support Her Children Financially, the Sister Refuses, Causing Sibling Tension, ‘You’re being selfish’

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    r/AITAH ⚫ 18 hr. ago Snoo-99857 AITAH for not bequeathing my estate to my niece and nephew?
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    My husband (42M) and I (34F) are happily married and have decided not to have children. We've worked incredibly hard over the years, building a comfortable life for ourselves, and we plan to enjoy it to the fullest. Our dream is to have a nice pension that allows us to
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    travel and experience the world together.
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    I have two sisters, both of whom have children. They are both in debt and, quite frankly, not great with money. Recently, they have been vocal about their expectations that my husband and I will leave our estate to their children when we pass. They
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    seem to think that since we don't have kids, we should automatically bequeath everything to our niece and nephew.
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    I love my niece and nephew dearly, but I don't think it's fair to expect us to give away everything we've worked so hard for. My husband and I want to use our savings to enjoy our retirement and the fruits of our labor. We've saved and sacrificed to build our standard that we love and we feel
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    we deserve to spend it as we see fit.
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    When I told my sisters about our plans, they were furious. They accused us of being selfish and not caring about the family. They argue that their kids could really use the money for their futures. I countered that it's not our responsibility to fix their financial
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    problems or to fund their children's futures. They called me heartless and greedy, which really hurt.
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    I understand that they are in a tough spot financially, but I don't think it's right to rely on us as their financial safety net. Am I the for wanting to enjoy my retirement with my husband and not bequeath our estate to my nieces and
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    Just to be clear, it's not that I don't care about my family. I've helped my sisters out financially in the past when they were in tight spots, and my husband and I paid out my parents loan. But I feel there's a difference between helping out occasionally and
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    handing over everything we've worked for once we're gone. Still my sisters managed to make me feel guilty and like AH. So am I (we) TAH ?
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    Turbulent Ebb5669 • 18h ago Jesus! Are they planning to off you and your husband? by the time you're likely to not be around anymore, your niece and nephew should have their own career's and or children.
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    gardenone 18h ago It's odd that you guys are having arguments about your estate when you and your husband are early 30s- 40s...they do understand that an "estate" is all assets remaining following death
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    once all creditors have been paid, correct? In this day and age, it's not uncommon for final medical expenses to exhaust the majority of the estate before the executor can even begin to distribute the property. What exactly are they asking you to do-
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    live on $1/day to save such a huge nest egg that you might have a sizable inheritance to pass down? Weird
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    bythebrook88 18h ago They called me heartless and greedy, which really hurt. You're heartless and greedy for <checks notes> wanting to spend your own money,
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    instead of giving your money to people who want it but have no legal claim on it (the definition of greedy).
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    What about relatives on your husband's side of the family? Why should only your sisters' children benefit? NTA
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    TatraPoodle 18h ago You can promise them when you die in your 80's that the remaining funds will be distributed fairly. Nothing divided by 2 is still nothing.
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    • IVIrLurker 18h ago Why is it that "You're being selfish!" is the go-to insult of the massively selfish when they can't get what they want? It'd be funny if it weren't so stupid.
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    • prettyy_sofiaaa 18h ago. Nope. It's your money, you earned it. You're not obligated to leave it to anyone, especially if they're acting entitled.

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