Mother Tries to Sabotage Her Daughter's Wedding by Putting Lilies in the Bouquets Despite Her Allergy, Potentially Ruining Their Relationship Forever

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    r/ r/weddingdrama u/hanamphetamine • 5d I am allergic to lilies; so of course my mother put them in the floral arrangements. Personal Drama
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    So I (30f) and my husband (31m) got married two weeks ago and I planned a very low budget ceremony that took place at my uncle's home. Me and my husband practically did everything for the wedding with some help from my cousins and uncles family but apart from that my mother did not participate much, even when asked for small tasks. (For context we are Pakistani, so one of the customs is that the brides side hosts guests for the legal wedding ceremony itself and later events are covered by the gr
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    My mother thinks she is good at floral arrangements because she took a class but she doesn't actually have any sense for design. I had a plan for what needed to be done but she asked if she could do the flowers. I told her that flowers were expensive and I preferred decor that would be easy to clean up and reuse for future parties.
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    The day before the wedding I am getting my henna done at my uncles house (its a Pakistani custom) she comes to see what we have prepared. I cant move much because my hands are covered in henna designs but was able to direct my husband with tasks that needed finishing.
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    I ask her to help by decorating the tables using the supplies I bought, she says ok. She doesn't fix up any of the tables we had. She announces she is going to go to Whole Foods to buy flowers and she'll be back. At this point I was too exhausted to argue so I said nothing. She goes to the store and puts the flowers in the pantry and then leaves. She says she will come back and finish arrangements the morning of the wedding. I forgot about the flowers as there was lots left to do.
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    The next morning after I arrive at my uncles house to start getting ready I see she has been at the house. Not one single table was finished up for guests and none of the decorations I had bought were touched. But I saw four of the ugliest floral arrangements I had ever seen.. They were small, had horrid tacky non-bridal colors (think the Pioneer Woman line at Walmart) and matched NOTHING to do with the wedding or home. (I didnt have much of a theme as this was a budget wedding but my uncle's ho
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    But the kicker as that she PURPOSEFULLY put lilies in the arrangement!!! Everyone who knows me knows I am very allergic to them. My mother was always making floral arrangements at the house and Id let her know every time she bought them that I was allergic. There is no way she bought them as an oversight because upon inspecting the pantry I found the rest of the flowers she bought and she specifically purchased a bundle of lilies to put in the arrangement.
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    I felt absolutely shattered that someone would do such a vile thing, much less my own mother. My allergies can be pretty severe and cause my skin to immediately form boils and I have trouble breathing. I have struggled with chronic issues my entire life due to allergies so I am always good with preventing my allergens from being around me but there was no way to really get the lilies out of my environment when I have to sit there for hours while they take photos. She is really very disgusting fo
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    I asked my husband to remove the lilies from the arrangements but just seeing the awful arrangements sitting on the tables was so triggering me. So I had the arrangements moved to sit in the bathrooms. They were them anyhow. so was a fitting place for
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    I havent spoken to her much since I got married but she did a number of other despicable behaviors counting up to the day, but the lily drama took the cake for the most deliberate form of cruelty from her. tldr: My narcissistic mother purposefully put lilies, that I am very allergic to, into flower arrangements without my knowledge even though I never asked for any flowers. 212 ☐ 26 D
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    According_Version_67 • 5d I havent spoken to her much since I got married Count your blessings. And congratulations on getting married! Reply 147
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    levybunch ⚫ 5d I hope your wedding otherwise was wonderful. It sounds like distance from your mom is the best option. Reply 46
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    hanamphetamine OP. 5d its been very peaceful! 29
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    Chrysania83.5d That's so awful of her. My mom wore white to my wedding lol. ← Reply 19
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    Erickajade1 • 5d I'm sorry she did that. May I ask what do you think her reason for doing so was? Was it just because she's a narcissist or was she deliberately trying to sabotage your wedding, or make you look bad for photos or what? ... Reply 14
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    hanamphetamine OP • 5d yes. just yes to all of it, i dont know. maybe! i think she was upset that i managed to pull off a decent event and kept my cool thru the planning despite having very low funds and time to do it all. she was probably expecting me to beg her to help and then let her offer only what she wants to do or nothing. i kept things simple and didnt over complicate the wedding which is the opposite of how she does things.
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    Erickajade1 5d • What a horrible thing to try to do to your own child, especially on such a special day. ← & 7 3 87
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    blueevey • 5d Nice move on the bathroom placement! She can't get mad bc you're using the arrangements but no one will care abt them and it won't change your wedding. Contained maliciousness. Love it. Reply & 9 ♡
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    ulnek. 5d Throw them out or have someone remove the lilies. This is why it's important for parents to know their kids. If they can't, they shouldn't be parents. ... ← Reply Ĵ 5 ♡
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    hanamphetamine OP. 5d she absolutely went out of her way to buy them. we had flowers in the house often when i was living at home and she would toss out lilies from arrangements that were from her husband if he got them by accident bc i would remind her of my allergy. she knew what she was doing. Ŵ 6 B
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    Charmingbeauty 5562. 2d Congratulations on your wedding and thank goodness you noticed the lillies before anything bad could happen. Reply Ŵ 2 ♡ D

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