Entitled Mom Puts Daughter on the Spot, Forces Pregnancy Announcement at Cousin's Wedding: 'It felt like the room went silent'

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    My r/TwoHotTakes ⚫ 17 hr. ago TWO HOT TAKE WanderBug444 • My mom announced my pregnancy to the entire room at my cousin's wedding...
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    My mom and I have a long history of not getting along. I've always wondered why we couldn't be like Rory and Lorelei or hang out the way a lot of my friends did with their own mothers. When I was younger I always thought I was the problem. But now that I'm an adult and I
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    can look back on all my experiences with her from a different perspective. I've come to realize my mom has a lot of issues that actually have nothing to do with me (see my only other post on here which regards her).
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    To give you a better picture I'll quickly name a few of the things she's done that I used to question if they were my fault: • Came up to me at the end of my wedding day and said point blank "you ruined the experience for me of my only daughter getting married" (she was extremely involved throughout all of the planning but apparently I didn't include her enough). That memory and statement was how I concluded my wedding evening before leaving the venue.
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    • Gave my pet away while I was at school with no warning. • Constantly calls my brothers and lies about things I've said or done that never happened. As well as her friends. • I had hairy arms as a kid and would get bullied for it. One day I couldn't take it anymore and I went home and used her razor to shave them. She noticed the hair on her razor and went ballistic asking me if I used it. I was terrified so I initially said
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    no but then broke down crying and told her I had and WHY I had. She grounded. me for being a liar, banned me from going to a birthday party that night, and made me go speak with a pastor for being a "liar." At this point I thought I was the worst kid ever. I was getting grounded for every little thing. • ⚫ I called her frantically bawling one night when I was in college because I had to take my less than 1 yr old cat to the ER
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    and if I didn't pay for the surgery (bad UTI) he would be put down. I begged her to borrow me the money and said I would pay her back on a payment plan. She told me to just put him down and then said she was going back to sleep and hung up on me. • When I was in elementary school I was desperately trying to grow out my hair. I talked constantly to both my parents about how I wanted long beautiful hair.
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    One day my mom took me to the salon and secretly told the hairstylist to chop my hair into a pixie cut with bangs. I was traumatized. • In college I was saving up to buy a used car. I worked multiple jobs and internships and one job in particular only issued paper checks that were sent to my parent's address. One weekend I came home to get the checks and I see an old stick shift car in the driveway. She went
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    and cashed all of my checks without my permission and bought me a car that I didn't know how to drive with the money. When I got upset about it and said I wanted to pick out my own car- one I actually knew how to drive, and that I had. worked hard for that money, I was called ungrateful. She gave me one lesson with the car and left me to it. The next day while trying to get home with it I got in an accident and almost drove it into a library.
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    • When I told her and my dad I had lost my virginity at 16/17 they came at me and knocked me off a stool and the fall broke my arm. • She told me Santa Clause wasn't real when I was 6. You get the idea... Fast forward to 2024 I am now very happily married for almost 6 years and about 12 months pregnant with my first
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    child. My cousin's wedding was a few weeks ago and I had told my immediate family that after the wedding I was going to tell my aunt and my other cousin (the groom's sister) in the parking lot when we were all leaving. She lives out of state and I figured it would be my only shot to tell her in person before we announce it publicly.
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    During the reception the photographer asked for a group photo with our family and the bride and groom. As we're all smiling for the photo my mom yells to the ENTIRE room that I (me) have a big announcement to make. Everyone stopped talking and stared at me knowing exactly what it was about. It felt like the room went silent. My brothers started
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    telling my mom to stop. The bride walked away and didn't speak to me/avoided me for the rest of the wedding, which I get. Also keep in mind we're like 90% sure the bride is unable to have children and wants them... I was mortified but didn't want to cause more of a scene by yelling at my mom or something. So my husband and I just
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    walked away. I apologized to my cousin. And my brothers came up and tried to comfort me with the typical banter of "that's just how mom is" type talk. The rest of the wedding goes on and my mom never comes to apologize to me or my husband.
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    About a week later my brother calls me and tells me that my mom has spoken to him on several occasions now about it and she has somehow concluded that the whole thing is my fault not hers. She actually told him that she thinks | "purposefully didn't tell her my plan because I assumed then she would announce it like she did and embarrass herself." And that was apparently my "my plan" all along to embarrass her.
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    I was not only shocked but hurt. I hadn't spoken about the issue with family since the wedding because I didn't want to form any more drama around my pregnancy, which is supposed to be a happy occasion. I had been waiting for a simple "I'm sorry" call or even text from her, but nothing. Instead she calls my brothers multiple times and somehow tries to spin it to them that the whole thing is my fault.
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    I asked my husband how she could possibly come to such a weird and hurtful conclusion. And he said "Someone who WOULD do something like that. Someone who thinks in that twisted way. A narcissist." That statement was very eye opening to me...
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    Since then she has caused even more drama regarding my pregnancy. Which keep in mind I'm only 12 weeks so I can't imagine what else I'm in store for. Maybe I'll get into the other stuff that's happened in another post. I guess I don't really know what I'm looking for in posting this... Advice? Validation? An outlet to vent anonymously?
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    Maybe all of the above. Anyways, thanks for reading!
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