Mom gets reprimanded during birthday party for bringing her kid different cupcake because of food allergy, she stands up to other parents: ‘[You’re] creating an issue where none exists'

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Aug 13, 2024 6:00 AM EDT

Some people really do get a kick from sticking their noses in places they have no right to be in. As long as they get their way, they do not care what happens to everyone else in the process, and it is honestly getting tired. 

This Reddit story is the perfect example of someone looking for a problem where there simply isn't one. OP (original poster) is a mom whose 3-year-old daughter got invited to a friend's birthday party. OP, who knows her daughter has an egg allergy, decided to make an egg-free cupcake so that her daughter won't feel left out, while also not demanding anything out of the parents who organized the birthday party. Unfortunately, the fact the OP's daughter had a 'special' cupcake, different from everyone else's, didn't rub well with some parents at the party, and they decided to confront OP about it…

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    Am I the bad apple for bringing my daughter her own cupcake to a birthday party?
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    (Posting for a friend) My daughter Brynn is 3 years old and she was invited to a classmates bday party. (She is in preschool)I was glad to bring her for water slides and cake to celebrate her
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    classmates birthday. However my daughter has an egg allergy and I thought instead of putting that burden on another parent I would just get her an egg free cupcake myself. I still wanted her to take
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    part in the festivities and celebrate her friends birthday. I thought this was a good idea, but then while at the party another parent pulled me aside and asked why I brought Brynn her own
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    cupcake. I explained my daughter's allergies and she said she understood, but it might make the other kids feel bad since hers is different and "special". She added it might make the bday girl
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    feel bad bc it's supposed to be her special day. Now I'm not sure. I was trying to do right by my daughter, I wasn't trying to make the other kids feel bad. Am I the bad apple?
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    EDIT: I should probably specify the parent complaining isn't the parent of the bday girl, but another parent at the party. Sorry for the confusion.
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    HappyGardener52 · 2 days ago You gotta love people like that who stick their noses into something and create an issue where none existed. I think what you did was a good idea.
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    Beginning-End9098 · 2 days ago It's an unauthorised cupcake. Someone had to do something.
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    Kenma_Setter5 · 3 days ago Ntba. I do the same thing for my brother
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    notlikeyou71 3 days ago I don't think you did anything wrong. Your daughter is allergic to the ingredients of what's being served. Ask the host what she expected you to do? Ask her if she would have made accommodations for
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    allergies. I have relatives with numerous allergies who are left out of kids parties because of their allergies.. Some can't. even go to kids parties at all. It doesn't feel good to be left out
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    of things and down the line the kids notice that they are different. It's understandable that you want your kid to have something to eat at the party and feel included too.
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    crazybutnotn ts - 2 days ago As someone who was the allergic kid that could never have the cupcakes, I'm so grateful that my mom made sure I had my own treat to enjoy. The kids eating the cupcakes didn't care, I didn't care, all anybody cared about was devouring sugar!
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    John_Tacos 3 days ago No Ask the parent what else you could have done? And don't let them say your kid should have gone without. If it becomes an issue, push the no eggs thing and no one gets cake.
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    Busy-Suspect-6278 · 3 days ago . edited 2 days ago You definitely didn't do anything wrong. I recall being in primary school and typically for kids with allergies usually their parent made/provided them with something to ensure they weren't left out.
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    Edited to add: it occurs to me also that when those of us with allergies celebrated a birthday sometimes we would bring in alternate items that were not in the realm of cupcakes like ice cream sandwiches, pudding cups and oreos and gummy worms for cups of dirt, or chocolate dipped fruit.
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    Perfect-Day-3431 - 2 days ago It really had nothing to do with the other parent, they are projecting how they might possibly feel rather than focusing on the needs of your child. No parent would enjoy sitting there watching kids have cake while another child sits crying
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    because they have an allergy to what is in the cake and can't eat it especially when it could be a life or death situation. So long as the parent of the child who is throwing the party knows the reason why
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    you had to bring your own cupcake, and I am sure they would rather your child gets to enjoy the day without being excluded and having to change everything to adjust for your child, no harm done.
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    andmewithoutmytowel 2 days ago NTBA, as a parent, I'd be relieved if you brought an allergy-free cupcake to a bday party, rather than making me be the allergen police when I'm not familiar with it. A friend has a daughter with an egg allergy, and I had no idea how much ice cream has eggs in it.
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    Tricky-Piece8005 · 2 days ago Meh. What is wrong with these people? Lots of parents of kids with allergies do this all the time. Ignore the stupid.
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