‘He messed this one up epically’: Selfish husband orders wife one slice of cheesecake for her birthday, she bursts into tears

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JR Atkinson • Writer and Editor
Aug 13, 2024 6:00 PM EDT

Birthdays, while generally being a nice occasion to celebrate yourself, can also be the perfect venue for hurt feelings. Adrenaline runs high, expectations can soar, and even if you don't mean it to be, it can be an emotional day. I pretty much always cry on my birthday, for some reason or another. Usually, they're happy tears, but sometimes they're overwhelmed tears, and sometimes they're disappointment tears. Because people around you can let you down. It can be an opportunity for them to show you how bad they are at planning or how little they actually know about you. 

That's what happened to one woman whose husband of almost 20 years let her down big time, and made her feel bad about it. It will probably turn out to be a birthday she will remember forever, but maybe not for the better. Read on for the story and decide if he really let her down that horribly.

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    AITA for crying when my husband bought me a birthday cake,
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    I F(43) am celebrating my birthday today. My kids and husband M(39) stayed home to have lunch and celebrate. We have been married for almost 20 years and is safe to say he knows well what I like and don't like.
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    While preparing breakfast, my husband went to get coffee and returned home with a small cake to sing Happy Birthday. When he pulled out the cake from the package, it was a chocolate German cake, his favorite, from a local pastry shop he had been craving to try for months. He also
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    pulls out a small container with a slice of cheesecake, my favorite. He proudly announced he bought the cake as it was the only one available, and that he wanted to buy a whole cheesecake but they only had portions. So he thought it best to buy the entire one and bring me the slice since is the one I liked.
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    Don't get me wrong, I appreciate the gesture, the cake is for everyone to eat, but my face probably changed and he started asking me if I didn't like it. I told him I loved it as best I could, but couldn't help my eyes getting watery and tears streaming down
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    after that. He started making faces and getting annoyed. I told him in front of my kids 15 and 12, that I didn't want him to feel like I was being ungrateful, however, I couldn't help to feel bad as it was his favorite cake and pastry shop, not something I liked. And not because I didn't like the flavor of
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    the cake, is just the lack of thought behind the action. I think I wouldn't have felt as bad or reacted that way if he hadn't bought the cheesecake slice to confirm that is in fact what I like and he knows it.
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    Turbulent-Oven-9191 . 2 hr. ago NTA it takes 2 minutes to order a cake/cheesecake. I just did it for my wife, and do it every year. Its so easy. I would have cried as well. How is this a kind gesture?
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    Like he thought halfway through getting coffee, "Oh I should buy her a cake. Sure do hope this bakery has what she likes. Darn, they only have the cake I like, and its made and ready to buy, guess I have to buy it. Oh I was suppose to get her a
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    cake. Let me make it up to her by buying one small piece of her favorite, and I will tell her I tried and I will get some times for her birthday. God I am the best husband."
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    Salty-Initiative-242. 2 hr. ago Right? My husband and I just have a quick convo before birthdays, like what cake do you want this year? The usual or change it up? And then if it's not a home baked one, I call and order it.
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    Instead this guy makes her cake all about him and she should be thankful for getting a slice at least. If he'd called ahead, he could have had his cake and ate hers too.
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    Sleepy_felines · 2 hr. ago NTA. He chose what HE wanted for your birthday. My boyfriend's 11 year old made me a cake for my birthday this year. Lemon drizzle cake (which he knows I love) with cream to pour over (even though he thinks I'm mad for
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    doing that!). Did it look professional? No. Was it expensive? No. But it tasted amazing, it was made with love, and it was incredibly
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    thoughtful. If an 11 year old that I've known for a year can do that, your husband of 20 years needs to massively step up his game.
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    dncrmom 2 hr. ago NTA please buy a cheesecake for his birthday & one slice of chocolate cake for him. Apparently that is the new birthday tradition in your home. The purchaser gets the cake THEY like best.
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    Salty-Initiative-242 - 3 hr. ago NTA he used your birthday as an excuse to get the cake he's been wanting, rather than going somewhere that would have what YOU would like. Or hey, calling ahead to order a cheesecake - that's what my H and I do.
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    glamourcrow⚫ 3 hr. ago O dear, NTA This seams to have been the straw that broke your back. It's the small things. It's very good of you to call him out on this. He messed this one up epically. Happy birthday. Treat yourself to a cheesecake.
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    • jmccorky 2 hr. ago The only whole cake at the bakery was German chocolate, which just happens to be HIS favorite? Yeah, right.
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