Strict vegan dad flips out when 15-year-old son eats a hamburger at a relative's house, son retorts: 'He totally flipped out'

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    AITA for eating meat at my aunt's house when my dad wasn't around?
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    so i'm 15m and i live with my dad (45m) and his boyfriend, mark (40m). my mum died from cancer when i was 9, and then a year later dad came out as gay and started dating mark. they've been together since and i'm cool with it, i just want dad to be happy.
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    the issue is that since dad got with mark, he's become this vegan. like, out of nowhere, we went from eating normal food to everything being plant-based. at first, i thought it was just gonna be at home, but nope. dad decided that i'm not
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    allowed to eat anything that's not vegan even when i'm not at home. he says it's about "ethics" and not supporting animal cruelty, which i get, but i don't see why i can't make my own choices when i'm away from the house.
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    so here's where i might've messed up. i stay with my aunt (my mum's sister) every other weekend. she's always been really chill and doesn't have all these crazy rules like dad. a few weeks ago, i was at my aunt's place and she asked if i wanted a burger for dinner. dad wasn't there, so i figured, why not? i haven't had meat in forever and i was really missing it.
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    i ate the burger. it was amazing, honestly. i didn't think it was a big deal since it wasn't at home and dad wasn't around. but then, when dad came to pick me up, my aunt mentioned it. she wasn't trying to cause drama, she just casually brought it up, and dad lost it.
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    he totally flipped out on my aunt, saying she was disrespecting him and his choices and that she shouldn't be feeding me stuff that goes against his rules. then he turned on me, calling me ungrateful and saying i've betrayed him and everything he's been trying to teach me. since then, he's been giving me the silent treatment and hasn't talked to me at all. it's super awkward at home now.
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    i feel like i was just making my own decision, especially since i wasn't even at home. but now i'm wondering if i should've respected his rules even when i'm not with him. i really don't want to hurt him, but this whole thing feels so unfair.
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    AITA for eating meat at my aunt's place when dad wasn't around? should i have just stuck to his vegan rules even when i'm not at home?
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    CrimsonKnight_004. 20 hr. ago NTA Flipping out on - you and your aunt is not okay. And giving you the silent treatment? That's a control tactic and not healthy in any relationship.
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    You're more than old enough to be able to make your own choices about your diet, if you'd like to be vegan or not. Him making that choice for you is what's unethical. He doesn't have the right to force that lifestyle on you, especially when you're not in his home.
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    I think it's up to you to decide if it's best to bring and bear it until you're 18 and hopefully able to move out on your own, or start standing firm in what you want in your own diet. Either way, I think it's worth talking it over with a counselor at school, to help you navigate this. The way he's treating you around this subject isn't okay.
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    insuranceguynyc 18 hr. ago This! IMHO you are not the AH here. I believe that your father's reaction and behavior is way-way-out of line. At 15, you are perfectly capable of making your own decisions about what you eat. Of course,
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    at home it's your father's rules, but otherwise this is just controlling and isolating - assuming you can no longer visit your aunt - and is just weird and stupid.
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    FuzzyMom2005 · 20 hr. ago NTA. You're growing into adulthood. You need to be able to make your own decisions. In a few years, you'll be in college and making a lot of your own choices. Your father is being completely unreasonable - not uncommon for a convert. As long as you don't bring meat into his house, it shouldn't make any difference to him. Veganism is HIS choice, not yours.
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    StrangerOnReddit 20 hr. ago NTA. I don't think it's fair for your dad to be forcing his beliefs regarding food on you like that, especially outside of the home. If it were me i'd continue to eat how I want outside of the home, and just be more careful to ensure he won't find out.
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    Particular-Owl-5772. 19 hr. ago I'm vegan. I was forced to eat meat until I was 18 because "my house my rules". I made the choice waaaaaay before that. Because I was old enough to choose but not to break their rules i ended up resenting them a ton.
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    I understand (and agree) with them wanting to educate you on animal welfare but forcing their views on you is just gonna make you resent them and want to do the opposite. ΝΤΑ
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    Amazing_Ad_9920 - 20 hr. ago Your dad is on a power trip. He can control what he eats and where his money goes and nothing else. You have to choose for yourself. NTA
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    Having-hope3594 20 hr. ago. NTA. At your age, it's good to try new things and enjoy some freedom under the supervision of responsible adult like your aunt. Making a child go completely vegan is fairly oppressive.

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