Couple Uninvites Groomsman’s ‘Nightmare’ Girlfriend From Wedding, He Insists She Comes Anyway, Causing Tension Within the Friendship

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Aug 15, 2024 12:00 PM EDT

Welcome back internet enthusiasts. When planning your wedding, it's normal to want to curate it exactly how you want it to be; from the cake, music, venue, and guests, it's all your say. We've all heard the term 'bridezilla,' but let's face it, it's her wedding so she has the right. It wouldn't be the first time that someone outside of the bride and groom chose to try and dictate wedding plans. Inappropriate, but some people lack that kind of tact. This brings us to the Reddit piece. 

It's about a couple engaged to be married, and they have a strict rule about +1's to the wedding. The couple has to be together for 6 months minimum for an invitation. The groomsman is being more than difficult; not only has he been in a relationship for less than 6 months, but his girlfriend has caused such chaos in their short relationship. Long story short, she isn't invited. But he thinks he'll have the last say. 

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  • 01
    TWO r/TwoHotTakes • 7 hr. a TAKE Upset-Feeling-3507 AITAH for not wanting our groomsman to bring his horrible partner to our wedding?
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    First time posting in this and I'm really at my whits end here. So I (27 Female) and marrying my fiancé (31 male) in a few months.
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    We had previously set a standard that if people hadn't been in al relationship 6 months prior to wedding day they couldn't have a plus one so we wouldn't have random people at our wedding that we didn't know.
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    Long story short, one of the groomsmen got a girlfriend and we can't stand her. She is mean to him and others, controlling, manipulative, and just a horrible individual. We've tried getting to know her on 4 separate occasions and have not enjoyed ANY experience as she always makes it
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    about her and they ALWAYS end up in a fight where they break up. (They've broken up 8 times in 2 months that we know of). She got mad at him (and screamed and yelled at him) for talking to me about getting her involved and me inviting her out with me and my friends more all while she
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    was actively dancing on other guys and intentionally making our friend jealous
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    She deleted every text I sent so it looked like I was ignoring her and went to him crying that I was ignoring her and that we weren't putting in effort when I was! I have every text I ever sent her where I was being nice and trying to make plans with them.
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    Said groomsman brought up bringing her to our wedding and my fiancé and I discussed and ultimately said no and gave all our reasons why. She doesn't respect us, me or him individually and she is not someone we want to surround ourselves with because the drama that comes
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    with her is NOT something we want to deal with on the best day of our lives. (There's soooo00 much more she's done in the multiple encounters we've had and the things he's told us but it'd take forever to get through.)
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    He sent us a text and said he, in fact, WILL be bringing his partner or he will no longer attend. Before hearing our response he went and got fitted for his tux. Which made me even angrier that he thinks we're just going to let him bully us into letting them come.
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    We are trying to decide what to tell him as he's veryy important to my fiancé. Like family important. So I guess I just need advice? What should we do.... And AITAH for not wanting her there and getting angry?
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    Edit: the relationship thing 6 months before the wedding was so there weren't people that we didn't know at our wedding day that's supposed to be surrounded by the ones we love! There are always exceptions and anyone who questioned the "rule" text or called and we had conversations
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    and tried our best to accommodate. He was not given a plus one. And she very clearly does not want what is best for us. Our venue has a very strict guest limit so we had to make cuts somewhere.
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    Second edit: he did not start dating her until after invitations were sent and +1's were decided.
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    tcrhs 7h ago "Your girlfriend is not invited. If that means you won't come, we accept your decision and we will miss you."
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    markbrev 7h ago He doesn't get to tell you whose coming to your wedding. Your fiancé needs to reply to his ultimatum with "I'm sorry that our friendship means that little to you and we'll miss you on
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    the day. I'll tell the outfitters to cancel your tux. Hope to catch up after our honeymoon when you and me can have a beer."
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    spectaphile 6h ago. Solid bet that the girlfriend actually sent that message. I would have the fiance call him to confirm. If thats the case, y'all know what to do.
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    If not, then a serious conversation is warranted. But if he is going to attend, you're going to need to (1) have someone keep the groomsman's phone (for everyone's sanity) and (2) hire security because this crazy B will definitely try to crash.
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    turtle_time52626 • 7h ago NTA. It sounds like your fiancé needs to sit down with this friend and have already clear conversation. about his gf. If he is considered family, your fiancé should be able to be
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    honest and it's important that he is. This all sounds toxic as 1. At the end of the day, you have to hold your boundary on not allowing him to come to the wedding if he brings her. They probably manipulate the out of each other
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    and now he's trying to pull that on you as well.
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