Man Demands a Paternity Test When Friend Tricks Him Into Thinking His Kid Isn’t His, She Leaves Him After the Test Comes Back Positive

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Aug 25, 2024 2:00 PM EDT

Welcome back internet enthusiasts. It's never a comfortable feeling when your partner has that one 'friend' that feels a bit bigger than friendship. It can be disheartening and overwhelming to wonder about your partner's loyalty to you. It's not healthy for any relationship, and often ends in a breakup. No one can live in the shadow of doubt, fear, and insecurity. It plays games with your psyche, and you either become a shell of yourself, or you leave them. This brings us to the Reddit thread. 

In this thread, the original poster (OP) gets ideas in his head about his wife's relationship with a close male friend. The friend ends up moving across from them in a different country, but once the pregnancy announcement sounded, the guy up and left. OP got a message from a mutual friend suggesting he have a paternity test done on the baby. After talking to his wife, she agrees to it, and when it comes back positive he's left in shambles in the wake of her divorce. 

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  • 01
    Fast forward to 2023. We found out she was pregnant. I was over the moon and both of us was extremely happy and excited. He stopped visiting and after like two months or so he moved back to his city. My ex and I had mutual friends. That's where one of our friends started connecting dots and started telling me how she had suspected something but
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    r/AITAH 4 mo. ago what_if93 Asked for paternity test. It's positive. Now what?
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  • 03
    First of all I know I made I big mistake. I know I hurt her but hear me out and be honest with me if I still could fix what I've broken or not. I'm Russian so don't mind my English. I'm using a throwaway.
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  • 04
    | 32M started to date 29F in 2021. We had a great relationship. She's calm, sweet and considerate. We dated for a year then moved to another city. Everything was going great. We made new friends and built a life there. Problems started when a male best friend of hers decided to move to the same city and found
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  • 05
    himself a place right across the street.
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  • 06
    Things started to change. He would visit almost everyday, my ex was people pleaser. I tried to make it clear to her that it's getting annoying and that I don't like that guy but she couldn't bring herself to tell him or set some boundaries. He was handsy and flirty in a way I couldn't stand. She would hint that she's not comfortable and he would
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  • 07
    behave but 5 mins later he starts with his usual. And she end up telling me that he mean nothing and he's like this with everyone.
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  • 08
    Fast forward to 2023. We found out she was pregnant. I was over the moon and both of us was extremely happy and excited. He stopped visiting and after like two months or so he moved back to his city. My ex and I had mutual friends. That's where one of our friends started connecting dots and started telling me how she had suspected something but
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  • 09
    kept quiet because she didn't want to be the reason a two people separate but can't hold this anymore. And played with my mind.
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  • 10
    She said that my gf and her best friend probably had a thing going on based on the way they used to act whenever we were out with our friends. And how it's strange of him to leave just as she got pregnant. She suggested that I don't put the baby on my name until a paternity test has been completed.
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  • 11
    I told my gf about this and she didn't take it well. She broke up with me instantly and after a few weeks agreed to the paternity test thing, but she made it clear that nothing will change, that she will never forgive me and won't ever come back to me if I ever regret what I did and ask for forgiveness. I told her we could just forget about the test but she
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  • 12
    insisted. Our boy came few days ago and we did the test.
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  • 13
    Yesterday I got the results. And yes, I feel my chest terribly tight with regret. I didn't drink or eat anything, I couldn't even bring myself to go to work today. What do I do now? When we broke up I never stopped helping throughout the pregnancy, she refused almost everything but still I was always there for her.
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  • 14
    Deep down I knew that baby was mine but the damage was done and I went with the plan. What to do now? How do I make it up to her? I know she would never come back to me. But how do I properly apologize? Just what to do now?
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  • 15
    know why i got called names about it in the comments. I'm happily ready to do everything in my power to be the best dad to my son and of course financially too. Also I did try to explain and genuinely apologize before even the test but she wouldn't listen. I'm ready and never gonna stop trying to apologize to her for the
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  • 16
    hurt I caused and I will always be there for the mother of my child. As for now. She just gave birth I won't add up with my problem. I will be there for her until I feel like it's a good time then I will ask to talk about it.
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    Edit: for people asking how did I brought up the test. We talked about it home. I asked if she still thinks that her best friend behavior is okay, she said yes. Then I tried to reason with her by asking her if it were the other way around would it be okay for her to see another girl being that flirty and handsy with me. then
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  • 18
    she say "you don't have a childhood friend that I knoew of". Then I went and told her if he's behavior is still okay for her then would it be okay for me to ask for a paternity test. She said if I don't want kids I should've told her before and that she have no problem to go back home (another city) and raise her baby
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    alone. That's where I lost it and said something along the lines that she's going after her best friend and asked if this is was their plan(wrong of me I know). She broke up with me instantly. And just like I mentioned in the post. Few weeks later she called..
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  • 20
    Last edit: the mutual friend is married. She didn't make a move or anything but she's an ex friend now.
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  • 21
    For people asking what the male friend did to make me this insecure. Well whenever they're sitting beside each other he would keep running his hand up down her arm, ankle, or back (based on the way she's siting). He would compliment her body or when she change her hair color he would ask her to go back
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  • 22
    to whatever color he loved to see on her.. (he could be really just too comfortable with his female childhood friend but I thought he could at least behave a little now that she's in a serious relationship). Also some of you asking why I didn't talk the guy directly. I didn't want to make her feel like a controlling freak so I
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  • 23
    tried to communicate with her and let her handle it -The way I handled the whole situation was wrong. When I accused her for planning to go back to her city town just to be close to him, was wrong of me too.
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  • 24
    Far_Nefariousne... 4mo ago Just co parent. It's over.
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    FruitParfait • 4mo ago What do you do now? Apologize, Provide child support or work out custody agreements and be a good co-parent. That's all you can do.
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    • Taliesine 4mo ago Don't be surprised when "the friend" that poisoned your mind makes a move to get you
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