Woman Reveals to Brother That Nobody in Their Family Likes His Fiancée, Brother Tells Fiancée, Causing a Huge Rift in the Family

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Sep 6, 2024 9:00 PM EDT

When you marry someone, you are not just marrying them, you are marrying their entire family. This is not just a saying, this is something anyone who is in a serious relationship should keep in mind. If one doesn't have a good relationship with their partner's family, then one should get ready for some real challenges.

That being said, the responsibility of maintaining a good relationship with the family lies both with the partner and the family, and both should be on their best behavior with each other. It should be a group effort, and anything less than that Is just not going to work.

The woman in this Reddit story doesn't seem to put in the effort to like her brother's fiancée, which is already causing some strains on her relationship with the family. Even though the sister claims the fiancée is difficult, it doesn't look like anyone in the family was particularly nice to her either.

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    Well, Mike told Rachel everything I said, and she lost it. She called me crying, saying I've ruined her relationship with our family and that she doesn't feel welcome anymore. My brother is now furious with me, saying I should have just kept my mouth shut. My parents are staying out of it, but they don't disagree with what I said.
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    AITA for Telling My Brother's Fiancée the Truth About Why Our Family Doesn't Like Her?
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    So, I (28F) have a younger brother, "Mike" (26M), who got engaged to his girlfriend "Rachel" (25F) about six months ago. From the outside, Rachel seems like a nice enough person—she's polite,
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    friendly, and gets along with most people. But here's the thing: our entire family cannot stand her. And it's not for the reasons you'd think.
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    It all started when she met our family for the first time. My parents have a pretty quirky sense of humor, and we all tease each other a lot. It's all in good
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    fun, but Rachel took everything super seriously. She'd get offended at harmless jokes and would sulk whenever someone teased her, even in the lightest
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    way. We thought maybe she just needed time to get used to us, but it only got worse. At every family gathering, she'd find a way to make everything about her. If someone talked
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    about their job, she'd jump in with a story about how hard her work is. If we were sharing funny childhood stories, she'd cut in to talk about how tough her childhood was, even though we
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    were just joking around. She even tried to change our traditional holiday plans because they didn't “fit her vibe.” The final straw came when she tried to "improve" my mom's
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    cooking by adding her own spices to a dish at Thanksgiving. My mom's a great cook, and this did not go over well. Rachel acted like she was doing us a favor, but it was really just insulting.
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    After months of this, Mike finally asked me why our family was being distant with Rachel. I was honest and told him that while we all tried to like her, she's been
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    stepping on everyone's toes since day one. I mentioned how she doesn't seem to respect our family's dynamic and how her behavior at family gatherings has been pretty off-putting.
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    Well, Mike told Rachel everything I said, and she lost it. She called me crying, saying I've ruined her relationship with our family and that she doesn't feel welcome
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    anymore. My brother is now furious with me, saying I should have just kept my mouth shut. My parents are staying out of it, but they don't disagree with what I said.
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    Now, Rachel is demanding an apology, but I'm torn. I was just trying to be honest with my brother, but now I feel like I've caused a huge rift. AITA for telling my brother the truth about why our family doesn't like his fiancée?
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    OverlordBaron • 16h ago Nope, you're not the . You were honest with your brother when he directly asked why the family was being distant with Rachel. It's not like you went out of your way to bash her; you!
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    simply explained why her behavior has rubbed everyone the wrong way. Rachel's constant need to make everything about her, her sensitivity to harmless teasing, and that whole Thanksgiving cooking fiasco were
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    legitimate reasons for the family's frustration. If she's upset, it's because she didn't want to hear the truth, not because you did something wrong. Your brother might be mad now, but he asked for honesty, and you gave it to him. So, NTA―you were just trying to clear the air.
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    Dorado-Buster28 • 15h ago If you "playfully tease" someone and they get offended or irritated, stop. If you do it again you are just a bully.
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    Ghimel 12h ago Not gonna lie, your family kind of seems obnoxious. That being said, ESH.
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    Amazing-Wave4704 16h ago • Why do I get the feeling "teasing each other a lot" is closer to bullying? I didn't realize til decades later how poisonous my family's 'humor' was. "Just JOKING!!" the state motto of
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    bullies everywhere. That said, you told your brother and then HE told the fiancee. So technically you are not the AH. but you might need to look in the mirror. Here's hoping your brother does.
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    elizajaneredux • 15h ago ESH Rachel sounds immature and annoying. Your brother shouldn't have asked you for the truth if he didn't want
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    to hear it, and he shouldn't have told Rachel about it. But your family also sounds less than welcoming. Not everyone is used to - or wants - a dynamic where teasing is the norm. What
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    you dismiss as "harmless" might actually have hurt her. Did anyone ever take that seriously? Since you all know each other and she was the guest, it's on your family to try to help her feel comfortable with you. Honestly, everyone in this story sounds insufferable.
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