Sister offers to lend brother $800 for his rent, rescinds offer when he shows up to pick up the money with a freshly-done tattoo: 'He says our parents make him feel stupid about his decisions'

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    M HARD WORK!
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    AITA for not helping my brother with his rent after he showed up to pick it up with a new tattoo.
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    My brother asked me if I could please help him pay his rent. It was only $800 so I agreed. When he came by my place to pick it up I noticed he had a brand new tattoo on his calf. Like it still had the plastic on it from the artist.
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    He says that I'm the because I agreed without any conditions and that our parents make him feel stupid about his decisions. I don't think I should help him when he had the money and chose to spend it stupidly.
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    I asked him I and he said he had booked the tattoo months ago and that it was an artist that was hard to get to see. I told him I changed my mind so he had to go get it from our parents that berated him for his stupidity and poor decision making.
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    • JazzyCher 8h ago NTA he spent his rent money on a tattoo, and didn't tell you that's why he needed the money. I wouldn't be loaning anyone money who'd used theirs on a frivolous purchase like that. I've lent money to friends in tough spots because extra bills came up and they didn't have grocery money, or needed an unexpected car repair and couldn't afford the full bill, but nah if they spent their money on something like a tattoo, that should only be paid for with truly disposable income, I d
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    Kajira4ever • 5h ago Exactly. Brother can't get his priorities straight. Choosing a tatt over rent is wild imo
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    votemarvel 3h ago The brother is even more of an idiot when you consider if he'd worn a pair of long trousers OP would have known nothing about it.
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    JolyonFolkett • 5h ago Like a friend I had that always needed money for nappies (dipers) but was always smoking. It felt like they used their own money for ciggies so that they were honestly in need of money from family and friends for necessities.
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    • 3r14nd 8h ago NTA He should have had the money put aside for the tattoo when he booked the appointment. Not paid for it instead of rent when the appointment came about. He needs to be made to feel stupid about his decision.
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    PacVikng 7h ago NTA: You'd never see the money you lent him again. I spent years bailing out my older sister. Rent here, car payment there. She needs groceries, my niece needs school clothes. I ended up biying a house for her and my niece to live with me and keep her in a school she was doing well in (money I had been saving to open my own busniess). She'd miss her, even greatly lowered rent payments to me, not pay her share of utilities, car insurance, etc. Before it was all said and done she o
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    That didn't stop her from taking vacations to california, or buying herself a new car once her credit had recovered (thanks in large part to her stiffing me) I ended up having to kick her out, not because she was costing me a fortune but because she couldn't even show me the basic respect you give a roommate (cleaning up after yourself, viciously attacking me personally for asking her to do so).
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    Never saw a dime back from her, and somehow I was always the it didn't help that my parents continue to enable her to this day. I'm Loe contact with my parents these days and been NC with my sister for over two years. Cutting her out of my life has been nothing but positive.
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    LegPossible1568 • 8h ago NTA. You'd be throwing money down a black hole. Your parents are right. He has poor decision making skills at the very least. He needs to experience the consequences in making the tradeoff of spending money for a tattoo rather than for a place to stay. This is called adulting.
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    Prestigious-Maybe-73 8h ago NTA. I am sure if he told you why he was short rent money you might have made a different decision.
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    hairybearman123 • 6h ago NTA, although i will say - some tattoo parlours take 50% non-refundable deposits, or you pay in advance and cannot get that money back. if he paid the full amount in advance, months ago, then he might not have made a truly idiotic decision

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