'[You're] cut off': Solo-earning husband catches his wife spending $1000+ on takeout every month, he retaliates by kneecapping her financially and canceling all of their credit cards

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Oct 1, 2024 7:00 AM EDT

This man caught his stay-at-home wife throwing away his salary check, spending thousands every month because she was too lazy to eat the food in their well-stocked fridge. 

Most of us are taught from a young age that you pay for convenience. Like any service, when something is prepared, delivered, and brought straight to your door, you're likely going to be paying for it in spades because of the convenience of that item. In an era where there's an app for everything, we've all had moments of weakness where we spend $85 on a delivered sandwich from the shop down the street because we're too lazy or tired to go pick it up ourselves, but the woman in our next story had grown accustomed to ordering takeout once–sometimes twice–per day to sustain herself. 

Despite a fridge full of healthy foods, this woman swooned at the idea of making her own meals. But when her husband caught her spending $1000+ every month on takeout, he had to draw a line in the sand–and with the credit card company. Read on for the whole story of a guy who was forced to take drastic measures to keep their collective savings accounts from getting fully drained due to convenience fees.

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    Wife spending $1000+ on take out, stunned she's being cut off Oh no she didn't
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    I am 41 years old and male. My wife is 39 years old. My wife doesn't work due to a minor disability. It's not as if she cannot work, but she complains of discomfort and exhaustion all the time. The discussion over her working basically ended five years ago,
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    and I have completely given up on the prospect of her ever having a job again. Seeing as she doesn't even come close to qualifying for disability and brings in no income, we currently live entirely off my salary. I do not
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    mind financially supporting her, but my wife's spending habits have gradually become more and more reckless. It began with her ordering takeout twice a week, and then that escalated into three times a week, and now she's ordering takeout nearly every day.
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    This is all despite our fridge being stocked constantly. I do the shopping, and I make sure to even keep our freezer full of things she would only have to microwave.
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    Last month was a particularly heavy one for her. She spent $1,176 on delivery apps alone. We cannot afford this. There were several days that she ordered twice. I may have reacted harshly, but on Friday, I
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    pulled money out of our savings, completely paid off the card, and then canceled it. I then removed all the money from our joint account and funneled it into my own account.
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    Apparently my wife learned this when she tried to order takeout. She tried to call the company who explained the card had been canceled. She texted me asking what had happened, and I responded that she was cut off.
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    Well, when I walked in the door that evening, my wife was lying on the floor dramatically saying that she had "low blood sugar." I told her she could eat any of the food we have in our fridge or freezer. I also noticed that she took the garbage out,
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    probably for the first time in a decade (I'm surprised she even knew where the outdoor bin was). I can only assume she was disposing of the evidence of what she ate (as she was pretending to have not eaten), but I honestly don't care enough to dig through the garbage to find it.
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    She was furious at me all weekend. Was what I did over the top?
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    TCO_HR_LOL Use the average amount of money she would spend on food and buy her a fainting couch. Aw heck, maybe even a new one
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    emo bassist NTA $1176 on takeout? Thats a half a months wages for me. No this needs to stop and the manipulation with the blood sugar thing is beyond over dramatic and the fact she took then garbage after years of not doing proves she knows what she is doing
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    Additional-Aioli-545 Nope! NTA. The most I would do for her is give her an allowance for her personal items ONLY. If she spebds that on take out, well, sister, it you. to be
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    Individual-Foxlike It would have been better to have a proactive conversation, but you're still NTA. As someone with "minor disabilities", people like her disgust me. Is this really what you want to deal with for the next 30+ years?
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    Due-Travel2407 NTA. Spending over a thousand dollars on takeout while there's food at home, especially when you're the only one earning, isn't sustainable. I think it's fair to set some financial boundaries.
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    busterbrownbook Look if you have to go this far then maybe you shouldn't be married. She sounds like an exhausting child, but without the cuteness or potential.
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    Thefdt I'm sure your wife has many redeeming features which we aren't privy to but it certainly sounds like she needs to be told in no uncertain terms what is expected of her in a mutual partnership because it really sounds like she's bringing very little to the party right now
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