Entitled girlfriend rides the gravy train, expecting her boyfriend to pay $550 for the whole table at her birthday dinner, he refuses: ‘[She] treats you like a wallet’

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Oct 17, 2024 5:00 PM EDT

Just because your boyfriend makes a 6-figure salary, doesn't mean your FRIENDS get a free dinner...

This birthday girl thought that celebrating the day she was born entitled her and her friends to a free meal–at the expense of her money-bag boyfriend. Without warning, she expected him to pay for everybody just because he made a lot more money than they did. Sounds pretty presumptuous, doesn't it?

Every friendly gathering at a restaurant starts off with the best intentions before falling into disrepair. Nobody can agree on a time to meet, someone's going to be 30 minutes late, and by the time the meal is over and the bill comes, each friend is far too stressed out about the proper check etiquette to think straight. Why can't old friends meet up without the drama of a restaurant?

Well, the dinner in this next story turned out to be a major disaster after a man took his girlfriend out for her birthday dinner. Since the birthday girl wanted some friends to come along, he obliged. They all had fun until the check came and everyone packed up their things without a word and made a mad dash for the door, leaving the guy strapped with a $550 bill for the whole table. 

Keep scrolling to read all of the details of this frustratingly presumptuous dinner situation that'll make you cringe with disbelief at the audacity of some people.

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    Sex Shang House Roda "The thing is, I wouldn't have had a problem had she just asked"
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    AITA for refusing to pay for my girlfriend's birthday dinner?
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    So it was my girlfriend's birthday last week and she decided to have a birthday dinner over the weekend and invited her friends and some family that lived nearby. It was a good time and we all thoroughly enjoyed ourselves.
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    At the end of the night it came time to pay the bill and everyone just started to pack up and leave. I thought they forgot about the bill so I called them all back but my girlfriend said that I should
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    let them go. So I stupidly thought she had saved up to pay the bill. But no she expected me to pay it. She said that I easily make more than anyone there and I should just cover it as a birthday gift. She said this
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    like it was a small bill. The bill (translating to USD) was $550. Obviously a lot of money. This is so much money Most of the cost was alcohol which I had one glass of wine because I still had to
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    drive. So I said no, paid for my share and my girlfriend and the tip and left. That really soured my mood. When we got back to my place my girlfriend was a bit
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    tipsy and wanted to stay up but I just said I was tired and went to bed. I avoided her on Sunday and I woke up early before her to go to the office today and have just been ignoring her messages.
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    Some of our friends are saying I shouldn't be mad because it's not even that much for me because I make (translated to USD) a six figure salary. I still don't think
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    it was fair to spring that on me though. The thing is, I wouldn't have had a problem had she just asked. But the fact that she made it a surprise just irked me. I'm
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    thinking that perhaps I'm too caught up on the principle of the issue rather than the actions themselves. Edut: I didn't let the other guests leave before paying.
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    Ok-Horror-1049 NTA. But this again... I wish I could tell EVERYONE IN THE WORLD- before a group dinner, make sure you know what the plans are for the check! Your GF was the AH for not discussing this with you prior and
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    just expecting you to go along. You need to stop avoiding her, sit down, and discuss your boundaries (whatever they may be) in regard to her expectations towards YOUR finances and how/ if/when she is allowed to avail herself of them (especially w/o your prior consent).
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    Someone You DontKnow70 NTA. A low six figure salary isn't that much in this day and age, and $550 for a dinner is a ton of money, no matter how much you make. It sounds like you need to find yourself a set of friends who don't view you as a
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    gold mine just because you happen to have a good job. If they want to live paycheck to paycheck, that's on them. You shouldn't be blowing all your money on your girlfriend, her family, and your friends. You
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    should be saving up for a house for the sake of your future family, which may or may not include this girl. Based on this latest interaction, I advise you to go with the "not" option.
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    tinymi3 yikes NTA - I have a 6-figure salary and ** still think $500 is a lot to spring on someone! some kind of entitled for her to just expect you'd cover the entire bill for *her* friends and family. Assuming that your SO will just cover an entire dinner - without even asking - is pretty bananas.
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    What she did was presumptuous and disrespectful. Your money is not hers to use. That said, you should stop giving her the silent treatment, bc that's about as mature as what she did. It
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    doesn't take much to say "listen, i'm really irritated that you presumed I'd just cover the dinner without asking me first. I need some space to think this through and we can talk later."
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    Electrical-Ad-2785 Funny how money is not an object when you get to spend other people's money. You are not married...and it is time for a long talk.
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    xbabepearl NTA bro but honestly that's kinda wild like how do you spring a huge bill on someone. At least ask first if you expect that. Birthdays are cool tho so maybe talk it out
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    Endora529 NTA. Your GF treats you like a wallet. If was brought up that if you invited people, you paid. These people weren't your guests. They were here guests. She should have paid or let them know ahead of time that they had to pick up their own tab
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