Sister Kicked Out of Bride’s Wedding When She Shows Up in a White Gown, Bride Puts Her Foot Down About Respect

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Oct 23, 2024 2:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. I think we can all agree that it would be ridiculous to wear white to someone's wedding, right? For some reason there are countless people who don't understand this, and don't adhere to it. I guess they think the wedding is more for them and less for the people getting married. Some people just think the world revolves around them. 

In this Reddit thread, the original poster (OP) is a woman who got married, in conjunction with a bit of family drama. Before the wedding she made it crystal clear that no one is to wear white, which is what most women want for their wedding. Though she had already established her boundaries, her sister had asked if she could wear a white dress. The OP already expressed her concerns and discomfort surrounding the idea of someone else wearing white, but her own sister? The day of the wedding arrives, and lo and behold, her sister is not only wearing the color white,  but she's practically wearing a full length wedding gown. But you'll have to read the story below for all the juicy details. 

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    r/AITAH • 1 day ago AshleighBarkley AITA for refusing to let my sister wear white to my wedding and kicking her out when she showed up in it?
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    I (27F) got married two weeks ago, and it was supposed to be the happiest day of my life. My sister (31F), who I have a complicated relationship with, decided to test me in the worst way possible. We've never been close, she's always tried to one- up me, even during family events. It's exhausting, but I figured she'd
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    at least behave at my wedding.
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    Months ago, when I sent out the dress code, I made it very clear: no one wears white but me. It wasn't negotiable. My sister gave me attitude about it, saying I was being "insecure" and that "no one cares about tradition anymore." I told her that whether or not she agreed, she needed to respect it.
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    The morning of the wedding, she showed up wearing a floor- length, lace white dress. It was practically a bridal gown. My heart dropped, and I straight-up asked her what the she was thinking. She said, "It's not that white, and besides, no one will care."
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    I told her that if she didn't. change, she wasn't welcome. She threw a tantrum about how I was ruining her day and stormed off, telling everyone I was being "bridezilla." Some family members told me to let it slide because "she's just like that," but I was done.
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    So, I told the staff not to let her back in unless she changed. She never came back, and now she's telling everyone I ruined the relationship for good. My parents are mad, saying I should've just ignored her because "it's only a dress," but I feel like this was a deliberate choice to sabotage my day. My husband agrees with me,
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    but some family is still So AITA?
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    RedditAlComme... • 1d ago • NTA. Your sister disrespected your clear dress instructions and showed up in a white gown almost identical to a wedding dress. She was trying to steal the spotlight at your wedding. You were right to uphold your
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    right to uphold your boundaries and not let her ruin your day. Ignore the family members who say you should've just let it slide. This was your special day, and she didn't care.
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    takatine 1d ago • She threw a tantrum about how I was ruining her day... Excuse me? You were ruining her day?? WTAF??? NTA, and I would go low/no. contact with everyone who said you were at fault here.
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    ConcentrateLan... • 1d ago • Your sister sounds like a total drama queen. If she can't respect a simple dress code, then she doesn't deserve to be at your wedding. You did the right thing by kicking her out. It's your day, and you get to
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    your day, and you get to decide the rules.
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    babaduke999 • 1d ago NTA • Your sister sounds like a terrible person. "she's just like that," AKA "we all know she is a terrible person"
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    As far as your family that is for some bizarre reasons at you, ignore it. Truly, why give a f about what someone thinks when they have so little regard for you. O how dare you, you wanted your wedding to be free of terrible people like your sister.
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    DMmeNice NTA, it's universally 1d ago • understood white is reserved for the bride.
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    Fun-Manufactur... • 1d ago • Oh the audacity on her, She did that on purpose, She's the a he and not you. Every gaddamn person know's white is reserved for the bride and the bride only.
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    grayblue_grrl • 1d ago. "Ruining that relationship for good" sounds like a win for you. I'd take it. ΝΤΑ
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    thebearofwisdom • 1d ago • NTA, honey, with sisters like that who the f needs enemies? She did it on purpose. It's not even a case of "it's just a dress" it's the intent that matters. She intended to upset you. you off and
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    Everyone and their dog. knows not to wear white to a wedding, or at the very least they don't wear the brides colour dress. They also don't wear a dress that could very well be bridal. Not without having a specific idea in mind in order to put a spanner in the works,
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    I'm really sorry she did that to you, you didn't ruin your relationship it sounds like it was already broken by her. I'm a little older than her, but I can't imagine ever doing this to my younger sister, it's insane. Your family are being dumbasses they know very well what she did.
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    So my advice is, enjoy your new marriage, know that you "won" the war by making her leave (good job btw) and forget her childish behaviour. How pathetic do you have to be to want to f your own little sister's wedding day?
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    AshleighBar... OP • 1d ago. Sorry guys, going to hit the hay. I'll read and reply to as many of the comments as possible when I get up. Writing this took a lot out of me.
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    Talentless67 1d ago You're parents are mad, that tells you all you need to know, your wedding is second best to her choice of clothes.
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    I suggest you start to limit your interaction with your parents, as they see you as second best. NTA but your parent's and your sister most definitely are.
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