Pop psychologist riles the internet with claim that having a crush is an attachment issue: 'Can we stop acting like having a crush isn't one of the most normal experiences in the world?'

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Ally Perry • Writer and Editor
Oct 25, 2024 9:00 AM EDT

Look, I am the biggest advocate of the idea that there is a lot to be cynical about when it comes to love and relationships, but even I have to admit that romance can be great. Done right, it has the potential to make us feel amazing. It can inspire us to do wonderful things for one another, and perhaps most importantly of all, in a world that's full of boredom and despair, it's just plain fun. Evolution knew what it was doing when it made this stuff happen!

Unfortunately, it is also easy to get overwhelmed by the negative side of it, as proven by a recent controversial tweet. One wannabe psychologist claimed that having a crush was merely the result of somebody giving you attention while you have attachment issues, leading to widespread protest. It may be true that much of the time, a crush is just a lack of information, but isn't it a hoot filling in the blanks?

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    @sonoreid you don't have a crush. you have attachment issues and someone is giving you attention
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    Tequila Mockingbird,... @iamjadebrieanne Replying to @sonoreid HUSH UP. Unless ya'll have psychology degrees, leave the therapy engagement bait to the professionals. It's a crush. You think they look good and dream about ya'll being together. It is perfectly normal.
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    ladidai (@ladidaix) ... @ladidaix Replying to @sonoreid no i have a crush G M
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    President-Elect Togu... ❤ @PresidentToguro Replying to @sonoreid You people turn every normal thing into a pathology
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    AEIOU @tired_sun_aeiou Replying to @sonoreid My attachment issue is having no gf.
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    ColdSire coldsire ❤ @ColdsireSetup Replying to @sonoreid Ah, the modern-day Romeo's dilemma: is it love or just my inner Labrador craving endless pets and attention? Time to get a leash for your feelings!
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    KARKL Paris @yevgenyonegin @hnwrote If you have cherub cheeks they say it's high cortisol if you have a crush they say it's limerence. I am but a round faced angel sent to love others because it was written. n.n 595.1K 1,121 36.3K
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    clintoris @clintoris We aren't doing this in 2024. You have a crush and that's it. No pathologizing. No diagnosis. Free yourself from the confines of pop psychology and enjoy your fleeting experience on earth
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    dr. bl @borzoilover47 Disregard, that, Frank. It's a bunch of pop psychology bulls
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    Ozzy @ozzyetomi No. People can have crushes. Free us from tiktok psychologists please!
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    Amelia Horgan @AmeliaHorgan sooo fascinating that the assumed position of health is the absence of desire
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    alice @ribslyrics gerardwaist people b saying things SO definitively. like man i think it depends
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    A.♡*: @negraesoterica one day we're gonna talk about how gen z is SO | afraid of everyone & everything & terrified of getting hurt (again) that we've weaponized therapy-speak, philosophy, psychology, & any other terms that imply a deeper consciousness as a way to avoid any intimacy or connection
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    Arbeitology @Arbeit_Fish It's funny that the conclusion the internet has taken from "attachment theory" is that all attachments are symptoms of trauma and that the perfect subject should be attachementless
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    Ernie LuckMan @ErnieLies Young people began pathologizing everything because they think it absolves them for responsibility
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    sunglasses and basebal... @strawberrygorly some of you are so boring. have a crush! it's fine! dare I say a fun little time.
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    Jasmina @UneJamJasmina Can we please stop acting like having a crush isn't one of the most normal experiences on earth?
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    Nick | Cameo Arc @Nikpicking You really haven't crushed enough in a lifetime if you think crushes are based on the attention you get
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    chapell ronin @bobo_circus you don't feel human emotions. no love, no joy, no sadness. you are merely a moldering shamble of meat, possessed by a variable flow of neurotransmitters
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    ECO GOTH@grimreaperemoji You know it's ok to have a crush and just do nothing about it and not worry excessively about what kind of attachment you have like it doesn't really matter at all
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    bosco *6* @selentelechia enjoying and valuing attention isn't an attachment issue it's just human
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    keysmashbandit ❤ @keysmashbandit at long last we have built the island from the famous saying, "no man is an island"
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