Woman Refuses To Let Entitled Sister ‘Borrow’ and Repurpose Her Old Wedding Dress, Family Urges Woman To Let Sister Have Her Way: ‘I was taken aback’

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    refusing to share. They said that since I'm married and "done with the dress," it shouldn't be a big deal. But it is a big deal to me. I want to keep my dress as it is. They suggested I just "let her
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    AITA for Refusing to Attend My Sister's Wedding Because She Wants to "Repurpose" My Wedding Dress?
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    Throwaway account because family knows my main. 1 (28F) got married last year in a small but beautiful ceremony. My husband and I spent months planning every
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    detail, and the highlight for me was my wedding dress. I saved up for years to buy this dress-it was my dream dress. It's this beautiful lace, A-line gown with intricate beadwork and a long
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    train. I felt like a princess and still get emotional just thinking about it. Fast forward to now: my sister (26F) is engaged, and her wedding is coming up in six months.
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    She recently came over to our place to chat about wedding plans. At one point, she casually mentioned that she'd love to "borrow" my dress. She thinks it would be
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    "cute" to "repurpose" it, maybe by shortening the skirt or even dyeing it a different color so it's "unique to her." I was taken aback. I told her I wasn't comfortable with her altering my
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    dress, especially since it has a lot of sentimental value to me. She got upset and said I was being selfish because she wanted to save money on her wedding, and "family should support each
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    other." When I stood my ground, she accused me of "not caring about her big day" and stormed out. My parents later called me and said I was "breaking her heart" by
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    refusing to share. They said that since I'm married and "done with the dress," it shouldn't be a big deal. But it is a big deal to me. I want to keep my dress as it is. They suggested I just "let her
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    have her way" to avoid family drama, but honestly, I feel like it's my dress and my decision. Now my sister says she "won't feel comfortable" with me at her wedding
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    unless I "show my support" by letting her use the dress. I don't want to miss her wedding, but I also don't want to give in to something I'm not comfortable with.
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    AITA for refusing to let her "repurpose" my wedding dress and considering not attending the wedding?
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    Princes... 4h ago. NTA. It's your dress, and your sister is being unreasonable.
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    PorkyMcRib 4h ago. NTA. You don't just get to decide to claim somebody else's sentimental property. Let alone decide to hack it up and change colors. I would refuse to go under any circumstances.
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    Sassy-Peanut . 4h ago. OP-I'm guessing your 'golden child' sister has always bullied you and enlisted your parents to back up her manipulative behaviour. You are married now and it's time to stop being a doormat to your former family. Former because you and your husband are a family now and you two come first.
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    You have a right to refuse and tell your cheap- sister to buy her own dress. And book a romantic weekend away with your husband for the date of the wedding. Your sister doesn't care about you anyway, only getting what she wants. Stand in front of a mirror and practice saying NO with a smile - it's very freeing.
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    Seaworthiness... 4h ago. Does anyone in your family have the keys to your place? If they do, change the locks. Your sister is the spoiled golden child. NTA
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    ForkliftGirl404 4h ago • . NTA, a wedding is one of the biggest events in a person's life. Your sister sounds like she wants to one up you by using your dress but making it 'better'. Don't give in OP, if you do, it'll not only ruin the memory of your wedding, but the item you cherish from it the most.
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    bent If your family is so that 'family helps family' then everyone can pitch in to help your sis get her 'unique' dress she wants.
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    Cat_got_ya_to... 4h ago. Your sister sounds entitled and immature (which does not bode well for her nuptials). You can go to her next wedding. NTA
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    LilyLaura01 • 4h ago • If your sister wants to "repurpose" a wedding dress then there are plenty in charity shops that she can ruin to her hearts content. The sheer entitlement is just so r de and disrespectful. Tell her
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    the only other person that will be entitled to YOUR dress will be your daughter if you have one. As for your parents, they need to just not and respect your wishes and feelings. NTA
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