'I thought he was joking': 30-year-old man demands to pick his friend's wife up from the gym instead of getting his girlfriend from the airport, internet insists he's cheating

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Nov 4, 2024 11:00 AM EST

This traveler is coming to the realization that her relationship with her BF might not be on the up and up. 

Sometimes it takes a particularly honest person to set you on the right path. It can be a close friend, a parent, or a therapist. But for some people the moment they see the truth can be when a ton of strangers on the internet are all telling you what's right in front of your eyes. 

U/Prettylittlequin was stunned when her boyfriend decided to prioritize his friend's wife over her. Though she needed a ride home from the airport, the friend's wife also needed a ride home… from the gym. People on the r/AITAH subreddit were confused as to why she couldn't just get a ride-sharing car or ask a different friend to get her… the timing is very inconvenient, isn't it? Commenters almost universally told this person that something was up with her BF. Maybe he's cheating on her, maybe not. But whether he's cheating or not, he doesn't seem to respect his GF very much, and that's a good enough reason for her to leave him ASAP. 

Next, this person is "charging my 16-year-old nephew rent" by taking 10% of his salary, which quickly ignited a feud amongst other family members who disagreed with the tactic. 

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  • 02
    AITA for being upset that my boyfriend wouldn't pick me up from the airport and chose to help his friend's wife instead?
    via u/Prettylittlequin
  • 03
    I (28F) had been away on a week- long work trip. My boyfriend (30M) and I had agreed that he would pick me up when I landed, so I was looking forward to seeing him. I had this image in my head of a sweet reunion at the airport where he'd greet me, help me with my suitcase, and we'd go home together. But the morning of my arrival, he texted, saying he couldn't make it because he had to pick up his friend's wife, who needed a lift home after her gym session.
    via u/Prettylittlequin
  • 04
    I thought he was joking. I mean, it's the airport, not a casual meet-up. I told him my suitcase was heavy, that I was tired, and asked if he was seriously bailing on me for a friend's wife, but he just replied with, "Sarah, come on II and then, "I HAVE TO HELP MY FRIEND! Not everything in the world is about you." I felt shocked and hurt. It was like I was an inconvenience to him rather than his partner who he should want to see.
    via u/Prettylittlequin
  • 05
    For context, this "friend's wife" is someone I've barely met, and while he's good friends with John (her husband), I never expected she would be prioritized over me, especially not at a time like this. He claims I'm being selfish and making a big deal out of nothing, but it honestly feels like he's setting a really troubling precedent for our relationship.
    via u/Prettylittlequin
  • 06
    Am I supposed to just be okay with him dropping everything for someone else even if it's not an emergency? When I got home on my own, he acted like nothing was wrong and didn't even apologize. I brought it up, and he said I was being dramatic and that it was just "one ride." Now I'm starting to wonder if he sees our relationship as something casual, or if he's just that oblivious. But maybe I am
    via u/Prettylittlequin
  • 07
    overreacting? Some of my friends say I have every right to be upset, while others say I should give him the benefit of the doubt. AITA for expecting him to prioritize me, or am I being unreasonable and selfish?
    via u/Prettylittlequin
  • 08
    madeinspac3 Help his friend, cause her hands are too broken to hit up an Uber from the gym? But wait she probably wouldn't be at the gym if that were true. Also how did she get there? This sounds really shady, especially the way he is acting.
    via u/madeinspac3
  • 09
    NTA and you're right that you are second to a casual friend. To make it worse he bailed on a prearranged plan. to get you which kinda stranded you with no ride.
    via u/madeinspac3
  • 10
    bino0526 Girl, Runnnn!!!!!!►►►►► If he prioritized picking up his friends wife over picking you up, what else would he prioritize over you. Why didn't she get an Uber or Lyft? Why did he have to be the one to pick her up? It's time to reevaluate your relationship. There is no benefit of the doubt.
    via u/bino0526
  • 11
    ComplexSever... NTA. I would leave this relationship. You are obviously second in his mind. If your partner treats. you this way, then you are an inconvenience to him. The friend's wife story is shady as ¨. Run and run far.
    via u/ComplexSevere8771
  • 12
    Poperama74 NTA your boyfriend s ks. Seriously, he wanted to give his friends wife a lift home after her sweaty session at the gym.... Yeah, we both know what's really going on there. Time to have a rethink lady
    via u/Poperama74
  • 13
    Life-Yogurtclo... You're partner is his friends wife. Why could he grab her and then grab you? Because you both can't meet
    via u/Life-Yogurtcloset-98
  • 14
    F I would've Uber'd to a hotel, turned off my phone, and let him wonder all night where I was. That was a level of disrespect I wouldn't accept. If you were at the gym and someone had an urgent need for a ride from the airport, I'd understand making my way home from the gym. This situation was the opposite. NTA.
    via u/PuffinScores
  • 15
    So he could've taken her home from the gym and got you a little bit late - also somewhat acceptable. But he just LEFT YOU THERE. Petty me wants you to make a date (tell him he owes you that to make it up to you), have him meet you there, and then call him after you know he's arrived and say your friend Tim is in town. and it's been soo long so
    via u/PuffinScores
  • 16
    you're eating with him. instead. Do post cozy pictures of you and said friend. Get home really late. And then pack your sh and leave as soon as possible EDA: Gray rock him and don't beg for him to understand while you get your new home set. Your new emotion is indifference.
    via u/PuffinScores
  • 17
    Conscious-Saf... I would be totally watching the friends wife and him cause it sound like they are more then friends. And the way he down played your feelings is another red flag.
    via u/Conscious-Safety376

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