Female showdown sparked when in-laws invite one DIL for family dinner, but not the other, revealing obvious favoritism, causing rejected DIL to uninvite SIL from baby shower

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    r/AITAH • 18 hr. ago Thepaladin_princess AITAH for not telling my SIL in advance about dinner with my in-laws?
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    My husband's family invited us to dinner, and we happily accepted. Once we arrived, we realized my BIL and his wife (they're expecting their first baby) weren't there. My FIL commented that he enjoyed these dinners with us because we could have positive conversations without BIL and SIL bringing negativity, so we laughed and went to the restaurant.
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    In our family group chat, FIL sent a photo of the sushi spread (no people, just food). Shortly after, I got a text from SIL: "You really went to dinner with _ without inviting us?" I realized she'd seen the photo, tracked my location, and saw I was at the restaurant. I asked the table for advice, and my MIL suggested I tell SIL it was
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    last-minute and we didn't want to bother them, given their early schedules.
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    After I texted that, SIL replied, "Completely inconsiderate you wouldn't invite us. We invite you to our home all the time, and I'm pregnant and would have loved to enjoy dinner with family." I was shocked, as she'd never been this direct before.
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    I didn't respond as my husband advised. Now, my MIL has created a baby shower group chat and left me out despite discussing the event for months. So, AITA for not telling my SIL in advance about dinner with my in-laws?
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    WeeklyBloom ⚫17h ago • I don't understand why you didn't tell her that you were invited and surprised when they weren't there.
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    I also don't understand why you are letting your MIL throw you under the bus with the baby shower. Your husband needs to talk to his mom...yesterday.
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    Fresh_Caramel8... • 17h ago • I'd reply with the truth. “ILs invited us to dinner. We thought you'd be there too. Not sure why you're mad at me." And why is she able to track you!?!
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    fuzzy_mic 18h ago • FIL and MIL invited people to the dinner, not you. It wasn't your place to invite anyone.
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    Your elder inlaws sound like real pains in the Inviting you (not SIL), then talking bad about her and husband, then suggesting you lie to SIL, then excluding you from the baby shower chat.
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    It sounds like MIL and FIL are stirring family drama. NTA
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    Ameglian 17h ago INFO: why on earth do you have your phone set up to allow your SiL to track your location?
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    RandomReddit... • 17h ago • SILS anger is directed at the wrong person. Your MIL & FIL invited you out. You don't then go invite other people. That's would've been rude and inconsiderate. Your MIL seems a bit messy.
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    Ok_Bit1981 17h ago • MIL threw you under the bus, time to tell the truth. She is actively excluding you when it was HER and her husband who didn't want them there. This is a set-up; set the record straight!
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    lapsteelguitar • 17h ago • Time to spill the beans, and get OUT of the middle of this mess. Tell your SIL that her parents invited you, and it is not your place to invite others. Shame on your in-laws for trying to make you the bad guys.
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    RugbyKats 18h ago You should have replied that you were the invitee, not the inviter, and you did not feel it was your place to ask her to come. Then it becomes an issue between your in- laws.
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    MomToShady 15h ago • I'd be careful OP, sounds like your MIL is playing games and wouldn't be surprised if she threw you under the bus as the reason SIL was not invited. Family dynamics can be as bad as politics.
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    Apart-Scene-90... 18h ago. Are you an a hole for not telling her in advance, no. But YTA (and so is MIL) for lying to her to cover that the in laws didn't want her there. Now because of that you're the bad guy in her eyes because she knew that was lie and truthfully can't blame her.
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    Because it's not the lack of the invite. It's the lie to cover it up

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