Parents demand daughter pay for her ticket to family vacation, despite them paying for her sibling, daughter pretends to comply, then doesn't show up on the day: ‘Have a nice trip’

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    "Have a nice trip with your favorite child"
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    AITA For canceling on our family cruise?
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    So, my parents wanted to do a cruise for the holidays. They invited me (25f), my boyfriend (27M), my brother (28M), and his girlfriend (26F).
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    My brother (let's call him "James”) has always been the golden child. Some backstory: Back in high school, when James was discovered to be selling pills, he was just "going through a
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    phase". Meanwhile, when I got caught smoking wd, my parents threatened to kick me out. James lost his scholarship and dropped out of college 3
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    different times, but he's still perfect! I graduated a semester late and I didn't try hard enough. James still lives in the state where he attending college, and I live in
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    my home state near my parents. He doesn't work, he's not currently in school. My parents buy him flights all the time to come visit, but don't buy me a flight to go see him or go anywhere else.
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    My parents send him money for rent and life necessities. He bought a $2,000 dog recently with that money. When I got my first big job at age 22, my parents immediately
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    kicked me off their insurance since I had the option of benefits. James was on their insurance until he turned 26. Last year, I got! id off and moved back in with my parents
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    to save money. When I got my new job, my parents told me I needed to pay $10,000 in "back rent" which was never discussed previously. (I did finish paying it off and recently moved in with my boyfriend!)
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    This has been a pattern my WHOLE life. James gets everything handed to him and I have to work my a off. So, now to the cruise.
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    My parents said they wanted to do this, and bought tickets for themselves, James, and his girlfriend. They told me to get my own ticket since I have a well- paying job. I was super upset, and
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    told them it wasn't fair that I was the only one who had to buy their own ticket. (My boyfriend couldn't come due to holiday plans with his own family).
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    My parents said I was acting spoiled and that "green wasn't a good look on me". I am so tired of hearing that phrase at this point. They said it's not like I had to get a nice room since we'd be
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    outside it the majority of the time anyway-which is true, but then why get James a nice room? I decided I had enough and I wasn't going. But here's where I may be the ah_le. I let them
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    continue thinking I was for months. Then, on the night before they left they said to get to their house by 8 am so we could start the drive to the port. At 8:30 that day, they start messaging me asking where I am.
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    I texted them "since you didn't want to put the effort in to have me join you, I will be attending my boyfriend's Thanksgiving instead. Have a nice trip with your favorite child.” Then I muted the chat.
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    I talked to some friends about this, and some said it was petty of me to cancel with no warning, and others said I should've sued it up and gone since I would've had fun when I got there.
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    They've been on the cruise for a couple days now, and I'm starting to regret how I handled things. Yeah, I probably would've had fun, and it's not like I couldn't afford the ticket. I also could've handled the delivery better. But
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    at the same time, I'm so sick of them treating me like this. So, AITA for cancelling on our family vacation?
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    Kazu 1008 17h ago • • Wait, did I read it correctly that they charged you $10k back rent, which had NEVER been discussed prior, and you PAID it?! NTA, but I would have gone low contact with them and definitely not even contemplated going on a trip with them. Save that for people that enjoy you OP.
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    ameinafan • 17h ago • they bought tickets for james AND his girlfriend? They even like his girlfriend more than you? Hmmmm...NTA... if you're to be the black sheep anyway, give them a proper reason.
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    babe_lemon 17h ago • NTA. It's understandable that you're frustrated by the unequal treatment and lack of consideration. You have a right to stand up for yourself and set boundaries with your family.
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    kukonimz 17h ago • • NTA. Your parents are AH and they should be grateful you still talk to them, though I don't really understand why you do.
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    heyclau 17h ago • It was definitely petty, but honestly, why would you want to spend more time with family that treats you like that? I understand them paying things to your brother since he can't afford and it's their money,
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    when they're clearly favoring your brother all that time?! They still went to the cruise, so I don't think it was a big deal. I'd go low to no contact with them, since they seem to be indifferent to your presence, and it would save you a lot of trouble too.

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