Women Lashes Out At Foster Child And Fiancé After Getting Criticized For Constantly Cancelling Plans, He Questions Whether She's Ready to Have a Child of Their Own, Rocking Their Relationship Stability

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Shelly Pearl
Dec 6, 2024 6:00 PM EST

One of the best things about having a partner is that you almost always have someone to do things with or to go to events with. Going to a work function or a party with a partner is way better than going alone. Sure, sometimes alone time is fun, but what's better than having your favorite person along for the ride? Unfortunately for the guy in this relationship, the rug may have been pulled out from under him. In every relationship, there's usually one person who likes to plan ahead and another who goes with the flow, adapting to changes as they arise. They usually complement each other, but occasionally, their differences can clash. That's exactly what happened in this couple, though one might argue that one partner was simply blowing the other off. I'll let you decide.

From cancelling plans to attend a scheduled stand-up show, to backing out of a work event, and then lashing out at her partner and their foster child, this guy is seriously rethinking who he's living with and who he is marrying. And if he's not, maybe he should be. What does this mean for their future? Hopefully, these two 'lovebirds' can work it out, but that is, if they can still be called that at this point. What would you do in this situation? I don't know if there's one right answer or a side to even pick here.

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    I am feeling really defeated and she has been cranky with me since, I just feel like it is childish that she won't just talk to me. What really broke the camels back was how she as been short and snappy with me AND the 4 year old boy we foster for a weekend a month, she locked herself away
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    r/AITAH firehag Am I the a hole for considering ending a 6 year relationship because my fiancée cancelled our plans?
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    I (28F) and my fiancée (26F) had a disagreement the other day. For Christmas we got 4 tickets to a standup show, so we invited 2 of our friends to
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    come along, made plans and booked a restaurant before the show.
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    It is now less than 2 weeks until the show and my fiancée told me that she can no longer go since she's playing a football match that evening. I got
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    upset since it is so close to the date and I don't really have other friends that go well with the once we invited. I said it felt like she wasn't prioritising
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    me as this had been planned for 4 months. She got angry at me for being upset and said I didn't understand and
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    then started saying some hurtful things. I decided to let it go. Yesterday we had dinner at her parents
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    house and I asked her about an upcoming event for my work (also less than a month away). She told me that she wasn't going to go to that, as her
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    cousin had invited her to see their new baby and spend the night. I again got upset and told her she had already said she was going to go and that I had
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    asked to add her to the invitation list. She said that she couldn't go another day ti her cousins as she had work and made it out as I was making a big deal
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    out of it. When I kept arguing said it might make me look bad at work with such short notice she said something along the lines of "fine I guess I just won't go see my cousin then".
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    I am feeling really defeated and she has been cranky with me since, I just feel like it is childish that she won't just talk to me. What really broke the
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    camels back was how she as been short and snappy with me AND the 4 year old boy we foster for a weekend a month, she locked herself away as I
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    gave him a bath, we watched a movie and did bedtime. I feel like if she can act like this not only to me, but also
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    ignore a young child, what does that mean for possible children in our future?
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    Please give me some advice I'm not sure what to do. I have asked her to talk to a professional but she doesn't want to.
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    Am I the a hle for considering ending this relationship?
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    Competitive-Wee... NTA-you already know what you need to do. If she is going to treat an innocent child that way why would you want to be with her.
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    GPT4 NTA. It seems like you're being very reasonable here. In a relationship, good communication and understanding are key, and it appears that your fiancée is not showing you the respect or consideration you deserve. Cancelling plans last minute and not taking into account your feelings is not a fair way to treat a partner.
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    Fat... NTA she is not prioritizing your relationship at all. You should never have to beg a partner to give you basic consideration.
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