19-year-old son refuses to leave school in order to fund 21-year-old sister's college education, who blew through parents' $20K gift in 3 months: ‘I immediately refused’

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Dec 13, 2024 1:00 PM EST

If you were written off as the rotten apple in the family compared to your siblings, this story might hit home.

Parents, whether they try hard to hide it or not, clearly play favorites when it comes to their children. For many, if they're not the poster child for a Harvard graduate, they'll feel the judgement radiating off of their parents and that judgement will continue to burn deep within.

When the so-called golden child finally reveals their exterior is simply gilded, the rotten apple is expected to help them rise from the ashes, Phoenix style. That's not how these things work, as shown in the story you're about to read.

This 19-year-old is expected to take a year off of college, which he worked very hard to get to, so he can fund his sister's college education. The kicker: She blew through twenty thousand dollars the summer before school, and now has to work at her university to get the funding she needs to continue her enrollment. After years of the 19-year-old facing harsh criticism from his parents, he finally puts his foot down. Why should he sacrifice his life to help his sister, who had everything handed to her throughout their childhood? Scroll to read.

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    "I don't want to put my life on hold because [my sister] is an idiot."
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    AITAH for refusing to get a job to help support my sister through college?
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    I'm 19 and male. My sister, Megan, is 21. Throughout high school, Megan was the star child. I would be lying if I said that this didn't make me feel some degree of animosity towards my
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    parents. My father used to make me clean the bathroom because, and I quote, "With those grades, you'll never amount to anything more than a janitor anyway."
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    In my first year of high school, I had a crime committed against me, and due to PTSD and panic attacks, I found myself unable to go most days. Megan, on the other hand, got into a
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    highly-ranked university as a freshman. This meant that the little money my family had went to her, and my parents transferred $20,000 to her at the beginning of the summer before she went.
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    Megan went wild with the money. Eating out 3x/day, w d, parties, more w d, and a loser W boyfriend led to her burning through almost all of it in three months. She then neglected to tell
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    our parents until the night before she left, which caused an enormous fight. After dropping out, I studied for the GED and passed. I then applied for community college, which
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    I'm currently attending. I plan to transfer to a 4- year university, although I'm confident I will never be seeing a penny from my parents for it.
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    Since Megan blew through her college money, she has had to work in university, which is something she complains about endlessly. Her school is
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    across the state, so living at home is unrealistic. Our parents do everything they can to support her, but we were never rich to begin with.
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    Last night, my parents called me to the living room to talk about a plan. The long and short of it is they want me to take a year off of school to work at my uncle's company. I
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    will be using this money to help support Megan until she graduates next year. In return, my parents will be able to help me more.
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    I immediately refused. I don't want to put my life on hold because Megan is an idiot, although I didn't say that. My parents tore into me about how I was "only going to community
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    college," and how I "didn't go to high school anyway." Since I refused, they've begun calling me "The Notorious GED," and Megan has been texting me about how huge of a selfish ah lelam.
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    Should I bite the bullet and take one for my family here? I could take a year off and be fine I suppose.
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    ( • 14h ago Edited 13h ago • NTA. Find a roommate situation and get out. It won't just be a year, you'll end up working for your uncle until Megan drops out or more likely gets kicked out of college.
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    Stay the course. Your life is about you, you're not some drudge to be subservient to your sister. Good luck in school! You're doing it right; GED, community College then 4 yr college. Do not quit.
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    tigerofjiangdo... • 15h ago • NTA do not give her a penny. Your sister will never learn responsibility because she is an entitled brat spoiled by your parents. Hold your head up and as soon as you can go NC with the whole lot of them. Your parents s k.
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    Con4America • 14h ago. NTA. Tell your parents and Megan that she can take a year off and work at your uncle's company since was so irresponsible and blew all the money she was given. Tell them you would just be enabling her bad behavior.
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    There is no guarantee she won't do it with any money you give her. If she was really that great of a student, she would have. gotten scholarships to the school.
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