Woman Snubbed by Friend Who Increased Her Pet Sitting Price Last Minute, She is Accosted by Friend When Approached About it, Causing Friendship Fallout

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    exact, and it was very defensive and extremely inflammatory. Lots of justifications, explanations, gaslighting and then a hint at me and my partner owing her gratitude. I responded by reminding her that I was asking a question to make sure we were on the same page and I was
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    r/AmltheAsshole bravernaker WIBTA if I cancel a reservation with a friend for her services because I feel like she overreacted?
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    I (33F) have a bit of a dilemma and I would like some help figuring this one out.
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    My friend (38F) runs a small pet care business out of her home. I will soon be traveling and cannot take my pets with me, so I asked
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    her if she would be interested in taking them for the dates I would be away. She agreed and gave me a quote. A week later the subject comes up and the quote
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    changes. We were not in private, and discussing the subject further was nearly impossible (loud kids barging into the room we were in). So, the next day I asked her
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    about it, it was a very simple question along the lines of "hey when we talked last week we said X but yesterday it seemed that was no longer the case. Did
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    something change?" Her response was long and winding, 5 paragraphs long, to be exact, and it was very defensive and extremely inflammatory. Lots
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    of justifications, explanations, gaslighting and then a hint at me and my partner owing her gratitude. I responded by reminding her that I was asking a
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    question to make sure we were on the same page and I was trying to understand what changed. She responded with more of the same. She claimed to
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    be upset that I didn't bring it up the day prior (ummmmm I had, we just weren't able to finish the conversation for aforementioned reasons). So, In my frustration I conceded. She made me feel
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    really out of pocked for asking a simple question. And I'm not sure if I'm the ah le or not here. But here's where I'm at now. I'm honestly feeling very stuck and I
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    no longer feel good about this transaction, but I also don't know what to do about the friendship. I don't want my pets in her care for various reasons, the exchange
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    being one of them, but the other being her children's behavior around my dogs. She's also extremely busy all day long with many kids and pets of her own,
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    and I worry that my pets will be neglected. Overall I feel really crummy about this situation. I don't know if I'm over reacting or if I'm warranted here.
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    I'm not sure what to say at this point. I just don't feel good at all about my dogs being with her now and I don't know how to end this without ruining the relationship and feeling like I'm the a ole.
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    So, WIBTA / AITA? ETA: it's not about the quote at all to me, the price change was slight. It's the principle of the matter and her reaction. She also
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    claimed holiday pricing for the entire stay when in reality the holiday pricing would only apply to the actual holidays, not all 3 weeks I'll be gone. By doing this she claimed that she was giving
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    us a huge discount charging us normal prices instead of holiday prices for the 3 weeks (not counting actual holidays).
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    UPDATE: I cancelled the services. Left things vague, thanked her for her consideration and wished her happy holidays. Her response was scattered and weird like the ones
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    prior, but now I'm no longer worried about my dogs, nor do I have to deal with more adult tantrums. Thanks all for your help on this one. I really appreciate it.

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