Woman Cuts off Ties With Family After Years of Mistreatment, Family Claims She Is Being Dramatic: 'They never liked me'

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Shelly Pearl
Dec 22, 2024 7:00 PM EST

Families have complex dynamics. If you think about it, it makes the most sense, since the people who evoke the most emotion from us are those closest to us. Often our families know how to rile us up, make us smile, and exactly what to do to press our buttons, but what happens when you're the one who constantly feels like the black sheep of it all? We can't always be included 100% of the time, but we like to think it's a give-and-take. In an ideal situation, you feel like you belong the majority of the time. On the contrary, this woman definitely felt left out most of the time. Can you blame her for running away to New York City?  

When you feel detached from your family your whole life growing up, a lot of unresolved feelings can fester. Sometimes these feelings can blow up in everyone's faces and create some deep family trauma for all. That's exactly what happened in this family. We aren't sure who is in the wrong here, but one thing for certain is that it could have been handled better on both sides. What would you have done? 

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    She got visibly angry and said that I'm being dramatic. I said there's a reason I came to NYC for school and there's a reason that no one in my family tried to stop me, encouraged me to stay closer, and why not a single one of them asked when I'd come back.
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    r/AITAH Student Naive3292 AITA for telling my Mom that it was very obvious they never liked me, and that's it's good we don't have to pretend anymore?
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    Do parents even need to pretend?

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    I never fit in with my family and they made sure I knew it. They were disappointed that I'm not into all the stuff they're into, I have no interest in board games or video games, I don't like.
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    I'd hope there is some middle ground they can still find. I guess it takes two to tango.

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    fantasy or science fiction novels. Maybe when I was really little and I just wanted to "fit in" with my family.
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    Isn't that all we can hope for? If we are going to fit in somewhere, you would hope it would be with your family. 

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    I tried to fit in, but they never did the same for me. My brother mocks things I like, my parents just watched it happen. Or even join in. My friend's mom was SO
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    Talk about a strange way to show affection. Maybe everyone is just speaking a different love language and is on a different frequency. 

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    nice and took us to the Eras tour. My own Mom just laughed at me when I showed her pictures of our outfits. I found a show I thought everyone might like (White Lotus) and they literally
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    started just making fun of it from the get go. After years of hard work I got into a NYC school and moved here with 2 friends and one of their
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    cousins. I know in my heart this was me moving out forever. Even after just a few weeks of being here with them, I feel more
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    accepted than I've ever felt in my life. Well my mom facetimed to see how things were going and I told her it was amazing. I could literally see on her face that she
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    just did not care. I mentioned that we were all excited bc it's my first Christmas in NYC and we'd get to see cool things.
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    She kind of smirked and rolled her eyes. And I think that really broke something in me. Because my friend's Mom that's a burnt out peds nurse literally
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    made us a schedule of things we COULD do and see this week and asked us to send pics of the tree and eveyrthing.
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    So I said to her that it's okay and she doesn't have to pretend anymore. She said she didn't understand. I said she doesn't have to pretend to be interested or care about what I'm doing.
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    That I know they never liked me and that they were happy I was leaving.
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    She was stunned and asked me why I would say something so horrible, of course she and Dad love me. I said you might love me, but I know you guys don't
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    like me. You never stop rolling your eyes at the things I say, you never show interest in anything I do, you make fun of me for liking things you don't like. When I told
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    you I was going to move to NYC you started talking about turning my room into a library. She got visibly angry and said that I'm being dramatic. I said
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    there's a reason I came to NYC for school and there's a reason that no one in my family tried to stop me, encouraged me to stay closer, and why not a single one
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    of them asked when I'd come back. And that it's fine, I don't care anymore. I have the family I need here.
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    She told me that I suddenly think I'm too good for my own family. I told her that she's always thought they were too good for me, so | guess it works out. AITAH
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