Fiancée demands $25,000 of $50,000 bonus to give to her parents for their mortgage: 'You’re already showing you don’t care about the people who matter to me'

Brad Dickson • Managing Editor

Dec 23, 2024 12:00 PM EST

When it comes to finances and fiancées, it's important to understand that you're about to be married and, on the one hand, your finances are about to be completely connected with this person… and, on the other hand, your finances are about to be completely connected with this person. So, you'd do well to consider how this person is perfectly willing to hand out $25,000 to family without reaching a joint decision on the matter, not to mention being willing to use emotional manipulation in order to do so.

Sure, it's your parents, and it's only natural to want to help them if they need it. And your finances are about to be wholly shared in the immediate future, so is it really that important to insist on independence in the immediate moment? None of us is perfect, and no relationship or marriage is either, but this is definitely the type of thing that you'd want to get straightened out before tying the knot and considering how your partner's family is going to affect your finances is most prudent.