Fiancée demands $25,000 of $50,000 bonus to give to her parents for their mortgage: 'You’re already showing you don’t care about the people who matter to me'

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    AITA for refusing to share my bonus with my fiancée's family? I (30M) work in tech and had a fantastic year at my job. I recently received a significant year-end bonus $50,000 - and I was - thrilled. I've been saving for years to buy a house, and this bonus is going directly into my house. fund. My fiancée (28F) knows this and was initially very supportive.
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    Then she dropped a bomb on me. She asked if I could "spare" $25,000 of my bonus to help her parents pay off their mortgage. Apparently, her parents have been struggling financially, and she feels it's "only fair" since we're going to be married and they're going to be my family too.
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    I said no. I've worked extremely hard for this money, and while I feel for her parents, I don't think it's my responsibility to bail them out - especially when I've never even been asked directly by them. Her response? She called me selfish and accused me of "not caring about her family." She then brought up how her parents have "sacrificed so much" for her, and it's the least I could do.
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    She's been cold to me ever since. She's also told her parents about my bonus (without my permission), and now I'm getting guilt-tripped by them. They haven't outright asked for money, but they've made several comments about how "lucky" | am to have extra cash and how "some people don't get that kind of opportunity."
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    When I mentioned that I plan to use the money to help secure our future with a house, my fiancée said, "What future? You're already showing you don't care about the people who matter to me." I don't think I should have to justify how I use my bonus, but now even my own friends are split on whether I'm being reasonable or stingy. AITA?
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    G.. If they "sacrificed so much for her" SHE should help them pay their mortgage. I would think long and hard about continuing with this one because this is going to be your life. She's happy volunteering your money. and then she's childish when you tell her no. NTA
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    WhyAmlStill Her... NTA On the bright-side, you discovered her priorities. before you did anything like. adding her to a deed or marrying her. Find a new fiancé,
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    Far-Season-695 Pretty sure this is going to be the rest of your life. You being expected to pay for her and her family. If you want that go for it
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    B.. Leave. Just leave Your fiancee has revealed who she is before the wedding. Asking you to subsidize her parents is so inappropriate. If this becomes an issue your fiancee and her parents will remember and forever mar your marriage, Id kick myself for marrying her.
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    Your fiancee has made it clear where you stand in relation to her parents. She overshared about your salary. That her parents have the audacity to make snide comments hoping to steer you towards donating to them is insulting and inappropriate.
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    When I mentioned that I plan to use the money to help secure our future with a house, my fiancée said, "What future? You're already showing you don't care about the people who matter to me."
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    Stick a fork in it. This relationship is toast. I say confirm what your fiancee is proclaiming and surprisingly agree with her. Then she can give all of the money her parents need NTA and keep an eye on your wallet. EDIT: AND DONT GET HER PREGNANT
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    Extension_Pea... I would find a new fiancée.
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    LearnsFromExp... Good thing this happened before you got married. Sounds like you have some serious thinking to do. You have ZERO responsibility to fix her parents' lack of long- term planning and judgment.
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    Educational-Wa... I would be so humiliated to ask my bf to PAY for my family! Yikes I think you'd better end things now, this is ridiculous. (Congrats for the hard work You put in to be awarded the bonus).
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    Different_Rope... NTA. Run boy, run! As fast as you can! She's gonna use you as a pay pig for her family.

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