Woman Argues with Fiancé Over Mother-in-law's Demands to Wear White Instead of the Bride, Causing Heated Family Rift

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Shelly Pearl
Dec 24, 2024 8:00 PM EST

We don't know which is juicer, the original post or the update. Both are filled with way too much family drama for it not to be turned into reality TV. Who do you think we need to call? At this point we don't know who is more dangerous, a controlling mother-in-law or a momma's boy. We'll let you decide! Good luck! 

Planning a wedding is already a challenge, no one needs the mother of the groom campaigning to wear white, things are already complicated enough. Also, the suggestions for the bride to wear lavender or pink? Do we need to call a doctor? They say you can't choose your family, but hopefully, you can be a bit more careful regarding the family you marry. But alas, you can't help who you fall in love with, let alone who their family is. Here's to hoping true love can conquer all, these love birds have made it this far. Things are about to reach a boiling point, you might want to open a window. 

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    My fiancé for some reason though this was a fair compromise??? He also said (not asked) that his mom could walk me down the aisle so she can get her moment in her dress. I told him absolutely not and we got into an argument about it.
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    r/AmlOverreacting Past-Professional 384 AIO, fiancé asked me to not wear white at our wedding.
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    Brides wear white, how is this even a question? 

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    Have you ever seen "I love a mommas boy?" Well that's my life basically.
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    There perhaps is nothing more dangerous than a 'mommas boy' when planning a wedding.

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    I (27F) have been with my fiancé John (28F) since high school. We dated and broke up because his mother "Debbie" (53F) convinced him we were too young to be in love. We broke up and went to
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    How could anyone be more heartless? And a mother nonetheless! 

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    college. During my sophomore year we started talking on socials again. He apologized and said he missed me. We got back together.
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    True love conquers all! 

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    Cue the water works. Debbie literally CRIED the first time she saw we were back together and told John that I have done witchcraft on him???? I've always respected Debbie out of respect
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    If you're not going to say it then I will, we are all thinking it. Debbie Downer! 

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    for my mother and upbringing. I was not raised to go back and forth with my elders but she definitely abuses that.
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    A bride with class! If he doesn't take her down the alter he needs more help then we thought.

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    Since John and I decided to get back together she has tried to hook him up with women from her church, her job and even asks her friends for their daughters to
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    give it a shot. John denies all of them and Debbie says that I'm controlling. John has told her to stop but not in a way I feel she gets the point.
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    Anyway, 3 months ago John proposed. Deb didn't come to the engagement party. Cool. She didn't come to the family dinner we had so both sides could meet.
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    Cool. John's dad came and apologized for his ex's behavior (he left her when John graduated HS) I told him don't worry about it.
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    The problems really began when John decided to confront his mother about how she's behaving toward our whole engagement. This turned on the lightbulb in his brain as he's
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    always tried to ignore it and tell me to ignore her. She gave him a sob story about how she got pregnant with him before marriage and never really got to have a wedding and this is triggering her. (She had a
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    shotgun wedding at the court house) He asked her what she needed to feel comfortable and she responded that if she wore white and I wore a soft pink or
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    lavender she would feel comfortable??? My fiancé for some reason though this was a fair compromise??? He also said (not
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    asked) that his mom could walk me down the aisle so she can get her moment in her dress. I told him absolutely not and we got into an argument about it. I told him that it's insane that he would
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    argue with me to defend his moms "honor" but wouldn't do the same the other way around. He accused me of being petty and selfish. It was bad. We both
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    have agreed to cool off but by how heated it got I could tell we both almost agreed to call it off. Now we're in a weird space and I love John but now see how much
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    he lets her impact our life. I just imagine her sitting at home with this evil grin knowing she's ruining my relationship with John and he's just putty in her hands. I think I should just call off the wedding. AIO? Or is it just a color?
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    Edit: the update is up. I couldn't respond to all the comments and I'll say some of you are definitely creative with comebacks and name calling. lol. Thank you all for the reassurance!!
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    Advanced_Lim... You have a BF problem that you are about to turn into a husband problem.
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    Steven8909 Not over-reacting. It's called co-dependency. She's essentially "dating" her son and anything that gets in the way of that is a "threat". It's actually pretty sickening.
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    TNElvisLover71 Personally, I don't think MIL would like ANY woman your fiance would've dated. Unless he can grow a spine and some balls, his future looks very bleak.
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