Woman is Isolated During Christmas Gift Exchange, Boyfriend's Family Gets Everyone Presents But Her, She Refuses to Spend Christmas with Them Again: 'I cried when I got home'

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Shelly Pearl
Dec 26, 2024 10:00 PM EST

We could all use some Christmas cheer, especially after reading this woman's sad Christmas story. How heartless can one family be? You'd hope that your significant other's family would show a little more consideration, especially after receiving thoughtful gifts from their son's girlfriend. But no. Let's be honest, it's simply bad etiquette, girlfriend or not. You can't invite someone over and give everyone gifts except them. Am I wrong? I refuse to believe anything else.

Here's hoping that next year's Christmas is filled with fewer tears, more love, and at least a few additional gifts, or at least some cards. Would you even consider going back to spend the holidays with them again? I wouldn't. I think it's about time this woman took a stand. She should take a long family trip to her own relatives and enjoy the Christmas traditions we all know and love. That will surely help her forget about these impolite people. I just hope her boyfriend will have her back from now on. Where is he in all of this? Hold onto your Christmas hats, folks, the waterworks are coming.

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  • 01
    It's not that I was expecting anything, I didn't need an expensive gift. That being said they are pretty well off, it's not a financial issue. But not even a card? After three years I was expecting at least a card. It breaks my heart because they are the only family I have since my own family live very far away. I cried when I got home.
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  • 02
    r/AmlOverreacting Hungry_Temperature63 AIO? Spent Christmas with my BF's family and didn't receive a single gift.
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    This is a diss if there ever was one.

  • 03
    My (f28) bf (m31) and I have been together for 3 years. I've spent a lot of time with his family, have been more than generous on the occasional birthday or holiday. I thought we had a good relationship overall but I guess I was wrong.
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    Do you know what happens when you assume? Bad things! 

  • 04
    They invited me over for Christmas, our second Christmas spent together as a "family". Not a single family member gave me a present or even a card. I spent months planning and wrapping the perfect gift for each member.
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    Well, this is just as awkward as it is disappointing. I wouldn't want to celebrate the holidays with this crowd again. Would you?

  • 05
    Spent hours shopping and wrapping. I sat and watched them all open gifts and even stockings for each other, even their family dog had presents (and a stocking). This is the second time this has happened.
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    Fool me once, shame on you, but fool me once shame on me as the saying goes. Shouldn't she have known better? 

  • 06
    It's not that I was expecting anything, I didn't need an expensive gift. That being said they are pretty well off, it's not a financial issue. But not even a card? After three years I was
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  • 07
    expecting at least a card. It breaks my heart because they are the only family I have since my own family live very far away. I cried when I got home.
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  • 08
    EDIT: Thank you everyone for responding. It definitely made me feel less crazy. I've tried to respond to as many as I could. So some questions to answer;
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  • 09
    No, I don't know their financial situation; However, all the siblings got cheques for $350-$500. So I really don't think a card was too much of an expectation.
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  • 10
    Yes I'm a grown adult and not entitled to a present; This was an all adult Christmas gathering, there were no children. I was not expecting someone else to create a meaningful Christmas experience for me. It's the basic etiquette that was the main issue for me.
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  • 11
    Am I breaking up with my bf? Do I blame him?; No I'm not breaking up with my boyfriend because Christmas didn't go the way I was expecting it to. Overall, if my bf was to blame it would be for a
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  • 12
    miscommunication and awkward situation he didn't handle the best. We've talked it out and are working out a solution that works for both of us. He tried his best to make the day special for me, got me some lovely gifts, and there was still lots of time tonight to make up for it.
    via u/Hungry_Temperature63
  • 13
    Do I think my in laws are terrible people?; I don't think they are bad people, I think what happened was unfortunate. Whether I was intentionally left out or forgotten about doesn't really matter. I know now that our relationship is
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  • 14
    a lot more distant and that's something we can mend in time. Going forward I won't be spending Christmas with them again for a long time and will prioritize spending time with my friends and making the long trip to see family.
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  • 15
    Thank you for everyone's response and kind words. I appreciate you all and Happy Holidays!
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  • 16
    XplodingFairy... If this isn't a money thing they don't value you. If this is the second year it's happened then your bf doesn't value you because that is absolutely terrible behaviour and he didn't set them straight the first time.
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  • 17
    Overall-Sched... Yeahhhhh that's fed. Me and my fiance have been together a little over 3 years and my family ALWAYS gets her things for Christmas and her birthday
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  • 18
    Claim-Unlucky Groceries were supposed to be your gift? ?
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  • 19
    joolster Next year a toilet roll for each carefully wrapped in slightly different shapes. "Oh, I thought you liked groceries as presents."
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  • 20
    agg1012 NOR. A card is a very simple gesture. I hope your boyfriend said something to his parents. Surely they can't be that clueless. And tacky as a host.
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