Girl is subjected to unsavory comments from another girl at mutual friend's birthday party, girl finally claps back: 'I didn't comment on her body, only my own'

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Baiz Hoen
Jan 22, 2025 12:00 PM EST

It feels like the age of body positivity is a bygone era. With weight loss remedies like Ozempic hitting the scene, plastic surgery technology broadening every day, and celebrities looking more and more like a yassified version of themselves every day, it's hard to imagine a world where people love the way they look. Growing up as a girl, you learn to scrutinize your body and appearance before you can walk and talk. Things that our mothers say to us or themselves seep into our souls and infiltrate our brains, and soon, we start saying them to each other. Something we don't even know to be hurtful because the older woman in our lives says it all the time can cut so deep when we speak it to others. And let me tell you, it can be cruel and nasty work, the way teenage girls speak about each other. 

One girl is deep in the awful stage of girlhood, and she shared a story on Reddit about a particularly cutting moment she experienced at a friend's birthday party. We've all lived through the mean girl at the slumber party. But have we ever stood up to them? See how this girl tried to stand her ground.


 

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    "AITAH for telling a plus size woman that I love being ‘skinny’?"

    I dread going to my childhood friend's birthday party every year. We moved apart a decade ago, and even though I'll always care deeply about her, we are very different people now and her friend group reflects this.
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    She has one friend, let's call her Amanda, who...without fail... has to comment on my weight EVERY single time she sees me.
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    'You're so skinny!' 'Do you even eat?' 'Does your bf care that you don't have curves?' 'Your legs are like sticks!'
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    For the record - I eat plenty. I just have a fast metabolism which keeps me super thin. I keep a strong face when Amanda says these things to me, but truthfully she's touching on my worst insecurities and it makes me dread going to these parties every year.
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    I was considering not going this year, until I talked to my mom about it.
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    My mom had (what I thought was) a great idea on how to deal with Amanda. She suggested I pretend she's giving me a compliment. My mom told me: "If Amanda says 'You're so skinny!', just smile and say 'Thanks! I love being skinny. And if she looks disappointed at your response, you'll have proven she was trying to insult you."
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    I thought this was great advice, however something I had failed to mention to my mom was that Amanda was overweight. I didn't realize this meant I was entering potential AH territory.
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    Anyway, the dreaded birthday party day comes. And of course, no surprise, Amanda immediately looks at my arms and comments how tiny they are. I ignored this comment. Then later on in the day, we were standing in a group together and she was eyeing me up and down. She chuckled to herself and says "God, you're so skinny."
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    And I thought, ok here it is. Here is my moment. I turned to her, smiled and said "Thanks. I love being skinny". And then, and I am completely serious here... SHE SLAPS ME IN THE FACE!!!!!
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    I was in complete shock, just staring back at her, mouth. hanging open with my hand on my cheek. Everyone was silent.
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    She suddenly bursts into tears and runs out of the room. Two of her friends chase her. Only one other girl and my childhood. friend asked if I was okay, but everyone else was just shooting me dirty looks.
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    I promptly left the party (which sucked cause I had a two-hour commute and had planned to sleepover).
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    The next day, I was texting with my childhood friend about it. She basically thinks that even though Amanda shouldn't have slapped me, that I was insensitive for saying "I love being skinny" to a plus size person. I argued that Amanda has been consistently insensitive to me every party. And I didn't comment on her body, only my own.
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    She told me that it's different because being skinny is socially acceptable, and that Amanda wouldn't usually do something like this but I triggered her with my 'insult'. My mom thinks I am in the right but this was all her idea so of course she does lol. So AITA for what I said to Amanda?
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    It seems like Mean Girls was a cautionary tale... let's get into the commenters' thoughts

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    You are not the AH! Why is it not okay for someone to comment on how overweight they are, but the same doesn't go for being thin? Imagine if you would have said "oh my, you are so fat" to Amanda every time you saw her? Screw her, go and have yourself a huge piece of cake and laugh about how you won't gain a pound!
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    NTA - Your friends s k. Find new ones. Amanda opened herself to an attack the second she commented on your weight. You could have made a comment about her being plus size and I still would say NTA. You didn't even do that. All you said was something about yourself. If your friends can't see that, then they are not friends.
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    ? She slapped you because she's jealous and unhappy. F everyone who doesn't get that and F Amanda too.
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    Well when you put it that way...

    NTA I'd press charges. She physically assaulted you.
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    Totally NTA - Amanda is a bu y and didn't like that she didn't get the expected reaction
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    NTA. Being plus sized doesn't give anyone a free pass to comment on other people's bodies. She was a bu y and when you called her out on her sh, she lost it and did what she probably wanted to do for a long time and punish you for her insecurities.
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    Of course, she's going to spin it differently and play the victim, but at the end of the day, you have to calmly tell your side of the story. P.S: Your mom was right.
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    Moms Rock!

    NTA I love your mom
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