Father and step-mom ask 20-year-old son to give $50k to teenage step-brother: 'They tried adding pressure for me to change my mind'

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Jan 31, 2025 11:00 AM EST

Imagine how startled you'd be if someone asked you to just suddenly give them thousands of dollars. It's bad enough when you have that one friend who always needs to borrow $20. This person is dealing with something more extreme: his own family wants him to give 5 figures to his step-sibling! 

That old saying goes that you shouldn't lend out money to friends or family in the hopes of getting it back. Instead, you should only give out "gifts" when doling out money. That prevents hard feelings from developing. Money matters can and do tear families apart. 

This person is living the dream, financially: he got a nice inheritance from his grandparents at age 18. Although that is awfully young to be in charge of such a large fortune, having a big nest egg is the key to having the exact future you want for yourself. 

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    "AITA for not giving any of my "inheritance" from my grandparents to my stepbrother to pay for college?"

    Because my mom did when I (20m) was young my grandparents, meaning her parents, set aside a decent amount of money for me and gave it to me when I turned 18 as an "inheritance" of sorts. They said to consider it money my mom would have left me if she'd
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    been older and had more to leave me. They told me to use it for college or to use it for my future. I went into an apprenticeship instead of going to college. I decided the money can go toward a house for me and my future partner in the future.
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    My dad knows about the inheritance and he was unhappy with my grandparents keeping him out of it. He told them it should have been something discussed especially when he remarried and he became a stepdad and a dad to more kids.
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    My dad and his wife had a lot of cr p going on in the last three years. My stepbrother is graduating in May and he wants to go to college. He doesn't meet the criteria for a scholarship, financial aid won't cover a lot for him and they can't help him out much with student loans because of the last three years. So my dad
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    and his wife asked me to give him at least 50k out of the money I have. Though they made it clear they felt I could/should be willing to give it all so he has a chance to proceed like he wants to. I told them I wasn't giving any of the money for him to go to college.
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    My dad's wife stormed out. Dad stayed and tried to tear me a new one for my decision but I shut him down and asked him to leave. I told him I did not want to hear him yell at me for not giving my money away. He said it's to help one of my siblings go to college.
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    They tried adding pressure for me to change my mind but I replied no one time to each of them and then didn't reply again. My stepbrother texted me last night and said I sucked for hogging all that money. He said I got a lucky deal with
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    grandparents who gave a cr p and he never got that and then I get all this money and I don't even use it for college. He said he always thought I was his big brother but I'm just a selfish AITA?
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    Commenters had little sympathy for the dad and step-family

    Shichimi88 Nta. Block them. Use it for your own future. Your grandparents were smart to keep it out of reach of your dad.
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    SmoochNo NTA. What an entirely thing for your step brother to say. You have this money because your mother is de d. That is not lucky. He gets to have his mother still living. That is lucky. He has options like community college and instate schools.
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    And after that comment I wouldn't give a cent (wouldn't before that comment either, just FYI,m but absolutely not after saying something as tacky and heartless as that.
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    Snackinpenguin Your stepbrother isn't even related to your maternal grandparents. They didn't save just to have it go to a stranger. No. NTA.
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    Successful-Citro... Stand your ground, NTA. The key is to let them know you're going to shut down the conversation immediately with any family member who brings it up, and hold that boundary.
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    DefDemi Your step brother can get loans and he can work part- time and study part-time. Your mother's parents gave you the money. No one else but you is entitled to it. Why doesn't his Mom or your father get a second job. Why are they having kids when they can't afford them. Tell them to get stuffed. You lost your mother. No amount of money makes up for that.
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