20-year-old refuses to let her childhood crush court her because of the cruel things his mother has said about her, mother harasses her for rejecting him: 'I woke up to a bunch of mean voicemails and texts from her'

When you marry someone, you're also marrying their crazy family. It's sometimes difficult to parse whether someone has a crazy family when you're first dating them. If you're living in a city away from both of your families, it might take a year or more to even meet your partners mom and dad. In early stages of a relationship, having a close relationship with your partner's parents is not a huge priority, focusing more on whether you're compatible with each other. It's difficult enough to find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with that for many people, having a messed up family is not a dealbreaker. Doesn't everyone have a messed up family? It's considered uncouth to judge someone or not want them in your life simply because their mom has a personality disorder, their dad doesn't know how to have a conversation, and their brother is in jail.

That's all well and good if you're dating casually, but if someone asks if they can court you seriously, it might be beneficial to consider their family. The young lady in this story was approached by her good friend if he could court her, and she declined because of how his mother has treated her.
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AITAH for telling my childhood friend I wouldn’t court him because I didn’t want to have his mother as my MIL?

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(Update) AITAH for telling my childhood friend I wouldn’t court him because I didn’t want to have his mother as my MIL?

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(Update 2) AITAH for telling my childhood friend I wouldn’t court him because I didn’t want to have his mother as my MIL?

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