Woman revokes lavish wedding gift and trip to Japan from friend after overhearing her real opinion on the friendship: “She tricked me into paying for her honeymoon”

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Mar 2, 2025 3:00 PM EST

The relationships we have with our friends are just as important as the relationships we have to our parents, family members, and partners. All of them need respect, communication, love, openness, and a sense of fun. All of them can break our hearts, destroy our ideas and notions behind love, and betray us. Trust building is real no matter if it's your mother or your boyfriend. If you feel like a friend doesn't appreciate you, or they're using you then it can be just as painful as if your boyfriend betrays you. 

In the story below, the protagonist is a woman who has been financially generous with her friends. From paying for them at fancy steak dinners, to providing the financial means for them to go on vacations. She's financially well off, and buying her friends things is her love language. To her surprise, it isn't exactly what one of her friends had in mind. One of her friends didn't care much about their actual friendship, and it turns out she was just using her for free things. After overhearing this odious confession, the protagonist takes back all the things she's promised her friend. She no longer will be paying for her honeymoon in Japan.

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    AITAH for taking back a wedding gift I promised to the bride and groom after overhearing a conversation?

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    Hi reddit. Please excuse my lack of punctuation Grammar in any editing mistakes I made english is not my first language and I'm still learning. I 29 female has been in a friend group of 6 people including the couple 30 female and 31 male since we all went to law school a little while ago. We all live in the same city and regularly hang out
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    and go to lunch together and it's always a good time. Now to be Frank I normally for our get- togethers pay for all those in attendance. As I make well over Double what the others do and when it comes to my choice of restaurant we normally go to an expensive steakhouse that I
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    absolutely love again out of the friend group 1. I am the only one who is child free 2. has the extra income 3. I feel obligated to pick up the tab as it is a part of my culture and how I was raised. My love language is gift giving and I always give extravagant gifts for special Occasions anniversaries
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    birthday's promotions baby showers and Above all else Wedding.
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    I absolutely love weddings and as much I am extra generous when it comes to my gifts the couple at hand love to travel but due to co id, inflation and a new baby They haven't been able to do it as much. When I was first asked to Be a bridesmaid The couple Asked me to help them go over thier budget
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    and see if I have some connections to help them cut some cost. Even with my Help They were not going to be able to Afford a honeymoon after the wedding. Or so i thought. So as my wedding gift I planned for them to visit Japan for a week food housing fun money and a Reputable babysitter for their 4 month old. I went to them with the
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    gift and they were so happy and over the moon it was a very heartwarming experience and I was so happy I could do this for them.
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    (Detail to add: The airplane tickets and any other reservations were under my name until the week after thier wedding where i would transfer them over. I left an envelope with the itinerary and all of the information regarding the trip on the gift table at the wedding venue)
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    Well the wedding came, And while the bride was getting ready she told me she forgot her veil in her car and ask if I could go get it. I agreed and went to get it as I came back the door was cracked open but I overheard a conversation regarding me from the bride. I stood outside the door and listened. She went on to tell
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    whoever she was on the phone with That I was i and I quote Gullible and That she tricked me into paying for their honeymoon. she began to account all of the gifts that they had received from me and plotting How to get me to give them even more expensive gifts. To say I was crushed would be an understatement. I stood there for a while feeling stupid and used.
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  • Some of these comments are just cruel. Why should she feel bad about her love language, and the fact that she likes to guy her friends things? Sure, there's a line that maybe she crossed. It's okay to buy friends gifts, but she is definitely overdoing it. Who has that much money that they're paying for someone else's honeymoon in Japan? That's insanely rich.

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    They took advantage of my generosity and my love for them and used it for their own selfish gain. But my sadness began to turn into rage. I went inside and began to rip a new one into the bride. She tried so hard to backtrack and I told her to go herself and that I was taking back my gift and she could forget about going to japan.
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    She ... as I walked down the hall and took the envelope from the gift table calling me a b and a ah le as i left.
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    It's been over 4 months since this happened and when I explained this to my partner she called me an a****** as I could have silently cut the couple out Instead of reacting harshly on the bride's wedding day. That I may Have ruined her wedding day and this will be her last memory of her wedding for years to come. Now I've been
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    feeling kind of bad for my reaction so now I come to you reddit. Am I the a****** for taking back my present after overhearing Conversation from the bride.
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    Just a little tibit of information I later found out that the person she was talking to on the phone was the groom. UPDATE: when I posted this I didn't expect the response that i would get I was hoping for maybe 2 people Give me some In sight to make sure I was not crazy.
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    1. For those of you saying the stories fake I feel bad for you. I'm sorry that my reality is just a story to you. 2. For those of you who are questioning why I'm funding other people's lifestyles let me explain a bit further. My friends and I used to go to restaurants and each week we
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    would take a turn to pick where we go to choose what restaurant knowing their situation I normally picked up the tab because I didn't not like most places in my city and the places I did like was expensive. 3. For those that were calling me A sugar mama. Sorry I am not.
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    I do not have a savior complex. I just came from a wealthy background And I make pretty well for myself in my field. With just me and my wife our expenses are not much so I'm able to save quite a lot and with that I have extra income. 4. For those who told me to evaluate my wife let me
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    explain. My wife is the most unconfrontational person I've ever met. She is the kind of person who will silently block you and cut you out of Her life without so much as an explanation. To be completely clear she did agree with me and that's an appropriate response. It is just not how
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    she would have handled this situation. 5. My next point again I stated this in the beginning I am not a native english speaker most of this has to be translated from my native tongue and some of the words got misconstrued. One I did not put my name on the tickets i paid for the tickets and put
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    their names on them I'm sorry that did not translate correctly the way i wish it did. Of course because it was on my credit card I just called the airport and cancel them. 6. Those who we're asking what the rest of my friend groups. Opinion Was the remaining 3 agreed with me and sided
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    with me. Of course They were a bit upset with meThey were a bit upset with me because I did not tell them the day of the wedding. They have completely cut The couple in question out. 7. Did I learn a lesson? Yes I did. Going forward I will be less generous with those around me. I was raced in a very
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    generous household where we gave out money to those in me quite Regularly. But that was through charities and such. I will start to focus on self-love And learning to have a backbone and not to spend so much money on other people that don't deserve it. I will be more cautious and careful going forward and
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    keeping my eye out for signs that people could be using me.
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    Physical_Cause_6073 ⚫5h ago. NTA. They knew how generous you and and plotted to get a honeymoon. That's despicable. She deserved to get chewed out on her wedding day.
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    armywifemumof5 5h ago. NTA and if your partner is ok with you being used get a new partner to
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