Husband keeps messing with pregnant wife, she tells him he can't go to their antenatal appointments anymore: 'I need him to respect my boundaries, and this is one of the ways I’m doing that'

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Baiz Hoen
Mar 27, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

The trait that almost everyone wants in their ideal partner is a sense of humor. Getting caught off guard by someone's great joke is a sure-fire way to spark a flame. And when you've made it to the point where you commit to each other, there's nothing better than getting into a giggle fit with the love of your life that keeps you up through the night. Even in the hard times, it's important to find someone who's able to make light of a situation to alleviate the stress. Let's face it, when we're old and gray and the only thing we can do is talk to each other, you're going to want some way to keep things fresh, and the best way to do that is by making each other laugh.

One big snag is when you and your partner both have a great sense of humor, but you discover that what they think is funny doesn't make you laugh at all. One woman had that problem when her husband kept playing insensitive pranks on her when they went to her pregnancy appointments. Do you think she's right to ban him from coming, or does she need to loosen up a little bit?

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    "AITAH? for banning my husband from all doctor appointments after he repeatedly messes with me while I'm pregnant?"

    Hi. So, I'm currently pregnant, about 6 months along, and my husband has been doing this thing every time we go to a doctor appointment. He'll drive me to the appointment, then when I'm about to get in the car, he drives forward a little, then reverses, then drives forward again. He
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    then drives forward again. He does this a few times, and it always frustrates me. He thinks it's hilarious and says he's just "messing with me". I started to get really frustrated. I'm already dealing with the physical and emotional toll of pregnancy, and this just feels like him poking fun at me when I'm already tired and stressed. I told him it bothers me,
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    stressed. I told him it bothers me, but he just brushed it off and said I'm overreacting and that he's "just having fun."
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    We had a big fight about it the other day. I tried to explain how it's making me feel, and he got defensive, saying I need to lighten up and that it's "just a joke." I told him it wasn't funny
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    joke." I told him it wasn't funny anymore and it wasn't something I wanted to deal with during my pregnancy. The final straw was when he did it again before a doctor appointment yesterday, and I was just done. I ended up
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    and I was just done. I ended up calling my mom to take me instead and told my husband he was banned from all future appointments.
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    Well, now he's furious. He's demanding to be there for the next appointment because it's the one where we'll find out the baby's gender. He says this is a huge moment and I'm being unfair by not letting him come. I
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    unfair by not letting him come. I told him I need him to respect my boundaries, and this is one of the ways I'm doing that. But he keeps insisting that it's just a silly little thing, and now he's calling me unreasonable for making a big deal out of it.
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    am I overreacting here?
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    Everyone in the comments said that this guy might not be cut out to be a father.

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    NTA, and honest question, has he always been this much of an immature, disrespectful j ? Because it's only going to get worse once your baby arrives. Good luck.
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    NTA. He doesn't respect your very reasonable boundary. His emotional intelligence needs some work. Also jokes involving a vehicle and a pregnancy are not funny. That's just scary.
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    This guy is NOT mature enough to be having a kid. NTA
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    Jokers should get their due.

    dont let him go, tell him it's a boy, not really it's a girl, not it's a boy, but it's actually a girl, even though it's really a boy then tell him to lighten up because it's funny NTA. Why do people date/marry just utter pieces of cr p?
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    NTA. A prank is only funny if both parties laugh, otherwise it's bu ying. He's bu ying you, imagine what he'll do to your kid. Maintain this boundary and, if this kind of behavior is a common thing, think about demanding counseling.
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    Some people really think this guy needs to go.

    "Just joking" is the rallying cry of every bu y on the planet. Your husband is a flaming a hole. That's DANGEROUS for you as a pregnant woman. He's a lunatic. He's "just having fun" AT YOUR EXPENSE. Seriously rethink staying married. You'd be much better off as a single mother than with this mean- spirited, selfish, self- centered, BU Y of a loser.
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    Please OP do not stay with someone who disrespects you and ENDANGERS you so badly.
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    Let him come to the appointment, then tell the doctor in front of him what he does. Ask the doctor if it's your hormones or if your husband is just a giant ahle.
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    I have no respect for guys- yes, it's usually guys-who pull this kind of crop. He's putting his "fun" above your feelings, and perhaps even your safety. Do what you need to do for your peace of mind and safety. NTA
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    NTA. Your husband is crazy. God forbid he does it when you getting in and slips, falls, bleeds and loses the baby. Or the wheels rolls over on your foot. This is NOT a joke. Two lives are at stake here. Kick him out of attending the doctor appointments.
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