Married couple asks their 30-year-old roommate to leave the apartment for a week so they can have a "staycation" while their kid is at his grandparents: 'They want me to stay at their parent's house'

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Mar 22, 2025 8:00 AM EDT

Most people have roommates during a very particular time in their lives. College students have to share a room with a complete stranger in their first year. This person will either be their future best friend, a fatal enemy, or a distant memory. In later collegiate years, having roommates not only makes your off-campus apartment rent cheaper but also makes it much easier to throw big ragers! 

As life marches on, fewer and fewer people in your age group will have roommates. In NYC, where arrested development is all the rage, a non-negligible group of people have multiple roommates into their mid to late thirties, but most people grow out of the roommate life once they get into a long-term relationship or make enough money to live comfortably on their own. Having a roommate can be fun, but it's not always as fun as an episode of Laverne & Shirley makes it out to be. 

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  • The couple in this story is stuck between two phases of life. They are married with a kid, yet have a 30-year-old roommate. That would be all well and good, except they're trying to kick their roommate out for a week so they can have a “staycation” without their kid. 

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    AITA for not leaving the house for a week that I rent so my roommates can have a staycation?

    Hello, AITA (M30) for not giving my Roommates the house to themselves for a week. We are all on the lease and this is their first time living on their own. They want me to leave for a full week and stay at their parent's house so they can have a staycation,
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    and enjoy being a married couple living together for the first time without family. Their kids would be at their grandparents. I think it's unreasonable since I pay for rent, but they tell me I'm being selfish. I also don't really know their parents and it makes me uncomfortable.
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    kristin_dianne NTA. That's wild that they would even ask you to do that. How about they go rent a cute little hotel room for a week and play house there ? You shouldn't have to leave your home - period.
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    haleorshine Absolutely wild! Like, just the audacity of even asking is astounding. No, if you want to spend a week together without anybody else, you're going to go to rent a place to stay. You're not even going to suggest that somebody who pays to live somewhere leave for a week so you can bing in every room.
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    At the absolute worst they could suggest that they pay for OP to stay in a nice hotel for the week, but if they're going to do that, why wouldn't they stay in the nice hotel?
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    RainbowCrane That was my thought... "Hey OP, we'd like a week to nest in the house. Can we treat you to a week at fancy hotel X?" That's a bit different from, "GTFO, we want the place to ourselves for the week."
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    treehuggerfroglover This is a good point. The craziest thing out of all of this is assuming that op will go stay with the couples parents, who op has never even met. Like that's so bizarre and random. Can you imagine being married and calling your mom to say "hey we want to pretend we have our own house with no roommates so we're gonna send our roommate to your place for a week, cool?" Like what the actual f
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    Juggletrain Reasonable, but there's not much overlap between group A (married couples with children... and a roommate) and group B (People who can afford a hotel for a week)
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    musclesotoole Or at the very least give you back your rent money for the week. The bare minimum
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    CarpenterMom When I was first married we had a roommate. I would never ever have thought that it would be acceptable to ask him to leave his space for any reason. We got plenty of alone time when he was out for his own reasons.
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    meneldal2 • 1h ago Asking for like a day for a very special event and giving some sort of compensation for it, I can get it (and still op could very well refuse that), but a full week is crazy.
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    whoami_404 Yeah NTAH, if you pay it's your house, so you decide what goes on with it while you're gone
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    Late-Draw6941 OP But I wouldn't be gone is the problem, we all pay rent, but they want me to leave for a week so they can have the house to themselves
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    Mishy162 NTA. So they are asking you to stay at their parents place? The parents who are also looking after their Grandchildren for the week? So you would be helping with the childcare? Nope, they want to enjoy married life without others around, then they should get a place they aren't sharing.
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    Fabulous_Okra_1397 This. If they want to act like the place it just theirs, they should probably get a place that is only theirs.
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    ToriBethATX NTA. If for some reason you DO let them have the house for a week, make sure all of YOUR belongings are put into your room and LOCK your room. I'd even go as far as having cameras in your room while you're gone. Maybe I've read too many fanfiction and romance novels where what I'm about to say is a theme, but "enjoying being a married couple living together for the first time without family" screams "we plan to [do the deed] on every potential surface throughout "our" home to "christ
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    CocoaBleu I would be more concerned that in that week they decide they like their own room, move the roommate out of their room and put their kids stuff in the roommates room and suggesting that the roommate continue to stay with their parents. This situation is so ridiculously selfish I just wouldn't put anything off the table. NTA btw
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    Thin_Firefighter6739 They should use that "staycation" week to look for better jobs so they can afford to live on their own. TF????? Definitely NTA.
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    CinnamonBlue They've never lived together, just the two of them? But no problem doing the deed living with others? That's what hotels are for.
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    Tina TurnersWig10 That is laughable!! If they want to be alone, THEY need to leave not you. If money is an issue, they can go camping or stay and a smaller, budget friendly hotel. They've really got some nerve even asking!
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    Mistress_Lily1 NTA. They have no right to kick you out of your house that you help pay rent for so they can be alone. And for the record they don't really live on their own do they since they have a roommate(you). You shouldn't have to leave so they can be alone. They should have thought of that before. Tell them to get an airbnb for a week
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    FlatElvis NTA. One of many reasons not to move in with a family.
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