‘I was so angry I couldn't even hear words, much less make them’: Pregnant 29-year-old snaps at father-in-law for demanding $7900 and crossing boundaries

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Etai Eshet • Editor
Mar 26, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

There's a special breed of family drama that only comes with the kind of relative who refuses to be irrelevant. This is the person who doesn't just burn bridges—they detonate them with so much force that even the ashes try to escape. They drift in and out of your life like an unwanted house guest who brings chaos instead of casseroles, pushing buttons you didn't even know you had.

In this case, a Father who barges in, insults his son, violates boundaries and somehow tops it all off by requesting a $7,900 loan. Because apparently, being insufferable requires funding.  

If there's a handbook for how to alienate your family in record time, this guy got a signed, dog-eared copy. Some relatives don't just push you—they shove, stomp, and grind you into the ground, daring you to draw a line. And when you finally do, they act shocked—how could you be so mean? 

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  • "My husband's father (m60+) pushed things too far and I finally had enough today"

    "I grabbed him and screamed like Godzilla in his face"
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  • I'm 29f. half way through being pregnant, and married to 'David' (all names changed, M33) since last November. If you want the details of our relationship you can check out my profile, but this one isn't really about me.
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  • David has an older brother, 'Sam' (m34) who he's pretty close with, and they both have a difficult relationship with their father, who I'm calling Frollo (M60+) because
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  • the Disney adaptation of "The Hunchback of Notre Dame" screwed me up as a kid. How horrible a parent is Frollo?
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  • David had a cat named Miyagi. I have no idea why, David steadfastly insists he's never seen any of the Karate Kid movies. Anyway, Frollo gave the cat to a
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  • guy he knew who spent half of the year on crab boats in Alaska. David never found out what happened to Miyagi.
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  • David walked in on his father trying to selly as It Sam's girlfriend, and David ended up with a split lip while pulling Frollo off of her. I have no idea how this didn't end up in prison time for the man.
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  • David and Sam reconstructed a 1966 Rally Sport something. They've told this story a lot and I always forget the car. I think it was a Camaro, but that's mostly from Google searching 1966 Rally
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  • Sport. Whatever the car was, it was a passion project for the two of them. Frollo grabbed the keys while they were both asleep and drove the car into a wall, basically ruining it.
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  • Mother knows best

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  • So yeah, Frollo is a human toilet brush after you clean that weird black gunk from around the inner rim with it. We don't interact with him much, never have. The
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  • problem is, while I love that David is a very forgiving and loving person, he's got a real problem with letting his father have yet another chance to hurt him.
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  • Sam is a cop and he has no time or patience for Frollo's BS, but David can't seem to let go. I try to be tolerant, but I'm 25 weeks pregnant now and starting to
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  • really feel it. I fully admit that I am on the Hormone Roller Coaster right now, and I can be sitting there one moment happily
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  • playing Stardew Valley and the next second be a hot weeping mess because I don't have enough Iridium.
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  • So when Frollo 'dropped by' yesterday morning and David let him into the apartment I tried to avoid the man. I don't like how he leers at me. I don't like the way he says words, like every syllable is
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  • covered in Vaseline. They were arguing for a few minutes in David's office and I could feel my bl d pressure going up. This is a problem for me because I had a
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  • miscarriage when I was 22 and I don't want that to happen again. So I was fighting to keep myself calm, doing slow deep breaths.
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  • It turned out David's father has been trying to get David to loan him money. Specifically, $7900 USD. Why that amount? I could not tell you.
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  • David says no, Frollo calls him a see you next tuesday, David tells him to leave. Frollo, in the middle of making a big production out of huffing and puffing his way out of
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  • the house, touches my belly and says something about hoping this one doesn't flop out all blue like the first one.
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  • Now, to set the scene a little, Frollo is not a tall or impressive man. Both David and Sam tower over him, and I'm four inches taller and a fair amount bigger
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  • overall, even not pregnant. Frollo has not gotten handsy with me before and I think the shock of it added to how much I already
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  • dislike him and what he said about my first miscarriage all combined into something I had not felt before.
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  • David walked into the room just as I grabbed Frollo by the neck and screamed like Godzilla in his face. I am not kidding or being hyperbolic here -- I made a loud
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  • screaming noise completely devoid of words and practically hauled him off the ground by that chicken wattle mess he calls a throat.
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  • I think I might honestly have k lled him, I was so angry I couldn't even hear words, much less make them. David managed to get Frollo out of the house and immediately came back to make sure I was okay
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  • I don't like people touching me without my permission/consent. I don't like people touching my belly, especially now that I'm showing. I don't like Frollo at all and I would never give him permission to touch me. And I
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  • hate how much that a h le has hurt, abused and taken advantage of David over the years. And all of that was amplified, like all my feelings were dialed up to eleven.
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  • It's been hours and David and I have talked and we're agreed that Frollo never comes into the house again and I don't have to see or hear from him as long as I'm pregnant because I've been having anxiety about preeclampsia and other problems
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  • from high bld pressure anyway. I just need to tell someone outside of me and David about it, and it's not like my elderly grandmother or very sick mother can really get involved.
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  • Sam came over with his wife 'Tasha' (f30ish, honestly I can't remember) and she sat with me while Sam and David made sure to put up some cameras outside and talk about what to do. I have had my differences with Sam in
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  • the past but he's been a rock for both of us during this pregnancy and I'm slowly starting to warm up to him again, and Tasha's a total sweetheart.
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  • I'm shaking. I have an consult set up for Monday already, just to make sure everything is on track, I'm going to bring up if there's anything I can do to keep this under control because I so desperately want this baby. My miscarriage almost k lled me both physically and emotionally.
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  • So yeah, here I am, ranting because it does make me feel better and sometimes a Redditor will say something really cool and useful and pertinent to my problem that gets my head on straight.
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  • - Edit after reading the comments and talking we've decided to leave this place (it's been David's since before we got back together and his father of course knows everything about where it is) and move. We're considering
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  • going to my mother's house despite the many problems my mother and I have in our relationship. I know she would not want to see me hurt or to lose the baby.
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  • Scorpion_Rooster Your mothering instincts are on high alert. Trust them. It sounds like Frollo isn't someone you want around your child either, so it's good you addressed it aggressively now. Hang in there and best wishes on a happy healthy baby.
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