8-months-pregnant woman snaps after finding out her husband spent $4300 of their baby fund on a last-minute, secret trip to visit his ailing mother: 'I woke up and he was just gone'

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Apr 8, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

There's nothing scarier for a pregnant woman than going into labor for the first time. New moms often forget about the craziness of delivering their first baby because their fear is entirely outweighed by the joy of becoming a mom. However, those last few weeks of any pregnancy start to get a little dicey as the anticipation—and your belly—swells with the promise of incoming life. 

Many women have a spouse ready with their 'go-bag' and the car keys, locked and loaded for the moment their water breaks. Knowing they'll have a hand to hold in the delivery room eases the woes of many pregnant women, but unfortunately for the lady in this next tale, she was left high and dry by her husband at 8 months pregnant because he suddenly had a family emergency to attend to. 

As if your wife's pregnancy isn't also an immediate emergency?

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  • It seems like a lot of women boast of their husband's attentiveness in the delivery room as he dashes around the maternity ward looking for snacks, sourcing fresh pillows, and pacing the hallways in anticipation of becoming a father. Understandably, it's pretty nerve-wracking to become a parent, but the nonchalance and the foolish unintuitiveness of the guy in this next story takes the cake as the worst husband ever, leaving this woman with nothing but zero-star reviews for her husband's debut performance as a father. 

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  • AITAH for telling my husband I hope his mom does di, after he secretly flew across the country to "say goodbye" to her without telling me... and drained our baby fund to do it?
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  • So. I (31F) am currently 8 months pregnant with our first child. My husband (34M) and I have been saving like crazy. We had about $12k put aside for baby expenses, maternity leave cushion, crib, diapers, hospital bills, etc.
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  • Last week, I woke up and he was just gone. I called, texted, nothing. After 6 hours of pure panic, he finally calls and says he's in Florida because his mom (who's been sick for years) was "not doing well" and he wanted to be with her in case this was it.
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  • Okay. I understand that. I do. But: He didn't tell me. He left me 8 months pregnant, no car, no groceries, no support.
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  • He spent $4,300 on flights, hotel, rental car, and "emergency family dinners." From the baby fund.
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  • When I told him I was furious and scared, he told me I was being "heartless" and that "if it were your mom, I wouldn't even question it."
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  • So I said, "If it were my mom, I'd have the decency to tell my pregnant spouse I was leaving the state first. Honestly, at this point, I hope she does di, so you understand what it feels like to lose someone you actually tell the truth to."
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  • Now? Everyone thinks I'm the devil. His sisters are calling me cruel, and even my mom said that was "a horrible thing to say, no matter the context."
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  • But I'm tired of being the "understanding" wife. He abandoned me, lied about the money, and pulled the martyr card. So Reddit... AITAH for saying I hope his mom dies?
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  • Electrical_Day_6109 6 hours to burn through $4,300. Somethings not tracking on his story. Flights aren't that expensive. Hotels and car rentals certainly aren't and exactly how much is he spending on that family dinner? Unless he's funding an actual funeral I'd be questioning what the heck he was doing too.
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  • facinationstreet Get a lawyer, have him served and move on. He is lying. He fully well knows she isn't dying tomorrow. He is running away.
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  • SchmartestMonkey $4300 seems super sketch. I just checked Delta and a last minute ticket (tomorrow morning) from Chicago to Orlando was $450. That's zero shopping around.
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  • Unless he booked a last minute round trip First class seat.. I'm thinking there's about $3k unaccounted for.. unless he also prepaid for an exotic car rental and an extended 4-star hotel stay.
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  • LveMeB Assuming a plane ticket is $500, extravagant dinners are $200 a piece, a nice hotel is $300 a night. That still leaves over $3,000. Which sounds like a security deposit on a new apartment. He's lying. He's ditching you and the baby.
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  • Aeonxreborn Lets count the flags. 1. Left without telling you 2. Left while you are 8 months pregnant 3. Used baby funds for a non emergency
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  • 4. Cared little or was dismissive of your feelings on the matter 5. Cared little when called on it. 6. Didn't leave a note, smoke signal, something to let you know where he was.
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  • Better question when is the divorce babe? Cause nope i would be a single mom before I allowed that. NTA for the rage at his actions. Now what you said.....girl. no wrong and you know it.
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  • Azurefawnglow look u didn't say it outta nowhere he straight up abandoned u while 8 months pregnant and stole from your baby's future like what was the plan if u went into labor?? a text from florida?? i'm not saying it was nice to say but fk being nice when
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  • u're hormonal, scared, and broke overnight. he played victim while treating u like a side quest. the only heartless one is the man who left his pregnant wife without warning or food then called her cruel for reacting like a human being.
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  • mela_99. EMERGENCY family dinners? Tf is that. NTA. I wouldn't trust your husband as far as I could throw him. Take care of yourself and the babe, OP. You can't count on this sack of unflavored potato flakes.
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  • TheatreWolfeGirl ΝΤΑ Something doesn't feel right... $4,300.00?! I know inflation has raised prices, but where the heck was he staying, did he fly first class, grab a Lamborghini for a rental?!
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  • Why wouldn't he stay with his mother or family whilst there? Is she, his mother, actually in hospice? Can you prevent him from taking anymore money from that account OP?
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  • Did you notice how much clothing he took with him when he left? Did he say how long he plans to be away?
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  • Contact the bank to stop anymore money from being transferred or removed immediately. Contact a lawyer, something isn't right and you need to protect yourself, the baby and home ASAP.
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