Childfree 30-year-old refuses to babysit for sister with 3 kids under 7 after she tells her she doesn't know real stress: 'Did you really just call me a free trial version of a human being?'

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Ally Perry • Writer and Editor
Apr 15, 2025 9:00 PM EDT

One of the biggest reasons for the frequently frustrating divide between parents and childless people is how each group perceives the other. The childfree often look at those with children as crazy for making a decision that upends their lives so much, giving them a sense of entitlement that is unfair. Meanwhile, moms and dads can see the childless as an indulgent, unenlightened group with more spare time and money than they know what to do with.

It is no surprise, then, that when these two opposing groups are brought together, friction can occur. It is common in both friend groups and families when some have kids and others don't. While in an ideal world, everyone would get along in perfect harmony, we know that this can be far from the truth in reality. There's always somebody with the kind of attitude that causes more problems than solutions when it comes to having children.

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    AITAH for telling my sister to find another babysitter after she said I “don’t know real stress” ‘cause I don’t have kids?

    So boom. I'm 30F, no kids, no husband, livin my best soft life. I got a decent job, my apartment stays clean, and I sleep like a baby every night. My sister (33F) has 3 little gremlins under the age of 7 and swears she's the only person on Earth who's ever been tired. Last week she hits me up on some "Hey, can you watch the kids this weekend? Me and my husband need a break before we lose our minds."
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  • One woman found herself dealing with this after declining her older sister's request for her to babysit her three kids that weekend. Her reasoning was that her sibling had insulted her by claiming she had nothing to do as a childfree person while asking that she help out before she and her husband “[lost] their minds”.

    Her sister and her mom were not pleased when she rejected the cry for help, but she was adamant that she was within her rights to do so. She hoped that the internet would validate her opinion.

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    Cool. I was about to say yes, until she hits me with: "I mean, it's not like you got anything going on. You don't have kids. You're probably just chillin anyway." Like girl... did you really just call me a free trial version of a human being? So I told her flat out "Nah. You can find someone else since my 'chill' life apparently ain't stressful enough to be respected."
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    Now she's mad mad, tellin the whole family I "abandoned her" when she's "clearly drowning," and that I'm selfish 'cause I wouldn't step up "just this once." Like girl... you disrespected me mid request. You fumbled your favor bag. Now our mom's on the phone like, "I get you're upset, but it's for the kids..." And I'm like, that's cute, but I'm not your emergency childcare plan just 'cause I'm not sleep deprived and covered in Goldfish crumbs. So... AITAH for refusing to babysit after she shaded
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    Outsiders commended her on standing up for herself.

    Beginning Ad9070 She should learn how to ask for something. The reality is, she's jealous because she chose to have three kids and she can't stand that you are living a life she secretly misses. That's why she felt entitled to insult you in the middle of asking for a favor. As if you owe her free babysitting when she could hire somebody. And since your mama is so damned concerned, tell her to get her grandkids
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    KindViolett OP PREACH. You nailed it, she's mad I'm not burnt out, sleep deprived, and running on fruit snacks and vibes like she is. And instead of saying that, she throws shade and expects me to smile and play Super Aunt for free?
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    Western_Fuzzy Bare minimum when asking for a favour is not to insult the person you're asking. Ultimately, it's jealousy, however...no one told her to push out three kids. Great that your mom has such strong opinions, she can take care of the kids instead of calling you. Everyone wins.
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    Norwood5006 I prefer the term F trophies, if OP's sister had just asked politely and nicely, OP would have babysat them, 3 is a lot to babysit though, especially at that age, but OP is super delightful, funny and definitely NTA, I hope her sister realizes that she doesn't need to insult people to get what she wants.
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    OnMyWayToThe_ Yeah, asking for a favor while simultaneously insulting you is not the brightest idea. Just tell her you did her a favor by not helping her to make a 4th.
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    melodzz H I naw she had the nerve to insult a person mid request for their time.
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    GoddessfromCyprus Maybe your Mum can do it. How about them apples?
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    pielemuis420 Helping is a kindness, not a duty. Especially after being disrespected.
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    Rude_Guidance_4556 'You can find someone else since my 'chill' life apparently ain't stressful enough to be respected.' This was the punchline for me, what she said was super disrespectful, just because you don't bug them with your life problems or life stressors doesn't mean they're non-existent. OP you're definitely NTA
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    kosmosepiraat NTA. Her children are not your resposibility. You are not free babysitter. She should find one and pay like the rest of the world. Also, tell your mom that she can do it herself if it's "for the kids".
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    Tablessssssss It's not "for the kids" mom it's quite literally FOR YOUR SISTER she said it herself! SHE needs a break. So thanks MOM for offering to babysit! NTA enjoy your chill quiet calm weekend :)
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    Cherryswayy She needed that wake up call. ppl be thinkin just bc u don't got kids u free 24/7 and ur time don't matter. she could've just asked nicely and respected ur space but nah she came in hot w the disrespect. u ain't her built-in babysitter just 'cause u not in survival mode 24/7. she fumbled, now she can call someone else
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    Available_Bag_6759 is happening with this overwhelming sense of entitlement from people? If I need help, and someone would be kind enough to offer their precious time to support me, I would be so smh ΝΤΑ grateful..
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    DogsNSnow Right?! Also, I don't remember my parents calling in anyone to take over their parenting duties for a weekend 'before they lost their minds'. Maybe it's no surprise but it sounds like entitled sis here is raising kids even she can't enjoy being around, if she's so desperate to escape them. Source: not a parent. And I don't enjoy spending time around children, so I just don't. So probably this is not a well-researched viewpoint lol.
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    double_sundae265 How are you going to follow a request of watching 3 children under 7 for the weekend, with an insult?! This is coming from. 36f with one, two year old. That's a lot to ask of someone and to insult you. Girl, don't even doubt yourself. She's the type of person that will talk sh to those same kids about you as she outside about to knock on your door for the drop off. She needs to learn some respect before you do anything or keep her comments to herself.
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    popplevee I'm thinking the sister was aware it was a big ask so she tried to minimise it in some way to not seem so intrusive, but flubbed it, big time.
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    Mysticpearll She was outta pocket for that. Just 'cause u don't have kids doesn't mean u don't have a life or responsibilities. She tried to downplay ur stress, which is mad disrespectful, and then had the nerve to call u selfish? Nah, not the vibe. U don't owe her anything, and standing up for urself was the right move. She can't just expect u to drop everything like that, especially with that attitude.
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    Competitive-Bat-43 I am so going to use the phrase You are the free trial of a human being. ΝΤΑ.
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    MapleGleamm She really said "u don't do sh anyway" then expected u to drop everything n help like that's wild. like ok if u think my life so chill then handle ur own stress without me then lol. just bc u don't got kids don't mean u not tired or don't deserve peace. she came at u sideways then cried victim when u set a boundary. if she want support she gotta learn how to ask without disrespectin first.
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    MrsLisaOliver Anybody trashing or pressuring you because you said no: "Go ahead and babysit them if YOU want to - I'm not." Nobody gets to comment on how you spend your time unless they're paying you to be on the clock. They can right off. NTAH
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    Tiny-Draw146 nah bro they aren't your kids, and if your mom feels so strongly about 'it's for the kids' then she can go spend the weekend with them
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