Houseguests learn host took day off to relax after their stay, so they extend trip only to get kicked out 11 hours before flight: 'The day off is for me to rest, not to be their host'

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Isabella Penn
Apr 17, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

Being a host is exhausting. Even if you love your guests, even if they're your lifelong besties, there's a special kind of burnout that comes from prepping your house like it's going on Airbnb, being full-time tour guide, and turning your entire routine upside down to keep everyone comfortable and entertained. And when they finally leave, you need like a solid week to decompress and find your inner peace again.

Personally, I've started taking a day off after a trip or a hosting stint just to reset. I didn't used to; I'd just power through and drag myself back to work the next morning, convinced I'd be fine. I was not fine. I am now fortunate enough to have PTO to allow me to take a much needed reset the day after a trip. Nothing is getting done anyway.

When this host took a well-earned day off post-visit, their houseguests didn't understand the point and decided to extend their stay for the full day. As you can imagine, this didn't go over very well. 

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  • Make sure to stick around until the end because I've never seen a comment section quite as divided as this one. People are all over the place when it comes to deciding who’s actually in the wrong here. Keep scrolling and see what you think.

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  • "AITAH for kicking my houseguests out 11 hours before their flight is scheduled to leave?"

    My friend and his wife have made plans to visit us this summer for a weekend stay. The flight is two hours, so not a really long journey for them.
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  • We have our home professionally cleaned regularly and go all in to be good hosts to our guests. However, with any good thing, some people try to take advantage.
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  • I usually will take an extra day from work after guests leave to get rest or even tidy up the house a bit. It's just a peaceful time for me to return to the normalcy of our
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  • household after being in host mode. Before my friend booked his flight, my husband let it slip that I will not be working the Monday after my friends' stay with us.
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  • Next thing I know, my friend tells me that they will be flying out on a red eye the Monday I took off for rest. This means they will arrive early Friday morning, and leave
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  • late Monday night. To that I responded that I will be taking them to the airport as early as 8am Monday morning so I can have my day of rest like I planned.
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  • My friend tells me that he doesn't understand why they can't just hang out at our place or have us show them around town more on that Monday since they
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  • have a late flight. I explained to them that the day off is for me to rest, not to continue to be their host. I told them that they are more than welcome to leave
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  • their luggage here if they want to go explore on their own, but we will not be hosting them or playing tour guide after Monday morning.
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  • He goes on to admit that it was cheaper for him to book the later flight on Monday and that it's not a big deal for him and his wife to just hang out at my house
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  • all day until it's time for them to fly out. Keep in mind that I will have to take them to the airport or pay for rideshare because he refuses to pay. I will also have to feed them.
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  • I told him that they are welcome to visit and stay with us, but staying at our house all day Monday is not an option and he needs to make other arrangements. He's
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  • now accusing me of being a horrible friend and his wife says we're AHs. Your thoughts?
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  • Ok_Sea_4405 ESH Your friends are not being unreasonable by asking you to spend Monday with them or just let them hang out,
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  • but they are being unreasonable by not taking no for an answer. But you sound like the least gracious host in town. Like, why have people visit if the thought of spending 12
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  • extra hours with them causes you such trauma? Using the term loosely of course. It shouldn't be traumatic but you are making it so. You sound exhausting.
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  • Otherwise-Abroad-959 YTA - they shouldn't feel entitled to your time or transportation but intentionally taking them to the airport as
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  • early as possible and expecting them to sit there all day is an a hole move. There should have been a lot more communication involved in the
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  • planning process but I would never want my friend to sit at the airport for hours so I could "rest"
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  • Worth-Season3645 NTA....He refuses to pay for a ride share? Oh no, no, no.
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  • Not only would I stick to my boundaries, I would also tell them you have fed them for the weekend and hosted them. They can figure out their own way to the airport.
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  • And it may be no big deal to them to stay at your home. Of course not. They think they are at a hotel. It is a big deal to you. And if I understand correctly, this trip did
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  • not even happen yet? It is for this summer? Well guess what? They just lost their free place to stay. No one abuses my hospitality and calls me an ahole.
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  • treehuggerfroglover "Keep in mind that I will have to take them to the airport or pay for ride share because he refuses to pay. I will also have to feed them"
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  • No you don't. You don't have to do any of that. And if you chose to I think it would be a mistake. Simply tell them you are offering a ride at 8am and they can take it or leave it. If
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  • they don't accept the ride you will be locking them out of your house promptly at 8am. They will not be welcomed back in at any point for any reason, and you will not be providing
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  • transportation past that time. They can decide if they want to pay for their own ride or just remain stranded in a city where they have no place to stay.
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  • Shouldn't change your plans at all either way. Edit: for everyone responding saying this is sooo r de and they wouldn't be my friends anymore
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  • after, that's kinda the point. My friends don't blatantly insult me and disrespect my time, effort, and money. If they did I wouldn't consider them friends. I wouldn't want them
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  • in my home. So you can stop responding that I'm a horrible person with no friends. I'm happy with my friends because they'd never do this.
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