Brother and sister track down their absent biological father, demanding to know why he never reached out, he claims he had no idea they even existed: ‘They don't believe me’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
May 12, 2025 10:00 AM EDT

Many kids, too many kids, grow up without ever knowing anything about one of their parents. They live their lives with one parent, who does everything in their power to never let their kids feel like they are missing out on anything by not growing up with two loving parents. Sometimes, that actually works, and the kids are happy with the family they were born into, and do not go looking for anything else. Other times, kids feel a strong need to find answers about the parent they never got to meet, and those answers are usually not easy to find.

If the parent who is there is willing to cooperate, it might not be so hard for the kids to find out more about the parent they 'lost'. But if cooperation is not on the table, it might take more time and effort from the kids to find answers, and those answers might not be what they were hoping for.

Take what happened in the story below as an example…

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  • The two children in this story wanted to know who their father was, so they tracked down potential men and started doing DNA tests. Eventually, they did find their biological father, but they refused to believe him when he told them he had no idea they even existed. 

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  • AITA for not having good answers for my newly discovered adult kids?

    In October of last year I learned I had fathered two kids when I was a teenager. DNA confirmed this in December of last year. I had no idea I had other kids, other
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  • than the kids I'm raising with my wife, out there. Their mother and I met when I was 15 and she was 16 and again when I was 17 and she was 18.
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  • She was visiting my friends family for a month both those summers and we hooked up. I wore cɔms every time but I clearly fed it up somewhere. She didn't tell me
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  • anything about having a kid when she came back. Neither did my friend. My friend only found out she had kids a few years ago.
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  • When my adult kids found me they had come after a long search. They'd DNA tested a few other guys and it took years for their mom to tell them about me. When they
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  • reached out to me they told me they had a lot of questions and I didn't have good answers for them. Not before or after the DNA test. All I could ever tell them was I had no idea they existed.
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  • They didn't believe me. They told me there was no way I knocked their mom up twice and didn't know either time. I explained everything to them. How she was someone I only
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  • met that first summer and how I didn't speak to her in between both summers. I told them I heard nothing from her after she left the second time. They pushed for me to know more, they had questions
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  • about why I didn't save for them, write to them, fight for them. They refuse to accept that I didn't know and they're mad at my lack of good answers. They told me I needed to do better for them. AITA?
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  • Malphas43 These are questions they need to be asking their mom
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  • Enough-Series6911 OP They won't talk to her about it because she lied to them repeatedly.
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  • Malphas43 then why can't they see that she lied to you and kept things from you. They are upset and are channeling everything at you because when they try with their mom she dodges. I truly feel sorry for them and for you.
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  • ThrowawayAdvice 1800 They won't talk to her about it because she lied to them repeatedly. She lies so constantly and relentlessly on this subject to her own children that they don't even bother asking her about it anymore, yet they refuse to accept the
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  • possibility that she wasn't completely honest with her summer fling as a teenager? I hate to be the one to tell you but your kids aren't very bright.
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  • Enough-Series6911 OP They refuse to believe me because others they tested with knew beforehand that there was a chance they were fathers. So they refuse to believe I didn't. I think they're just so desperate for answers that I can't give because the answer to all is because I had no idea they existed.
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  • Dinofams You told them the truth it is on them to believe you or not. Why they don't believe you but seem to believe the mom who has lied multiple times to them. To me your reasoning sounds likely especially if
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  • she never mentioned the first baby the second summer she was around. Why would you think she had a baby the second time you seen her If she didnt mention it? How were you to know? You can't be involved in lives you know nothing about.
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  • Enough-Series6911 OP My only guess is because some of the others they tested knew there was a chance they had fathered one or both of them so they wanted to believe I would've known.
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  • Any Commercial465 You need Independent testing and a lawyer. If they don't believe you then it's in them.
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  • thebaronobeefdip Get your own DNA test and don't just take them or the mom at their word.
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  • LadyFoxfire I mean, I don't believe you either, so I can't blame them.
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  • Enough-Series6911 OP Several are saying the same thing but I'm telling. the truth. I saw this girl for two summers. She didn't live anywhere near us and I never met her family. She was staying with my friends family. We didn't stay in touch and she never mentioned having a kid.
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