19-year-old turns down the advances of her aunt’s boyfriend’s son after he sends his little sister to ask for her number, and finds herself accused of destroying her aunt’s relationship: ’That same night, she said I didn't make a good impression’

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Etai Eshet • Editor
May 28, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

There's helping your aunt through hard times, and then there's being cast as the lead in a family-approved arranged match like you're an extra in a 1754 royal court drama—minus the crown jewels but with plenty of barking dogs. Somewhere between letting out her dogs and enduring small-town courting rituals, you've stumbled into a gathering where everyone else seems to think bloodlines and strategic pairings are still the currency of social stability.

Your aunt's boyfriend's son, with all the subtlety of a Habsburg family reunion, sends his little sister to negotiate the romantic treaty. When you politely decline her royal proposal for your number, you're suddenly branded a traitor to family unity, as if refusing to exchange digits has destabilized relations between two great houses. Within days, you're getting both glares and lectures—apparently, your lack of fealty to the throne next door has jeopardized your aunt's alliance, and now she's acting like you've set back dynastic ambitions for a generation

All it took was one polite rejection and suddenly you're the diplomatic scandal of the duchy, getting the cold shoulder from your aunt as if you'd turned down a prince and doomed the kingdom to years of political unrest. Next time you visit, maybe pack a ruffled collar and your best court curtsy—just in case the family expects you to attend the next council of suitors.

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  • "AITAH for rejecting my aunts boyfriends son?"

    'He told me that I was "not good enough for him," I just giggled❜
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  • I (19 F) have a aunt that lives in a another state than me. Lately I have been visiting her more than often because her mother (her and my mom have different
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  • moms) recently passed away. I have been helping with the chores and taking care of her pets. She has 2 dogs and 1 snake.
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  • Anyways a few weeks ago my younger sister (16 F) and I went over to visit her for about a week. During our visit we went to a local restaurant. It wasn't very full,
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  • probably about 2 other tables were full. They sat us next to 3 other people (a man that looked about my age, a girl that seemed 13, and a older man) As we sat |
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  • noticed the younger man staring at me. It made me very uncomfortable. Also I'd like to mention I didn't find him very attractive as well as at the time |
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  • was talking to someone. I soon needed to use the bathroom. I did my business and when I walked out of the stall the young girl walked in and smiled at me.
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  • As I washed my hands I heard her from the stall. She said "So are you from here?" And I said "No just visiting" she then told me that her older brother (the
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  • younger man) Wanted my number and had SENT HER to ask me. I politely declined. About 2 days later I let my aunts dogs outside to go to the bathroom.
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  • Her dogs are not very well trained so you have to watch them. My aunts neighbor was mowing the lawn. I didn't think much of it
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  • until they stopped and yelled at me. It was the younger man from the restaurant. He proceeded to shout at me that I was very disrespectful to his younger sister,
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  • and I should've just accepted his offer. He told me that I was "not good enough for him" and he has "tons of other chicks" I just giggled and brought the dogs
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  • back in. The rest of the day when he saw me he glared. That same night my aunt confronted me and told me that she was dating that same guys dad. She said I didn't make a good impression and I
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  • ruined her relationship. I said "Do you want me to date your boyfriends son?" She denied that and said that she wanted me to be more polite to him and his
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  • sister. I think I handled the situation well but she strongly disagrees. She hasn't been talking me for a few days now. I don't fully understand what I did wrong but am I the ah le?
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  • Accomplished-Emu NTA. No means no, especially when said to an especially aggressive male. Guess Auntie doesn't need any more help.
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  • Legal-Lingonberry NTA - this has nothing to do about being ride and nothing to do with your aunt's relationship. You just bruised his little ego when you rejected him and now he's all bot hurt. Poor baby.
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