'Divorcing my sister is the best option': Brother cuts contact with older sister after she demands that his wife divorce him, claiming they are not a good match

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Jun 16, 2025 3:00 PM EDT

When I get into serious relationships, it's highly important to be sure that not only do my parents approve of my new romantic partner, but that my sisters approve of him as well. My two sisters are my closest friends, and if they don't get along with the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, it will be a serious blow to the family dynamic. 

That being said, that connection is something that both sides have to work on. It's not just the boyfriend who has to make sure that he is approved by the siblings; the siblings also must work for it. If they simply decided whether or not they approve on a whim, it would be a lot harder for me to roll with whatever they decide. 

A good sibling would not only put in the work to like their siblings' romantic partners, but they would also recognize when those partners are making them happy, and support the relationship regardless, which is not something that can be said about the sister in the story below. She, extremely vocally, did not approve of her brother's wife, despite how happy she makes him.

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    Aita for removing my sister from my life after she asked my wife to divorce me

    My older sister doesnt like my wife she never did, she was against our marriage and she doesn't respect her or my marriage because she
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    either ignores my wife completely or taunts her and my wife tolerated her this whole time but later today my wife told me that my sister called her and she
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    asked her to divorce me cause she's not suitable for me. I went to my sister and asked her why would she
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    tell my wife to divorce me I said that I understand she doesn't like my wife and it's okay she doesn't have to but asking her to divorce me is going too far.
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    She says that my wife is controlling me and I have married her because of my insecurities and we aren't a good match when I told her that our families approves
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    that our families approves of our marriage then why is she against She said she's against because she cares about me
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    and my marriage and my wife is not good for me I said that I love my wife and I trust her and I don't think that I can find a better
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    woman for me and if she doesn't agree or respect my wife and our marriage then I am removing her out of my life and I'm speaking for both of us because my wife doesn't want to tolerate her anymore
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    My sister got emotional and she said that she is just trying to help me and I should listen to her and she is not my enemy and I'm her brother so she won't ruin me.
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    I feel bad for asking her permanent removal out of my life and I do love my sister but my wife comes first to me so I'm prioritising my future so amla hole?
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    Zealousideal_Rush583 NTA. Divorcing your sister is the best option.
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    Wonderful Phase 7375 OP Divorce my sister doesn't sound good but removal of her from our life is a must I think if now she's telling my wife to divorce me then maybe in future what else she would do or say?
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    My sister doesn't like my wife? Ok she doesn't want to talk to her and ignore her? Ok but why would she ask my wife to divorce me? If else she should have talked to me and told me to divorce my wife and I'm never doing that
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    johncate 73 NTA. Classic projection. SHE wants to control you, and is projecting that onto your wife. Tell sissy you will be divorcing her and keeping your wife.
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    Wonderful Phase 7375 OP What is she going to get by controlling me? This what I don't understand And yes I'm keeping my wife, keeping her in my life is my priority if I didn't want her in my life and she didn't want me in her life then we wouldn't marry each other and we are suitable for each other we think we couldn't have found a better partner
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    sweet_likee_honeyy NTA. She crossed a major line. You stood up for your marriage and set a boundary, nothing wrong with that. Love doesn't excuse disrespect.
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    Interesting Bake3824 YTA for even countenancing your sister being this mean to your wife for this long. You should have excommunicated her as soon as she made her feelings to your wife obvious
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    LyraSevonar NTA. Pretty hypocritical of your sister to accuse your wife of controlling you while she tries to control you. Tell your sister to mind her business and stay out of your marriage.
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    MyChoiceNotYours NTA but WHY does your sister believe your wife is controlling you? Has she given specific times or reasoning for her to believe this?
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