Brother ruins 60th birthday 5-star villa trip to France by inviting his “TikTok Star” son: ‘I cashed a small pension to have a real party. I asked him to cancel his invitation. He refused’

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Jun 21, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

Celebrating your sixtieth by splashing out on a French villa getaway sounds like the pinnacle of birthday celebrations, old school style. You worked hard for decades and now you can enjoy custom meals and private travel services that are all lined up, every comfort accounted for, and not a single detail left to chance. Of course, all that planning never quite prepares you for the inevitable family curveball. The guest list is supposed to be sacred, the itinerary flawless, the mood nothing short of magical. But then your brother steps in, rewriting the rules without warning and turning your dream trip into a slapstick comedy you never wanted to star in.

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    "My brother decided invite his son half way our trip. Didn't ask Just told he invited him"
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  • I recently had my 60th birthday and had planned for a year in advance a very special trip to the south of France. I cashed in a small pension to have a real blow
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  • out party think villa with a chef and butler, real 5 star service. I planned for and invited my partner, our kids and their wives plus I invited my brother and his
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  • wife. I added my brother as he'd done a lot for me in the past when our parents d d and I needed to crash at his house while we took care of my parents house and stuff. So I wanted to give him a great vacation on my dime. I told him that too
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  • The plans were made with everyone I invited in mind, likes/dislikes, food allergies/intolerances/preferences so every meal or outing would make everyone happy.
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  • I made sure the villa was special, each couple had their own room with a view and each had its own bathroom. No sharing, no one sleeping in the shared spaces, no pull out sofas etc. you get it - a real treat. No skimping
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  • I organised and paid for private experiences and meals at vineyards, water sports, boat trip, day tours with food and wine.
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  • The only thing I asked was we each, brother and I, drive so we had enough cars for the group. We are the only ones comfortable driving in another country, winding roads, different language signs etc. no problems.
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  • My brother is a great cook and he mostly takes over the kitchen. I don't mind and as his meals are always great, my partner was happy about it too. Although I did plan the meals and food
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  • shopping because some don't eat meat, a celiac and some dairy allergies The chef did breakfasts each day plus two special celebration meals I planned.
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  • First problem, he tried changing the meal schedule, wanting to go to a VERY expensive place that only serves meat. Wanted to tell my daughter in law to stay at the villa if she doesn't like meat! Lots
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  • of hard feelings that he couldn't understand why I didn't want to split the group or exclude people I invited! He said he'd pay, couldn't understand it wasn't about money.
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  • We were otherwise having a blast. Everyone getting on well in my family as first vacation we all had together. I cannot tell you how happy I was I could do this for my family. Experiences like we never had before and truthfully won't again as no expense spared - but I did actually stick to a generous budget.
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  • Instead of relaxing with vineyard tours and peaceful meals, you end up fielding an uninvited guest with the confidence of a social media celebrity and the volume of a jet engine. Careful arrangements unravel as cars are stranded, prepaid experiences are missed, and every quiet corner of the villa becomes a film set. Your patience gets stretched further with every loud story, every awkward disruption, and every moment your plans get hijacked for online content nobody in your family wants to see.

  • Problem was my brother decided to invite his son half way in to our trip. Didn't ask me. Just told me he invited his son. None of my family have seen my nephew it at least 10 years. He's a supposed big TikTok star and a real a, up himself, loud, ride, crude and a
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  • misogynist. We do NOT follow his socials as they're disgusting and not anything we stand for. My daughter in laws particularly cannot stand how he talks about women and the things he does.
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  • I asked my brother to cancel his invitation as soon as I found out, telling him that he didn't ask me and I was not ok with it, that I planned this trip as my special, once in my life time, blow out birthday celebration. He refused said he wanted his son in a family
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  • trip. (He has two sons but the other has a regular job so couldn't just get vacation at the drop of a hat.). I planned this trip over a year! I never invited his (adult) kids
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  • I also said I had a contract for the house and I cannot just bring extra people in. He didn't care. Didn't care about my contract or hefty cash deposit I paid! Nephew slept in their room on a mattress on the floor. No way was I taking up the main living room as a room for his kid.
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  • Well, my brother took off with his wife in the other car to go get his kid from the airport, out for most of the day, stranding us at the house, making us miss a pre paid private vineyard tour and meal as we were out a car. We couldn't get a last minute uber to our rural villa. Really pred me and the
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  • group iff. Wasted a ton of money! I had to cancel the remaining outings that required we drive as we no longer had enough cars for the group. Dude is huge, takes steroids to bulk up so no way could we fit him in a small car with 4 other adults. We were 8 adults before he came along.
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  • The rest of the trip had this loud kid filming everything so we couldn't go in areas he was filming, be quiet while he's making "content", making every discussion about him or his supposed "famous" friends none of us knew about (or care) as we
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  • don't follow his crop type of social media not following his views on guns, politics, crude lifestyle. He's just so fng loud too. You couldn't escape him. You get it. p So AITA to be angry, like really ed off, with my brother for inviting his son? For feeling he ruined the special trip?
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  • Note- my family had such a great start to the trip, we've agreed to go on vacation together next summer but my kids and partner told me no way to tell my brother. They don't want him to crash it.
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  • You can budget for fine wine and exclusive tours, but there is no way to anticipate a relative treating your once-in-a-lifetime celebration like a backdrop for their personal brand.

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