‘I loaned them money twice… they haven't paid a dollar back’: Entitled parents shame 22-year-old daughter for buying her boyfriend an expensive birthday gift, insist she could've given them the money for bills instead

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Jun 24, 2025 2:00 PM EDT

Parents are supposed to provide for their children, even if the budget is tight. Their children didn't ask to be born into this world, so it's only right that you make their lives a bit easier while they're figuring out how to exist as a person. Yes, finances are turbulent. However, part of being a parent is providing. So, if any parent thinks that their kid should be providing for them before their child blows out the candles on their 18th birthday, you might not be cut out to take care of another human being. Kids are not servants—they are kids. Disallowing them to exist as such will just make your relationship with them worsen down the line.

This is happening in the next story you're about to read. Of course, teaching your kids financial literacy is important. But, expecting your child to give you money for bills and other household needs as you see fit is a stretch for any kid. Or, telling them they can't spend their own money as they see fit. Pocket-watching your children is… a choice, to say the least.

Scroll below to see how the story unfolds. We're team 22-year-old this time.

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  • "AITA for giving an expensive gift to my boyfriend when that money could have helped with my parent's bills."

    1(22f) started working when I was 16 because my parents told me that they wont be spending any money on me and that i had to pay for myself so I did. I juggled
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  • school and my job and when I turned 18 they asked me to find a new place to live (I wasnt even in college yet). If not for my bf and his family I would have ended up
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  • homeless but luckily I didnt. They even loaned me some money for my college related expenses once I got in I started a freelancing business to pay for my own bills and sometimes even helped my bf's family out.
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  • About 7 months ago my parents lost a lot of money when their restaurant went bankrupt I loaned them money twice to help them cope with it even though I didnt want to and they havent paid a dollar back.
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  • My bf birthday was coming up so I started saving for that since I wanted to gift him a watch he has been wanting for a while so when
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  • my parents asked for money again I lied and told them I dont have the money they want and made some excuse about college expenses...they bought it.
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  • A week back my bf birthday came and I gifted him the watch he was overjoyed so much so he posted it on all his socials and my
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  • parents saw it then they asked him how much it costed he told them and the next day they call me first talking sarcastically then going haywire and saying "you
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  • prioritized a random boy over your own family" and more. I gently reminded them how they told me at 16 that I shouldnt expect any money from them and
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  • them being adults should also su and not expect any money from me. They continued their rant after awhile I got tired and gave them an ultimatum that
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  • either s u and never contact me again or pay me back the money I have already given them else I will pursue the legal route to recover it, this scared them off enough to not contact me directly.
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  • Now my brother called me asking to discuss "important matters" over dinner I agreed (dumb mistake) when I went there he also started a rant about how
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  • unfair and disrespectful I was being to our parents and whatnot. I ignored every word he said and simply left. Yesterday
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  • my parents dmed a pic of their outstanding electricity bill and wrote that if they dont pay this, they will lose their electricity, I simply ignored.
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  • btw almost forgot to add this but they paid for my brother's education and college fully since they dont believe girls should go to college. so AITA?
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  • Eragon-19 ΝΤΑ It sounds like your boyfriends family is more family than the people that gave birth to you. Even under normal circumstances, you wouldn't owe your (birth) parents anything unless you were actively living with them (and even then it would be iffy). Your brother can foot your (birth) parents bill if they're that desperate.
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  • Miserable_Smoke585 Why is the golden boy not helping? NTA.
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  • DemureDamsel122 ...why is your brother not supporting them? Seems like since he was the child they invested in then he should be well-positioned to express his gratitude now by assisting them in their time of need. NTA
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  • Eastern Condition863 NTA, "You all cutting me off financially at 16 is why I am the strong, independent person I am today, so I'm gifting you the same treatment so you can turn out as amazing as I did. You're welcome."
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