Woman backs out of group mountain trip when entitled friend Jay changes Airbnb and assigns an air mattress as her bed: ‘Alex and Sam seemed to understand, but Jay got annoyed’

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Etai Eshet • Editor
Jul 13, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

Group vacations always start with optimism and end with someone clinging to an inflatable mattress, wondering if friendship is really worth spinal compression. In this case, our protagonist is the only one with a driver's license, a job waiting on Monday, and apparently, the last shred of reason left in her friend group. All she wanted was some mountain air and a normal bed. Instead, she landed right in the middle of a logistical circus.

At first, the plan looked solid. Two rooms, everyone gets a real bed, and the dream of adult travel almost came true. But then, Jay decided a pool was nonnegotiable. Suddenly, a perfectly good Airbnb slipped through their fingers and they were left with a mess: one bedroom, a pull out, an air mattress, and four people with wildly different priorities. 

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  • I (27F) and three friends made a last minute plan to go to the mountains this weekend. Our group is a couple, let's call them Jay (27F) and Sam (32F) and two single friends, me and Alex (26M).
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  • We actually found a good Airbnb at first. It had two bedrooms, one with a king bed, and one with two single beds. Alex and I were totally fine sharing the second
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  • room as long as we had our own bed. But Jay kept saying that she wanted a pool. This is a short, two day trip and we're staying just one night. I really didn't see why a
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  • pool was a big deal. We kept going back and forth trying to decide and the place got booked by someone else. After that, the
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  • only places we could find had just one bedroom, a pull out couch, and an air mattress. Alex is recovering from an injury, so of
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  • course he shouldn't be on the air mattress. The couple immediately said they wanted the bedroom, but they're not offering to pay more for it. That leaves me with the air mattress.
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  • Jay and Sam both don't have a driver's license, and Alex can't drive right now because of his injury. So I'm the only one who
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  • can drive us there and back. On top of that, I'm also the only one who has to work on Monday. I really don't want to be the one driving for hours, sleeping on an
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  • The couple grabbed the only comfortable bed and never considered chipping in extra. Alex got medical sympathy, leaving our main character alone in the race for dignity.

    When reality set in, she backed out. No one wants to drive everyone up a mountain, sleep on an air mattress, then show up to work exhausted, just to avoid being labeled the “party pooper.” Strangely, her friends were quick to act betrayed, forgetting who was holding the keys to their fun all along.

    The only thing she ruined was the expectation that someone should suffer for everyone else’s pleasure.

  • air mattress, and then dragging myself to work the next day all tired and sore. I genuinely hate sleeping on an air mattress! I always sleep like sh and it just hurts my neck.
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  • So, I told them I was backing out. I told them that if they really want to do a trip like this, they need to plan it better so that everyone is
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  • comfortable. Alex and Sam seemed to understand, but Jay got annoyed. She said I was being a party pooper, that I was being selfish, and that I was ruining the
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  • weekend. She told me I should just adjust so we could all have fun. For a moment, I really did think I was overreacting cause it's just one night, and going to the mountains would be super fun.
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  • But honestly, it doesn't feel fair that I have the worst sleeping arrangement, and still get labeled as the problem.
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  • Snackinpenguin Thats legit . Everyone pays the same price but you get the worst bed option and are the designated driver? Nah. They're just mad because they can't do any of this without you, but not appreciating the extra effort on your part. NTA.
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  • jrm1102 NTA - perfectly reasonable to want an actual bed when youre paying for it
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  • seagull321 Jay ruined the plans. Remind her you all had beds before she demanded a pool. You were clear from the beginning about wanting a bed. NTAH
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